For me it depends on the context. If a partner felt there were problems in our relationship and didn't or wouldn't talk to me about them but chose cheating instead I'd walk away, it would mean that our relationship had failed. |
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It sometimes depends upon the level of control that the cheater has over the other person.
Cheats often have self obsessed and narcissistic personalities which can manifest in other forms of piss poor behaviour towards others such as verbal and physical abuse and the classic gas lighting “I only did it because you don’t give me what I need”
What goes around comes around though hopefully. |
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "
Evidence?
Cheats are cheats.
Only twats cheer someone else’s misery. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "
They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag. |
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it
Evidence?
Cheats are cheats.
Only twats cheer someone else’s misery. "
I've seen a number of threads over the years on the fab forums where female cheaters have been treated exactly the same as male cheaters.
However when there's 100 single males to every single female or couple then it's obvious that male cheats are going to be called out far more, by a factor of 100.
It's wrong, the worst are those who justify it by saying they cheat and lie so they can stay together for the sake of the kids. There's nothing more toxic and devastating than cheating and been ultimately been found out causing untold mental damage to your children.
As someone who works with teenagers who have been devastated by growing up in cheating households the damage to those children can be life long.
Kids are not daft, they see, sense and understand far more than many parents realise. When you only stay a toxic / dead / cheating relationship just for the sake of the children those kids work that out and feel the pain of that burden. They know that one or both parents unhappiness and misery is been compounded for their sake. The damaged caused follows those kids into adulthood, leading to trust and relationship issues in thier lives because of the environment they grew up in.
It's much better and fairer for all parties when both parents split up allowing them both a chance of happiness and work as adults to co parent the children.
2 separated but happy parents sharing parental responsibility is a million times better than 2 parents staying together in a toxic cheating relationship "for the sake of the children" what a truly horrible burden to pass on.
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it
They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag."
I've never let that stop me, I've been abused by a forumite. If they went to the trouble of getting in my face then they weren't interested in the first place. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it
They don't get ripped into as much that's true ,but thats because many men won't slate them in a forum cos they're less likely to get a shag.
I've never let that stop me, I've been abused by a forumite. If they went to the trouble of getting in my face then they weren't interested in the first place."
There's no need for anyone to be abusive to others ,I hope you reported them . |
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I sometimes wonder if only everything was as black and white as reading what people write. If life was that easy where we could make assumptions and class it as what we believe it to be and believe in ourselves so much that it then becomes facts |
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I’ve put up with repeated cheating in the past, but I’d like to think I wouldn’t again. A relationship isn’t worth shit once someone has cheated IMO. So you may aswell cut loose straight away.
If they respected you they wouldn’t cheat. And you can’t have a worthwhile relationship with someone who doesn’t respect you. |
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If your both in to swinging then why cheat ?? We as a couple have all the ground rules sorted out .. i male half can go any where i want and do what ever i like a long as i don't play on my own doorstep or with any one we know .. but i choose not to meet any one ..
My wife only plays when we've arranged meets from here and 99% were together .
It batters my head when guys are looking for married wife to play solo with it there hubby's knowledge .. what's even worse is when we're on a meet and the guy will whisper to the wife .. can we meet some next time .. ffs them guys are scum ..
Once a cheat . Always a cheat . Never to be trusted again in my opinion . |
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it "
Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet. |
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it
Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet."
I have to call bollocks on that one. Both sexes are just as bad |
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"It sometimes depends upon the level of control that the cheater has over the other person.
Cheats often have self obsessed and narcissistic personalities which can manifest in other forms of piss poor behaviour towards others such as verbal and physical abuse and the classic gas lighting “I only did it because you don’t give me what I need”
What goes around comes around though hopefully. "
That might be case lots times but I had affair married lady that was treated badly by husband put down all time your old your fat your passed it etc. We chatted year or so after affair stopped parted very good terms. She said knowing she was still fancied wanted gave her confidence to stand upto him. When he found out she was capable of leaving he and was about to he had shock he needed still together but he's changed way he speaks etc |
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"Find it amusing tho that on hear guys who are in a relationship and effectively cheering get blasted but female who do same just get away with it
Big difference being women often don't want to get involved in a cheating relationship, where as a large percentage of men on here are either cheating themselves anyway or happy with whatever as long as they are getting their dick wet.
I have to call bollocks on that one. Both sexes are just as bad"
Nope. Correct that both cheat but the majority of guys on here wouldn't care whether someone was attached or not as long as they got laid. Women on a whole on here definitely have stronger morals. |
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