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First time meeting on my own - the wife
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Hey peeps
So we had a meet arranged for this Saturday, me hubby and a guy I have known for nearly 20 years. We did a social last week whilst out shopping and the hubby really liked him so we arranged this fun meet next.
The hubby has become unwell and yesterday said that I should meet the guy as just me on Saturday as he may still be unwell. But I’ve never met anyone as just me … and I’m nervous as hell!
The guy in question, I had a crush on when I first seen him. After all these years he’s gotten even hotter 
So any tips or advice for me? He’s a dom and I’m very much a sub, I feel bad for going on my own even though it was my other half that made the suggestion
Please dont pm me the advice. Just write it on here xx |
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By *ipi2001Couple
over a year ago
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We have had the same situation and the guilt came after was enormous.
If your hubby is unwell just postpone the meeting.
Imagine if the situation was opposite.how would you feel?
Swinging comes with moral issues.
Anyway everybody has different perspectives.
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From My perspective (Mr) my main drive is that My Girl has a great time and enjoys the adventures life has to offer. Also if I was ill i wouldn't want her to miss out too. But what's also very important to me is that we both find the guy is right. She is everything to me and I want to know she is in great hands. By the sounds of it both boxes here are ticked. So as long as you want to enjoy this experience you should go for it, enjoy it. Sometimes it's ourselves that hold ourselves back even when we have are other halves blessings.
I would say the main thing is to keep talking to your man and keep things open. As long as he knows you are his and you have throughly enjoyed yourself he'll be happy (if he's anything like me). Personally speaking the thing I probably find difficult is the fear of missing out. But I love it the next time we are together again. |
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What kind of advice do you want?
Whether to go or not? I say not but I think you've decided to.
What to do when you're at the meet? Whatever the three of you have agreed on and no more
If there's a danger that you're playing with fire? Possibly |
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"Go meet him, and take some photos and videos to share with your Hubby, make him feel he's still part of the fun."
Absolutely this! It sounds like your hubby is perfectly happy for you to meet your friend, so just keep in touch during the ‘date’. This could be the start of a lovely threeway friendship   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Definitely a worry if you feel bad now how would you feel after you’ve met maybe hang fire until your partner is well and both enjoy yourselves it does sound so exciting but also quite selfish even given permission by your other other half we are newbies and have no experience of any meets including on our own
Hopefully it makes sense and you’ll do what is best for all of you take care it would be nice to know the outcome |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Here was me ready to advise you to go for it as you'd maybe even feel more excited because of the slightly elevated taboo or that you shouldn't.. and reading all the other advise is quite heartening actually that so many rightly so advise you to postpone it...
Not sure what this says about me right enough .. lol ..
You sound both lucky to have found a partner willing to open out to this kind of thing so yeah caution probably best.  |
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