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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain"
I think a lot of men join with hope which is often dashed. Obviously I don't know exactly what your hopes were and I can understand it's disappointing that they weren't met.
I think it's probably a case of readjusting your expectations, possibly sticking around in the forums bit while accepting that a meet might not happen for a while.
Good luck anyway  |
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What were you expecting?
Your profile suggests you want a girlfriend without commitment who is a kinky skilled nympho gym bunny and also looking for a lesbian couple?!
What do YOU have to offer a woman? There is nothing at all about why a woman should take a chance on you on your profile.
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Your chances of a meet are miniscule. I've been on about 13 years and only had one meet and that was 7 years ago. Nothing since then but loads of let downs from women and stabbed in the back. You might get something eventually,but have to realise it's an almost impossible uphill struggle |
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"Your just one of thousands of single men all wanting sex. Not sure what you expected"
Ahmmm so are the women in here trying to get donations for a charity or something ? i know the ratio is totally off in here lol but you never know .. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic."
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .. |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain
I think a lot of men join with hope which is often dashed. Obviously I don't know exactly what your hopes were and I can understand it's disappointing that they weren't met.
I think it's probably a case of readjusting your expectations, possibly sticking around in the forums bit while accepting that a meet might not happen for a while.
Good luck anyway "
I’am a simple man with basic hopes lol , it wasn’t something out of a fiction book but then here i am .Thank you for your supporting words . |
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"Your just one of thousands of single men all wanting sex. Not sure what you expected
Ahmmm so are the women in here trying to get donations for a charity or something ? i know the ratio is totally off in here lol but you never know .. "
"All wanting sex" is the key part there to be honest - someone has to find a guy suitable first, it's not a matter of slotting all the thousands of sausages into any hole available  |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
I mean, you want gym-fit women with curves, kinky AND submissive, obedient and willing to commit. Fair play to you, you know what you want, but you’re not actually putting much work in to sell yourself. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .."
Yeah but...why would we want it with you? |
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Just reading as above there lots of people on this site and some of the texts my god so sad yes we all hear for the same thing
But we like all kinds of different things fir me I don't get alot of time so if i going to meet someone for a social drink and if I like happy days but because of lots of time waste people I started going to a club never looked back so maybe look that up hope that helps. |
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"Sadly a lot of men join and think swinger = fucks anybody that asks.
Also for every 1 woman or couple on here, there are about 100 men. "
Yes It's the way men speak to me i find super off putting. I think even a call girl gets better treatment and gets paid. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .."
Only if they are the right guy but alot of men don't want regular meets. They seem to want NSA sex which to me doesn't come with long term partners |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .."
And what do YOU have to offer that makes you stand out above the hundreds of other men on here? |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain"
Ah so those were all of your hopes landing next to mine at the bottom of the drain, heard an almighty thud too and did wonder what it was |
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"Your just one of thousands of single men all wanting sex. Not sure what you expected
Ahmmm so are the women in here trying to get donations for a charity or something ? i know the ratio is totally off in here lol but you never know ..
"All wanting sex" is the key part there to be honest - someone has to find a guy suitable first, it's not a matter of slotting all the thousands of sausages into any hole available "
Preach Mrs Queenie Preachh |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?"
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ? |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ? "
Can't see any proof you keep yourself in shape.
You're a smoker.
That's 2 reasons... |
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It's hard for single guys on here but impossible no as a single guy you have to work around otheirs some like daytime meets some like late evening you have to make yourself available go to socials and if they only meet at clubs set it up to meet them there but none of these meets still mean its a definite fuck and most messages genuinely get missed as single ladies get 100s a day and nobody has that much time to deal with them all lol |
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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago
Buckley North Wales |
Before 2020 I think single guys had a better chance but since then Fab has been saturated with, desperate guys, pic hunters, time wasters and guys pretending to be couples. There are some decent genuine single men here. But filtering them out gets tiresome.
Single guys need to go to clubs and socials. Then actually chat to people and not just lurk.
For us swinging is 80% social 20% play. We love the social and chilling side that is then spiced up a bit. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ? "
Do you truly want me to answer that? |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ? "
Your attitude is the main and biggest reason! No woman is going to be interested in a man who lists all his wants without making any effort to impress. It makes you appear entitled, dull and as if you see women as commodities you can pick from as if you're on a ££ site without paying for it. Your lack of insight or reflection and doubling down in your responses just reinforces that you don't get it and aren't likely to. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ?
Do you truly want me to answer that?"
Now this is something I would love to see a reply on |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
Yeah but...why would we want it with you?
Let’s rephrase that real quick , why wouldn’t they want me ?
