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We only know what you tell us, so without seeing the messages it's hard to say if its your approach.
It could be, as it is with us, you just aren't what they are looking for. It could be they've had so many messages you just didn't make the cut at first glance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You probably need to put a little more effort into your profile and pictures, have a look at other guys profiles that have a few verifications see what sort of stuff they have on theres.
then the best way to increase your chances of getting replies is to put yourself out there, go to clubs and social events and get yourself some verifications, I have found that to be the best way of increasing your chances and I've even found that people message and wink at me first now, I very rarely send any first messages anymore unless I see a profile that really sticks out to me and think that we would click, and more often than not I get a reply, normally saying that they like my profile and verifications
It all takes a lot of time and effort but it can be worth it in the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because they're not interested in you. Simples.
Nearly everyone you message will likely check your profile out before even thinking about opening your message, though most women and a lot of couples view in stealth mode, so you'll never know they checked you out.
If your profile doesn't appeal to them, why should they bother with your message?
I think it may be wise to consider what your expectations were when you joined and then realign them.
This isn't instashag. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Dick pic profile pic, mirror pics in public pics, quite a narrow age range.
You might be Char's type, but based on your profile we'd probably not reply unless your intro message was really interesting and showed an interest in us.
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Getting quite a few messages ignored, try to be polite and give a face photo
Any reason why? Be savage in regards to my profile haha"
What do you say in your messages?
I don't fancy Tom Hardy. Do you look like him?  |
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Morning all, we read and delete messages if there really is nothing there in common, often a thanks but no thanks will strike up conversation, which if time is fine but generally time on here is limited, basically it's a polite no thank you |
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"Getting quite a few messages ignored, try to be polite and give a face photo
Any reason why? Be savage in regards to my profile haha"
Why give clues about your rugby playing, including location, then say you have to be discreet because of it lol?
Someone else mentioned there’s no need to repeat physical statistics already in your profile 
If I’m being harsh on your pics; potentially many ladies look at your cock and want more……? Better to hide cock pics until asked mate, which is usually after you’ve built a rapport with someone, and cock size doesn’t come in to it.
All the best fella |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
It might be that either you're not what they're looking for, orfrom your message and profile they can't tell enough about you to make it worth engaging.
The quality of message does matter, I am totally astounded by the quality of messages people send here, they don't even glance at a profile and so I know they aren't really that interested in me, they would have at least read something to refer to in the message.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Simply put - there is no obligation for anyone to respond to a message on this site or for people to receive a response.
If you message is ignored take to mean they are not interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would change your profile name and remove the part about being discreet about your career while simultaneously mentioning it
It looks like you don't know what discretion it
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Also, many men make this mistake with the words women and woman and you have done so too.
Woman - one
Women - more than one
You mention women enjoy themself. Is that one woman enjoying themself or many women enjoying themselves? |
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By *rad670Man
over a year ago
South Lakes |
Having just help a female set up a profile and her recieving 200 messages before she even finished the profile properly I can see why some may feel like they are being ignored but it's probably more of a case of having to thin down and prioritise the messages and it's usually done within the first line. Too much competition to not have a stand out profile. |
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"Because they're not interested in you. Simples.
Nearly everyone you message will likely check your profile out before even thinking about opening your message, though most women and a lot of couples view in stealth mode, so you'll never know they checked you out.
If your profile doesn't appeal to them, why should they bother with your message?
I think it may be wise to consider what your expectations were when you joined and then realign them.
This isn't instashag."
Yep, agree.. talking from experiences as a couple we only veiw profiles in stealth mode reason for that is once a lad sees we have viewed them they instantly think you want them then msg..its almost like they check every second to see who has viewed...and then bang, a msg comes through, it's nuts lol. |
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"Because they're not interested in you. Simples.
Nearly everyone you message will likely check your profile out before even thinking about opening your message, though most women and a lot of couples view in stealth mode, so you'll never know they checked you out.
If your profile doesn't appeal to them, why should they bother with your message?
I think it may be wise to consider what your expectations were when you joined and then realign them.
This isn't instashag.
