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Should a single guy attend a club?
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So I think I posted this earlier in the wrong thread. Sorry
Hey everyone, so I've been trying, (with zero success) to meet with either couple or lady through messages, however I'm getting really zero responses. And very disheartened. I'm always Polite and respectful on my message, no crazy, odd stuff, but just feel I'm wasting my membership now.
So my solution I think is to attend a club, and Abfabs at Heathrow is the closest.
So my question is,
Would it be worth a clean respectful single guy attending a club? Or would I just be white noise amongst the couple's and ladies? I'm outgoing and chatty, happy to talk to anyone, but am super nervous about being a spare part In this environment?
I'm looking at trying to book in to the Event on the 9th of December, so if anyone would take me under their wing and help me not feel like a lemon, I promise there will be a glass or two of something fizzy
Any advice would be fantastic and much appreciated.
Jay x |
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Slightly confused. Your profile states you've been on before and had loads of meets and now after this profile being live for 3 months you are now needing advice? What did you do before to have these meets? |
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"Slightly confused. Your profile states you've been on before and had loads of meets and now after this profile being live for 3 months you are now needing advice? What did you do before to have these meets?"
A very good question, thank you for asking. So on previous visits to Fab, I have indeed met with couples and ladies however this was a good number of years ago, back when I used to be in the Gym 5 times a week, sometimes twice a day and had the body to show for it, meets were easier back then, where as now, many moons later, dad bod and the years aren't an instant appeal I think. Also I genuinely have never been to a club, and am nervous about it.
As you will have seen from my profile, I only have the one verif, so I'm being completely truthful.
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Clubs are great for us single guys ,I regularly go to chameleons, and never feel like a spare part ,always had fun when I've been there ,and fab is great aswell have met some amazing people on hear and had mind blowing experiences, all I can advise is just be yourself, don't be cocky about the whole shall we shag then thing ,wait for them to ask you , |
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over a year ago
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AnFab is a nice friendly club but can get a bit single guy heavy which is obviously great for couples, like us that go to meet single guys.
I’d say the majority of those single guys though are the watch and hope sort so if you’re outgoing and chatty people should respond positively.
You can’t have your phone out so we always recommend making some cards or slips of paper with your fab name to hand out to people you connect with. |
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"AnFab is a nice friendly club but can get a bit single guy heavy which is obviously great for couples, like us that go to meet single guys.
I’d say the majority of those single guys though are the watch and hope sort so if you’re outgoing and chatty people should respond positively.
You can’t have your phone out so we always recommend making some cards or slips of paper with your fab name to hand out to people you connect with. "
Oh that's a great idea, thank you, I'll do that |
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"Clubs are great for us single guys ,I regularly go to chameleons, and never feel like a spare part ,always had fun when I've been there ,and fab is great aswell have met some amazing people on hear and had mind blowing experiences, all I can advise is just be yourself, don't be cocky about the whole shall we shag then thing ,wait for them to ask you ,"
Sound advice, thank you. And the "shall we shag" thing is definitely not my style, I was brought up better than that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I think I posted this earlier in the wrong thread. Sorry
Hey everyone, so I've been trying, (with zero success) to meet with either couple or lady through messages, however I'm getting really zero responses. And very disheartened. I'm always Polite and respectful on my message, no crazy, odd stuff, but just feel I'm wasting my membership now.
So my solution I think is to attend a club, and Abfabs at Heathrow is the closest.
So my question is,
Would it be worth a clean respectful single guy attending a club? Or would I just be white noise amongst the couple's and ladies? I'm outgoing and chatty, happy to talk to anyone, but am super nervous about being a spare part In this environment?
I'm looking at trying to book in to the Event on the 9th of December, so if anyone would take me under their wing and help me not feel like a lemon, I promise there will be a glass or two of something fizzy
Any advice would be fantastic and much appreciated.