Do you truly want me to answer that?"
Only if you think it’s going help in this situation, If not , No Thank you !! |
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"Single guy can’t get laid on Fab shocker.
It’s a sausage fest on here. What do you expect? "
It's a massive sausage fest. Men got to realise that us ladies get 1000s of messages. You need to stand out and be their type. Be respectful. That's the biggest issue i have with messages, most talk to me very disrespectfully |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Single guy can’t get laid on Fab shocker.
It’s a sausage fest on here. What do you expect?
It's a massive sausage fest. Men got to realise that us ladies get 1000s of messages. You need to stand out and be their type. Be respectful. That's the biggest issue i have with messages, most talk to me very disrespectfully "
This I agree with. So many are just totally disrespectful, entitled and rude. |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain
I think a lot of men join with hope which is often dashed. Obviously I don't know exactly what your hopes were and I can understand it's disappointing that they weren't met.
I think it's probably a case of readjusting your expectations, possibly sticking around in the forums bit while accepting that a meet might not happen for a while.
Good luck anyway "
Thank you for the pep talk coach . Salud |
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"Single guy can’t get laid on Fab shocker.
It’s a sausage fest on here. What do you expect?
It's a massive sausage fest. Men got to realise that us ladies get 1000s of messages. You need to stand out and be their type. Be respectful. That's the biggest issue i have with messages, most talk to me very disrespectfully
This I agree with. So many are just totally disrespectful, entitled and rude. "
I totally agree with you men can be real a**h***
But then nice guys are a tad bit too boring for you ladies , Isn’t it ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain"
Feel so sorry for you. These awful women are not coming forward in their hundreds to give you a fuck.
2 face pics. Nothing exciting yo grab the ladies attention. Im so sorry you are disappointed |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain
Feel so sorry for you. These awful women are not coming forward in their hundreds to give you a fuck.
2 face pics. Nothing exciting yo grab the ladies attention. Im so sorry you are disappointed "
I sense a bit of prejudice in that statement of yours but then i barely take any pictures of myself and at least those 2 pictures can give the ladies a rough idea for what they in for .. |
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"Just reading as above there lots of people on this site and some of the texts my god so sad yes we all hear for the same thing
But we like all kinds of different things fir me I don't get alot of time so if i going to meet someone for a social drink and if I like happy days but because of lots of time waste people I started going to a club never looked back so maybe look that up hope that helps."
I just don’t feel like going to a club on my own , but Thank you nontheless |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic."
How exactly are they unrealistic ? Please elaborate |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain
Ah so those were all of your hopes landing next to mine at the bottom of the drain, heard an almighty thud too and did wonder what it was "
We shall rise again and keep on doing so until we conquer the heart and kitties till our heart’s content . Salute |
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"Just reading as above there lots of people on this site and some of the texts my god so sad yes we all hear for the same thing
But we like all kinds of different things fir me I don't get alot of time so if i going to meet someone for a social drink and if I like happy days but because of lots of time waste people I started going to a club never looked back so maybe look that up hope that helps.
I just don’t feel like going to a club on my own , but Thank you nontheless"
If you don't go on your own, you'll never go. |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
How exactly are they unrealistic ? Please elaborate"
People have already at length but basically there aren't that many women up for regular no strings FWB so there are a LOT of men competing for the ones who are. To stand out you need to do more than you're doing. It's good you've removed the shopping list of wants in a woman from your profile, that's a good start. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To Add
There are a lot of Women that are Shy & Shade-y
Turn up same venue watch you enter then leave telling everybody
Others dont even know what they're doing here, Some its Status Vivre/Viva etc & Only get laid at Mates
There are Good Profiles but it is Viewers website
1000-1 Stat?easy
Just make sure Neighbours aren't goofing you, too badly
Before they bring out Full Monty 6" DVD
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"To Add
There are a lot of Women that are Shy & Shade-y
Turn up same venue watch you enter then leave telling everybody
Others dont even know what they're doing here, Some its Status Vivre/Viva etc & Only get laid at Mates
There are Good Profiles but it is Viewers website
1000-1 Stat?easy
Just make sure Neighbours aren't goofing you, too badly
Before they bring out Full Monty 6" DVD
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I want what you're having sir! |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .."
"You girls"
That's only a step up from "you people". |
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"Ok so answering as a single fem..
Your photos do nothing to sell yourself
You smoke
The blurb actually comes over a bit creepy
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Totally agree 
OP, put yourself in a womans shoes… if you have hundreds of men messaging you every day or every week, and some male profiles actually do have really nice attractive photos and interesting bios, who would you choose to engage with?