Yep, agree.. talking from experiences as a couple we only veiw profiles in stealth mode reason for that is once a lad sees we have viewed them they instantly think you want them then msg..its almost like they check every second to see who has viewed...and then bang, a msg comes through, it's nuts lol."
Not forgetting checking their sent messages every millisecond!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We used to make a point of saying at least no thankyou to everyone but when you are met with abuse trying to be polite unfortunately it ruins it for everyone and now we dont bother. We are for our pleasure not yours |
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By *ornycougaWoman
over a year ago
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"If I get a message I always reply "
Many messages are not worthy of a reply. I currently have 1144 unread. Most are:
Hey/hi
Wuu2
Can I cum on/in your face/tits/pussy/ass
Hey bitch can I pump u till morning
Wanna fuck etc etc etc
If you are sending any of the above or similar ...are you actually surprised you don't get a reply. If you send a pleasant, interesting, articulate and engaging message then it is probably lost in the bouillabaisse of entitled banality that fills most women's inboxes in here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I get a message I always reply
Many messages are not worthy of a reply. I currently have 1144 unread. Most are:
Hey/hi
Wuu2
Can I cum on/in your face/tits/pussy/ass
Hey bitch can I pump u till morning
Wanna fuck etc etc etc
If you are sending any of the above or similar ...are you actually surprised you don't get a reply. If you send a pleasant, interesting, articulate and engaging message then it is probably lost in the bouillabaisse of entitled banality that fills most women's inboxes in here"
and as a couple we get much the same - we often wonder if these guys all went to the same school as they all appear to write the same inarticulate codswallop in the same style .... |
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All I want for Christmas is people of Fab pay less attention to their messages being read/unread/ignored/deleted/whatever.
As per Fab FAQ, no reply is a reply in itself so get over it.
It’s rarely anything personal. |
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By *hillenCouple
over a year ago
Borehamwood |
Too many messages we get are similar to those which is an automatic delete as the senders obviously didn't read our profile. Will always try to reply to polite and articulate ones which tells us something about the sender. |
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"As surprising as it may seem to you they simply aren’t interested.
Next! "
C'mon - that's obvious. And he sounds clever enough to realise that. He wants tips on how to be interesting to more people. Nothing wrong with that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As surprising as it may seem to you they simply aren’t interested.
Next!
C'mon - that's obvious. And he sounds clever enough to realise that. He wants tips on how to be interesting to more people. Nothing wrong with that."
You can’t be more interesting to people who aren’t interested in you, someone either likes you or they don’t really.
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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago
Cheshire/Northwest |
Depends on my mood, I normally do reply but after several of the same tedious messages, you can't help but leave them unread.
You can tell the ones who read your profile and that makes a difference.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Dont get why some women who give me their number (in some cases without me even asking for it) but dont answer their phone or responed to messages. Why bother giving me your number if you gonna blank someone |
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Get used to it lets say you in pub and try it on with say 3women and none are interested, you have to accept it now multiply by 100s there is zero need for anyone to feel obliged respond.
You have so much to learn about on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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But my point is and fine if they're not interested but why cant they tell me that instead? I can easily take rejection as at least I know where I stand but its when they blantantly ignore your phone calls and messages after they giving it to me I dont get? Im surprised with nearly all of them they haven't blocked me if they werent keen |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"But my point is and fine if they're not interested but why cant they tell me that instead? I can easily take rejection as at least I know where I stand but its when they blantantly ignore your phone calls and messages after they giving it to me I dont get? Im surprised with nearly all of them they haven't blocked me if they werent keen"
Maybe you are calling at an inappropriate time to them, they may have company.
It's best to arrange a time to call.
Maybe they've changed their mind and just don't feel strong enough to tell you.
Whether they tell you or not, the result is the same.
In an ideal world, I agree we should all speak up, though this isn't an ideal world.