Jay x"
We've only had fun with single guys in a club, single males are 10 a penny on here (harsh but true) and without meeting them in person it's hard for us to know if we'd like them..
Definitely meeting in the flesh is the way to go for us .
Definitely go, be yourself don't expect anything but definitely talk to people, the single guys that got lucky with us introduced themselves and we're polite and we'll reciprocate those manners. don't just sit there looking at your drink, be confident but not overly...
Might not be the same for others but this is our advice/take on it  |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"Slightly confused. Your profile states you've been on before and had loads of meets and now after this profile being live for 3 months you are now needing advice? What did you do before to have these meets?
A very good question, thank you for asking. So on previous visits to Fab, I have indeed met with couples and ladies however this was a good number of years ago, back when I used to be in the Gym 5 times a week, sometimes twice a day and had the body to show for it, meets were easier back then, where as now, many moons later, dad bod and the years aren't an instant appeal I think. Also I genuinely have never been to a club, and am nervous about it.
As you will have seen from my profile, I only have the one verif, so I'm being completely truthful.
Thank you for commenting though "
It’s likely not that your age and dad bod puts people off. I think perhaps its more that swinging has changed - there’s a lot of timewasters out there - and clubs feel easier and safer? I know a lot of people who are club meets only now. |
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Single guys are an important part of Club life (especially decent, respectful guys).
Yep definitely clubs are the way forward. Especially if you respectful, chatty and outgoing. You need an element of being able to put yourself forward as generally people won't just come pick you up off the shelf if you just sit there quietly. Personally my first club visit was a massive spring board into this scene.
As for a spare part feeling I can't promise you success. Just like on here it is difficult and dependent on who is there on the day. However if you are friendly, respectful and sociable then your chances of being a spare part reduce massively. Also if you have a great feel for the mood of the room and timing that helps too (and improves with experience). I find meeting in real life has a great advantage over the online world. At clubs you and quickly gauge a connection in a way you can't online. You can quickly tell if they are for you and likewise you for them. In my experience profiles don't often represent people well.
And with regards to all of the above the selection of the right club, night/party and time can make a huge difference to your experience too. So that choice is also important to.
My advise is just go, try it and see. And even if your not convinced go, try and see another time to too because not all clubs are the same or are all days/time. There is always an element of luck for everyone as to who attends when they go and what the vibe is like. |
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By *BW.EvaWoman
over a year ago
Carrington, Manchester |
I find that single guys are important in club life. I go as a single female, and I always want the attention of single guys. But I am not afraid to approach them myself.
But the socialising aspect is good as well, as you get to know what are the good nights to attend etc |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"What if the single guy is married and playing without permission?"
If I know someone’s cheating, I won’t play with them. I don’t bother asking, though, so many people have lied to me about it. |
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"What if the single guy is married and playing without permission?"
That's a problem for their conscience not mine.
To the OP, yes absolutely single men have a place in clubs. It's my preferred way of meeting guys. Just don't be a zombie wanker and you will be absolutely fine |
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Single man at clubs on the right day are awesome. There's still selective picking and getting to know a guy but at least your 'hello' will get a reply, in all likelihood.
Pics a club with the right pricing and services for your use in the longer term, as it will take some time to get established. Obviously most are major expenditures for men, so the most local man not be the ideal choice.
And never expect anything other than to use the facilities. |
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"What if the single guy is married and playing without permission?
That's a problem for their conscience not mine.
To the OP, yes absolutely single men have a place in clubs. It's my preferred way of meeting guys. Just don't be a zombie wanker and you will be absolutely fine "
More of this please.
As for talk of wedding rings, nothing makes me happier than seeing a woman slip her wedding ring onto the middle finger in front of me during conversation, whether in a club or not!
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As for talk of wedding rings, nothing makes me happier than seeing a woman slip her wedding ring onto the middle finger in front of me during conversation, whether in a club or not!
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...even her little finger, if I've got the right friend with me! |
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