You need more photos and a more appealing bio. Men outnumber women 100:1 so competition is fierce.
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
"You girls"
That's only a step up from "you people"."
Heyy i don’t mind “you people” either if the mood is set right  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That’s so disappointing..Respect and fun is surely the reason we are here.
However, like the gentleman I’ve no luck. Some great chats though.
Any advice? |
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"Responding to your post doesn't mean you should pm me
That simply adds to the creepy feeling from your profile and you.
You asked for insight
I gave it as a single fem
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Did you not see that coming? |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want .."
This.
Is.
Not.
A.
Dating.
Site. |
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"It’s been a good couple of months and not one i repeat not a single meet . Came with so many hopes but they’ve all gone down the drain
Feel so sorry for you. These awful women are not coming forward in their hundreds to give you a fuck.
2 face pics. Nothing exciting yo grab the ladies attention. Im so sorry you are disappointed
I sense a bit of prejudice in that statement of yours but then i barely take any pictures of myself and at least those 2 pictures can give the ladies a rough idea for what they in for .. "
Prejudice? Not sure what you mean. I'm just stating a fact that I'd all I can see. Not sure what Prejudice has got to do with it |
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"Responding to your post doesn't mean you should pm me
That simply adds to the creepy feeling from your profile and you.
You asked for insight
I gave it as a single fem
Did you not see that coming?"
Some one didn’t miss a beat to get their 5 min of forum fame lol |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
This.
Is.
Not.
A.
Dating.
Site."
But that doesn't mean people don't look for regular meets with the same person.
Seeking a fb or fwb isn't dating
It's just building on something..just as some people don't want repeat meets .
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
This.
Is.
Not.
A.
Dating.
Site."
Many people have met and dated thru meeting on fab, even married. Lots of people use fab for lots of different things. |
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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
"Sadly a lot of men join and think swinger = fucks anybody that asks.
Also for every 1 woman or couple on here, there are about 100 men.
Yes It's the way men speak to me i find super off putting. I think even a call girl gets better treatment and gets paid. "
100% if I see or hear the words "you women" or "these girls". |
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"Many single men struggle to find meets. When you add to that that you're looking for someone regular I suspect your expectations were wildly unrealistic.
I thought regular meets would have been something you girls would want ..
This.
Is.
Not.
A.
Dating.
Site.
Many people have met and dated thru meeting on fab, even married. Lots of people use fab for lots of different things."
I totally believe that, a broken clock tells the right time twice a day. But, I have my suspicions that the OP isn't looking for his soul mate. |
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"Your just one of thousands of single men all wanting sex. Not sure what you expectedsex....... Not even a sniffta  "
you have to accept that it's highly possible you will never get a meet. My last,and only,meet was 7 years ago and realise that's probably it for me, unlikely to ever have fun again. There's too many guys on here and too many women who are looking for something that the likes of you and I don't have. If you don't build up hopes then the constant let downs won't be so bad. |
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"Your just one of thousands of single men all wanting sex. Not sure what you expectedsex....... Not even a sniffta you have to accept that it's highly possible you will never get a meet. My last,and only,meet was 7 years ago and realise that's probably it for me, unlikely to ever have fun again. There's too many guys on here and too many women who are looking for something that the likes of you and I don't have. If you don't build up hopes then the constant let downs won't be so bad."
I duno i know some male fabbers with lots of verification that I wouldn't put in the super fab category. They average looking, usually got a dad bod but must be their charm. Some even havd a basis profile. Also know some men who been on fab less than a year with quite afew verifications. The ones with no verifications, usually have the wrong attitude or really bad profile. |
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I might be different from other women on here...but I'm looking for a reliable and genuine play mate. Like most women on here, I get 100s of messages on a weekly basis. When i first joined, it was absolutely ridiculous like some days, over 300 messages. But from this experience, I gained insight who genuine and who's not. It definitely wasn't the best looking men on here, they're usually the ones to avoid. Nor was it amazingly written profile or photos. It was based on connection and attitude followed up by action. |
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"I might be different from other women on here...but I'm looking for a reliable and genuine play mate. Like most women on here, I get 100s of messages on a weekly basis. When i first joined, it was absolutely ridiculous like some days, over 300 messages. But from this experience, I gained insight who genuine and who's not. It definitely wasn't the best looking men on here, they're usually the ones to avoid. Nor was it amazingly written profile or photos. It was based on connection and attitude followed up by action. "
We would have been great together if you were into hairy men , and tantric sex is something i would have loved to practice with you |
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All the things that you're asking for, you need to be able to offer as well
Op your profile is fine and focus on those who are interested in you. 