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I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here"
Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe"
Yes I'm not the only woman that said that too. It's more common than you think. I been on fab for years. It never gets any easier apart from spotting the fakes and time wasters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe
Yes I'm not the only woman that said that too. It's more common than you think. I been on fab for years. It never gets any easier apart from spotting the fakes and time wasters "
I mean, if you're struggling  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe
Yes I'm not the only woman that said that too. It's more common than you think. I been on fab for years. It never gets any easier apart from spotting the fakes and time wasters "
Oh wow honestly I don't know what to say, you're way too gorgous to be struggling for any meet. Guys should lining up to wanting to date you. Not sure why certain guys don't actually end up meeting a woman they arranged to meet but you shouldn't be struggling at all. Just find it bizarre |
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe
Yes I'm not the only woman that said that too. It's more common than you think. I been on fab for years. It never gets any easier apart from spotting the fakes and time wasters Oh wow honestly I don't know what to say, you're way too gorgous to be struggling for any meet. Guys should lining up to wanting to date you. Not sure why certain guys don't actually end up meeting a woman they arranged to meet but you shouldn't be struggling at all. Just find it bizarre"
They only go on fab for affirmation or just quick screw. No idea tbh but fed up it happening alot to me these days |
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here"
This is currently my experience on here
In the last week I've connected with maybe 5/6 guys who said they wanted to meet, been chatting etc and when it came down to actually making plans, I got ghosted lmao |
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here Wait I'm confused you saying you having trouble meeting guys on here? If so I find that hard to believe"
Lots of women struggle on here to meet guys
Men think cause there's so many men on here that it's a sausage fest for all women when nothing could be further from the truth |
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here
This is currently my experience on here
In the last week I've connected with maybe 5/6 guys who said they wanted to meet, been chatting etc and when it came down to actually making plans, I got ghosted lmao"
Yes that's what happens to me they just ghost me after a week of chatting. They all can't be put off by what I say can they?? |
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Just to reply to te OP.
I don't message that many people because I'm basically looking for quality over quantity. I do still get people that open messages that I've taken the time to write after reading their profile etc etc.
Personally I just shrug my shoulders think "meh their loss" and move on.
I don't think their loss because I'm stuck up or think im gods gift, its just somthing I do in all parts of my life.
Though of course if anyone wishes to look at my profile and message me with where I could improve or I'm going wrong then please do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We get loads of messages - it's easy to ignore block as often those that said they have read our profile but cleary not go on the ignore. Those that put a couple of words in get ignored and those that just say "i'm free now...chat/kik"
We look for those that have been on for at least a few weeks and if verified by others and when I shortlist, i read verificatios and then send out some questions - often end up chatting to the right people
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"Just to reply to te OP.
I don't message that many people because I'm basically looking for quality over quantity. I do still get people that open messages that I've taken the time to write after reading their profile etc etc.
Personally I just shrug my shoulders think "meh their loss" and move on.
I don't think their loss because I'm stuck up or think im gods gift, its just somthing I do in all parts of my life.
Though of course if anyone wishes to look at my profile and message me with where I could improve or I'm going wrong then please do. "
Better to put your own post asking for profile advice, we’re not allowed to give such advice unless specifically requested. |
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"I find if you give men a chance, they just play this game like give me attention on my terms but i can't be bothered to actually meet up with you in person. Wish them types stop wasting genuine people's time and energy. Just seem too many attention seeking men on here
This is currently my experience on here
In the last week I've connected with maybe 5/6 guys who said they wanted to meet, been chatting etc and when it came down to actually making plans, I got ghosted lmao
Yes that's what happens to me they just ghost me after a week of chatting. They all can't be put off by what I say can they?? "
Cherryblossom- ping me a message - I would love to go to the Warwick Thai Festival with you |
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"Just to reply to te OP.
I don't message that many people because I'm basically looking for quality over quantity. I do still get people that open messages that I've taken the time to write after reading their profile etc etc.
Personally I just shrug my shoulders think "meh their loss" and move on.
I don't think their loss because I'm stuck up or think im gods gift, its just somthing I do in all parts of my life.
Though of course if anyone wishes to look at my profile and message me with where I could improve or I'm going wrong then please do.
Better to put your own post asking for profile advice, we’re not allowed to give such advice unless specifically requested. "
Oh apologies I wasn't aware of that.
I was trying not to fill the forum up with another thread of that kind, I do that then. |
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