"Anything unusual, i.e. not your typical Penis in Vagina penetration using a standard position."
Yes, beginning with the very mild. We've done the ol' blindfolds, simple bondage, whips, double ended dildo, dp, dv, fisting etc yet some want much more... |
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Honestly I hate it when a guy asks if I’m “kinky” because you just know he has an idea in his mind that’s not yours.
I like some things that are kinky, but I’m not into BDSM type kink which is what I think a lot of guys assume. |
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"Prefer to reframe the discussion around limits, that seems to move the conversation away from subjective terms to something that both parties understand. "
Yes one way of handling the conversation. One lady wanted us to degrade and humiliate her. Not our thing at all ! |
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"Honestly I hate it when a guy asks if I’m “kinky” because you just know he has an idea in his mind that’s not yours.
I like some things that are kinky, but I’m not into BDSM type kink which is what I think a lot of guys assume. "
Absolutely, got to be careful out there ! |
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"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ?  "
You hit the nail on the head. I've had partners for whom kinky was my plain vanilla. I would like to be filmed though, that would make anything kinkier for me. |
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"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ?
You hit the nail on the head. I've had partners for whom kinky was my plain vanilla. I would like to be filmed though, that would make anything kinkier for me."
Been there, was a real passion killer. Bright lights, others watching, her partner with video camera on a stand  ... We'd much prefer low lighting, candles, comfy and warm environment then watch out ! Lol. We have done the odd short video with others in the heat of the moment, good memories. One couple wanted ff play with Cherry videoing for her absent partner, I wasn't allowed to join in, so frustrating  |
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"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!"
There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain. |
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"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!
There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain. "
That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!
I answered the question, as in what it means to us  |
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"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!
There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain.
That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!
I answered the question, as in what it means to us "
True, sorry if I misinterpreted!! |
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"Kinky to us involves "kinks" or fetishes. Anything related to BDSM!
There are definitely non-BDSM related kinks like exhibitionism / voyeurism. I guess some of mine are very tangentially related to BDSM, like sugaring, but I am loath to say I’m into BDSM because I dint want men thinking I’m a stereotypical “dom” in heels/leather/chains, wielding a whip and dishing out humiliation or pain.
That's understandable, lots of people throw the terms around and think it just means doing whatever you like with someone!
I answered the question, as in what it means to us
True, sorry if I misinterpreted!! "
I am extremely good at coming across poorly, don't you worry Xeno |
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One man's vanilla is another man's kink.
It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.
Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer. |
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"One man's vanilla is another man's kink.
It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.
Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer. "
This is a super important point actually. Due to my previous health condition which still sometimes rears its head, things like fisting would be something I avoid. Penetration size isn't something I'd be experimenting with in a swinging capacity, whearas a lot of folks would probably immediately assume someone wants to go big or go home!  |
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"One man's vanilla is another man's kink.
It's a scale imo. Some people feel anal fisting is a usual Tuesday morning. Where as some people think sex with the lights on is bold.
Better to be upfront about what your looking for. Messages like how kinky are you bug me because there is no easy answer. "
Exactly . Shame when your chatting with someone, everything looks perfect and you want to meet, then a bombshell is then thrown in |
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"We all have different ideas of what 'kinky sex' entails but what do you consider 'kinky' ? "
We always try and make clear from the start what stuff we’re into. We make a point of never kink shaming someone, we’d just say not for us |
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By *edgirlWoman
over a year ago
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I list a few of the kinky things I love on my profile. Maybe you can add things as you discover them?
The list of 'interests' on here is limited when it comes to adding kinks but if someone has SM or spanking listed, it tends to mean they're kinky (as opposed to into hardcore S&M). That might help you find likeminded people. Have fun!! X |
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