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"hi all last few weeks been tempted to knock it all on the head go to club every week chat but it’s the same faces week in week out and i’m getting nowhere "
A clever man (not me) once said, that one definition of madness was to continually do the same things but expect a different result.
If the tactics you employ don't work, it would probably be sensible to try something different.
What do you do at the club, and how do people respond?
Cal |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
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"hi all last few weeks been tempted to knock it all on the head go to club every week chat but it’s the same faces week in week out and i’m getting nowhere
A clever man (not me) once said, that one definition of madness was to continually do the same things but expect a different result.
If the tactics you employ don't work, it would probably be sensible to try something different.
What do you do at the club, and how do people respond?
Cal"
just chat really |
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During your 11 months on here you've been verified 18 times by a variety of men, couples and single women. To be honest that's pretty impressive in itself.
However, if you can't bring yourself to take the next step with anyone at the same old club, have a few weeks at home, save some money and travel elsewhere.
You've clearly made a good impression at least 18 times, so there is no reason to suspect you won't again.
But if you find that it's getting you down then just take a step back or take a break altogether. |
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"During your 11 months on here you've been verified 18 times by a variety of men, couples and single women. To be honest that's pretty impressive in itself.
However, if you can't bring yourself to take the next step with anyone at the same old club, have a few weeks at home, save some money and travel elsewhere.
You've clearly made a good impression at least 18 times, so there is no reason to suspect you won't again.
But if you find that it's getting you down then just take a step back or take a break altogether. "
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"hi all last few weeks been tempted to knock it all on the head go to club every week chat but it’s the same faces week in week out and i’m getting nowhere
A clever man (not me) once said, that one definition of madness was to continually do the same things but expect a different result.
If the tactics you employ don't work, it would probably be sensible to try something different.
What do you do at the club, and how do people respond?
Cal
just chat really "
That's a bit too vague to help. Do you talk about the weather and what's on TV, or maybe politics and covid vaccines, or is it talk about swinging and sex?
How do the chats go? Is it hard work, or does conversation flow easily?
Are you struggling with moving from chat to playing, or is it just that you've already "completed" this club and need some fresh meat?
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It’s hard in wales as we do only have the one club we enjoy the club but it’s probably easier for us as a couple.
We tend to travel around a bit also as someone else suggested do a monthly visit to another club chams in darlaston is a good way to start. |
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over a year ago
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"I think there a big waiting list for single make membership at Darlston Chams.
Going by your verifications you seem to be doing alright."
You can use membership for both clubs  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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To be honest op ,I'd not want to go to a club every weekend and especially not the same one.
Like others have suggested ,cut back the visits and save up so you go less,but you're going further afield and meeting new people .
Organised socials are good too & happen all over the country . |
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By *agicmarc OP Man
over a year ago
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"To be honest op ,I'd not want to go to a club every weekend and especially not the same one.
Like others have suggested ,cut back the visits and save up so you go less,but you're going further afield and meeting new people .
Organised socials are good too & happen all over the country ."
yeah been thinking that x |
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"hi all last few weeks been tempted to knock it all on the head go to club every week chat but it’s the same faces week in week out and i’m getting nowhere "
Maybe try going only once per month, now that your face is known to the club regulars?
Get yourself out in the real world, as people are looking towards the festive season, and more parties will be happening. There’ll definitely be more single ladies out and about locally, than you’ll ever see in a swinger club   |
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"yeah get what your saying "
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy. |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy. "
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me….. |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me….."
 glad you had a good time |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me…..
glad you had a good time "
I always give credit where it’s due….. |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me…..
glad you had a good time
I always give credit where it’s due….."
Oh yes you do praise clubs when you go as a couple. I'm waiting for the day when you say single guys can have a good time in clubs though |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me…..
glad you had a good time
I always give credit where it’s due…..
Oh yes you do praise clubs when you go as a couple. I'm waiting for the day when you say single guys can have a good time in clubs though "
Well, I’m the same person whether I visit as part of a couple, or when I’m by myself, so go figure…..?
When was the last time Rod visited a club he’s not known at, by himself?
You can ‘Green arrow’ me back to a thread where I talked about two of my best solo guy club experiences in Club f, Durham. Like I said, I do give credit where it’s due….. |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me…..
glad you had a good time
I always give credit where it’s due…..
Oh yes you do praise clubs when you go as a couple. I'm waiting for the day when you say single guys can have a good time in clubs though
Well, I’m the same person whether I visit as part of a couple, or when I’m by myself, so go figure…..?
When was the last time Rod visited a club he’s not known at, by himself?
You can ‘Green arrow’ me back to a thread where I talked about two of my best solo guy club experiences in Club f, Durham. Like I said, I do give credit where it’s due….. "
Maybe you give off different vibes when you're alone?? I dunno maybe I'll find out one day if I bump into you at chams. You do make me laugh with these posts though.
I dragged Rod into the club scene so he hasn't been alone.
Oh damn I missed that one! |
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"yeah get what your saying
Do what you think is best, it sounds like you enjoyed the club but need to mix it up. So as others have said save up and try chams in Darlaston or another club. Don't listen to Mr grumpy we all know he hates clubs as single guy.
Touché
I was actually in Chams Darlaston in January, and had an awesome night! But then, I did have a female play partner with me…..
glad you had a good time
I always give credit where it’s due…..
Oh yes you do praise clubs when you go as a couple. I'm waiting for the day when you say single guys can have a good time in clubs though
Well, I’m the same person whether I visit as part of a couple, or when I’m by myself, so go figure…..?
When was the last time Rod visited a club he’s not known at, by himself?
You can ‘Green arrow’ me back to a thread where I talked about two of my best solo guy club experiences in Club f, Durham. Like I said, I do give credit where it’s due…..
Maybe you give off different vibes when you're alone?? I dunno maybe I'll find out one day if I bump into you at chams. You do make me laugh with these posts though.
I dragged Rod into the club scene so he hasn't been alone.
Oh damn I missed that one! "
Well I’m glad you find my posts entertaining! I only say it as I see it
So Rod has never had Harry Potter’s cloak of invisibility thrown over him then?
I am back in Birmingham for a weekender in the New Year, so maybe our paths might cross, and I’ll have the opportunity to disappoint you in person, and confirm your impression of me from my forum posts  |
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"hi all last few weeks been tempted to knock it all on the head go to club every week chat but it’s the same faces week in week out and i’m getting nowhere "
You're doing better than most single men and even some single women
What do you expect from the site? A different woman each night? |
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No he hasn't had the pleasure.
Maybe see you in the new year then, in the meantime I'll be watching out "
Depending on what events Xtasia are running while I’m there (it’s usually been a bmfc), I was thinking of having a look in there so I can add to my ‘tally’ (7 clubs to date), but I haven’t been to Chams as a single guy yet, and I do prefer a dress down club, so we’ll see
Do keep an eye out for my posts, I’m not afraid to speak my mind, and nothing I say is untrue |
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No he hasn't had the pleasure.
Maybe see you in the new year then, in the meantime I'll be watching out
Depending on what events Xtasia are running while I’m there (it’s usually been a bmfc), I was thinking of having a look in there so I can add to my ‘tally’ (7 clubs to date), but I haven’t been to Chams as a single guy yet, and I do prefer a dress down club, so we’ll see
Do keep an eye out for my posts, I’m not afraid to speak my mind, and nothing I say is untrue "
Well that's no good! You won't ever catch me at xtasia enjoy anyway!
Sorry for taking over the thread OP! |
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