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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi I'm Alfa_Romeo, single male who is finding it very tough to attract any interest. I'm told it is very hard for single males but I've followed through a number of couples & females verfications of any encounters they have had with single males & I find that these lucky fellows are having regular & successful meets, in some cases two, three & four in a week!!! I can't seem to get a sniff, though I've been chatting to numerous couples & serveral females, in some cases for weeks I can't seem to get a commitment towards a meet... What are these lucky single males doing that I'm not???? Any tips or advise would be welcome... I'm getting very frustrated & feel that I'm missing out on so much fun... I look forward to some feedback, critical, constuctive & positive... I can take it!!! lol Thanks, Steve |
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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Hi Alfa, seen your double post so will try to give you an honest answer without sounding overly critical.
A few home truths one has to accept:
1) Single males outnumber couples 20:1
2) Consider the couples that aren't looking for single males (or any males at all) and that number goes to 40:1
3) Single males outnumber single fems 50:1
4) Consider the females that aren't looking for males. yup.. increase to at least 75:1.
5) A lot of the males on here have made things really hard for others, hence a small fraction of legitimate, non-pushy, trustworthy, worth-meeting single males about.
6) Most of these legitimate males avoid (negative) attention by starting threads on how difficult thigns are for them to get a meet.
7) Bearing in mind you say you've been on since September, that's only 2 months (Hint: it took me over a year on FabS to get my first meet.. and I had to travel from London to Scotland for that, no complaints though - took another year to get a meet with another Londoner. Figure that out!), the trick is to be patient if you're doing all the right things.
8) Do the right things and make the right noises: Join in the forum discussions and banter (don't need all of them, but some of the ones you feel you have a worthy opinion), jump in the chatroom and introduce yourself and engage in the chat (PS: "Show us your tits" or "Add me to your friend's list" is not engaging in chat).
9) When addressing/engaging couples, be sure to remember its both of them there, so avoid ignoring either party (inasmuch as its easy to focus on the female and pay no attention to the male)
10) Try looking out for socials on events and putting your name down (and turn up, or make contact and offer apologies to the organiser with sufficient notice if your plans change and you're no longer able to attend!).
I'm not saying this is a crib-sheet to guarantee success, but its a guide.
Good luck with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Looking at your profile,looks like you have had a couple good meets..So not all bad lol
We find verified guys have more success in having meets,peoples tend to take you more seriously.
Couples have trouble arranging meets sometimes too lol
Good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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agree with no 10 of _habs dos and donts. always best to go to a social that way people get to know ya and you can take it from there hopefully xxx best of luck anyways x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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right are we going for the sympathy thing here .......im a women yes yes surprise and speaking from expereince fing it very hard to find a genuine single male on here so we ......we being a single female air on the side of caution when answering messages ...erm not after a blazing row just my opinion  |
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Forgive me if I am wrong, but reading that you cannot accom and have photos with a wardrobe containing ladies clothes in it (didn't see cross dressing in you interests so assume they aren't yours) would make me think that you are attached??
It may be possible that other people have noticed this too.
xAx |
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the stupid joke about the pics at the top of the profile, the building up the tension with text and phone calls, the spending hours on the g spot, and the above mentioned things by the scottish detectives, (well spotted guys) all of these would put us off, hope you take this advice in spirit it is given, you did ask lol, good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Take your time, dude. I was on here for a few months and didn't get anywhere. Be nice and put thought into your mails. Be selective on who you mail (if a lady or couples profile says they don't meet single men, don't mail, what's the point?) I agree with using the forums, it gets you noticed but use the chat room too. It is an awful loy quicker making contact with people and you know where you are straight away. Plus, sometimes if you chat up the ladies right they might make and exception? (Sometimes they do and, boy, don't it feel good to be the special one? lol). Don't be pushy though. Like the hard sell when buying a car? Don't expect the same aproachto work on the ladies either
I disagree with the critisism about posting here, though, how are you gonna get anywhere without asking for help?
Hang on in there, you have some verifications which say nice things, I am sure you will get more meets in time. |
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