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Advice - Girl only meets for female half of couple
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By *edplusone OP Couple
over a year ago
West Midlands |
Lately our female half has been interested in meeting ladies on her own for coffee, friendship, flirting and maybe more. Obviously there are safety concerns as we notice a lot of fake female profiles, or if it’s a couples account then it could be the male half talking. And we understand that concern goes both ways.
Any advice from people who are into this?
If comments could be restricted to women only that would be great thank you x |
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By *edplusone OP Couple
over a year ago
West Midlands |
"You could meet as two couples first then the ladies meet alone. I only meet women, if it is a lady from a couple I always meet for a social first. "
That’s a good idea, decent way to vet the male half as well. Thank you. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
She does exactly what she did before she met you.
Meet in a public place. Take her own transport. Have a friend on the end of a phone that she can call if she’s worried. Make sure someone knows where she’s going to be and what time she’s going to be home, and check in if she’s late. Consider a safe call fifteen minutes after meeting time so you know she is there safely.
But, and I say this as gently as I can.
She’s a grown ass adult and she can navigate this fine without you. If she’s dating people other than you, that puts her in charge of her own safety. Your job is to make sure she has the confidence she needs to stand up for herself, make good choices and come home to you happy. That’s it. She’ll be fine.
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"Depending on where you are there are women only play parties and events. I know of a few in London. "
Can you give a few pointers please? (Inbox me if this is too OT).
Well OP fake women don't meet so you're safe from that  Approach in the same way you vet your couples, it's easy enough to tell when something is not quite adding up. Block unverified accounts, chances are too low there's a woman involved to make them worth the trouble. I think your main challenge would be to find a woman you fancy/get on with who is willing to meet one-on-one. On my single account most single women didn't want to meet me on my own but were happy to if they could bring along their bf/ fwb/ handler, perhaps because I was open to meeting couples, so if you set a single fem account for yourself (which perhaps you should, as there are women you can't see and can't see you cos they're not into couples) make sure you keep that off the table.
However these women were always pretty forward about their intentions - the only time I've had a woman spring a partner on me was way back when and not through fab. In any case, a daytime social in public is not that dangerous at all. I've never ever had a woman arrange to meet with me and cancel or ghost, and I've never had a man show up instead of a woman. But I've only met four fab-sourced women in a decade (and I'm not totally sure about the fourth one, might have been from a dating site!) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Depending on where you are there are women only play parties and events. I know of a few in London.
Can you give a few pointers please? (Inbox me if this is too OT).
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Three I know of are One Night Parties, which is help regularly; the Fox Den occasionally has women & femme only parties; and Dominium Vita has held one women & femme only party. You can look them all up on Instagram! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Depending on where you are there are women only play parties and events. I know of a few in London.
Can you give a few pointers please? (Inbox me if this is too OT).
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Three I know of are One Night Parties, which is help regularly; the Fox Den occasionally has women & femme only parties; and Dominium Vita has held one women & femme only party. You can look them all up on Instagram! |
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"She does exactly what she did before she met you.
Meet in a public place. Take her own transport. Have a friend on the end of a phone that she can call if she’s worried. Make sure someone knows where she’s going to be and what time she’s going to be home, and check in if she’s late. Consider a safe call fifteen minutes after meeting time so you know she is there safely.
But, and I say this as gently as I can.
She’s a grown ass adult and she can navigate this fine without you. If she’s dating people other than you, that puts her in charge of her own safety. Your job is to make sure she has the confidence she needs to stand up for herself, make good choices and come home to you happy. That’s it. She’ll be fine.
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Love this! |
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"Depending on where you are there are women only play parties and events. I know of a few in London.
Can you give a few pointers please? (Inbox me if this is too OT).
Three I know of are One Night Parties, which is help regularly; the Fox Den occasionally has women & femme only parties; and Dominium Vita has held one women & femme only party. You can look them all up on Instagram! "
Thank you very much! I will look them up. Instagram eh? I knew it was time to move on from teletext  |
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