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Nervous for my first club
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
Speak to the club and if they're any good, they should happily explain how to get the best from your visit. You should ask if you can be introduced to the regulars, who they will know.
Get to chat to them and let the night flow.
Stage fright is awful, but not as bad as never going and missing out on some great adventures. |
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There is absolutely no need to be nervous. Swingers clubs are so friendly and welcoming. My advice would be go with no expectation of playing just have a relaxed night out talk to people and see where it goes from there.
Good luck and have a great time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s honestly not as scary as you think it will be. In fact if you stick to the social area for your first visit it will seem like any other night out and all rather ordinary.
A good tip even if you’re a non smoker, the smoking area is really friendly and everyone chats.
Go for it! |
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I know what your feeling, going to a club on your own for the very first time. But just suck it in and just go for it, don't look back and you won't regret it. I know my first few times I was nervous as anything, but now I confident with where I'm going and who I'm likely to see.
I think if I was going to a new club I would almost be back at square one. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you will have lots of guys saying hi/etc - it is up to you what you do after that.
take your wife/gf and trust me you will get all the attention and not feel left out and put at ease.
We were the only Idians/asains when we used to go ie weekdays early and left by 2pm but the guys were really nice but I hear you as even as a couple we were shy walking in so went early before anyone else was there |
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We were bricking it for our first club visit but the feeling lessened as soon as we walked through the door. It's normal to be nervous and there's nothing you can do about the nerves except walk in. You'll find most of the staff and swingers friendly (not all though), you'll get a tour of the club as it's your first time. Don't go with expectations as many go home disappointed, at the least you'll be able to witness some sexy fun. Good luck  |
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Back when I was a single guy I really wanted to try a club. Did the research, found the place, drive there, parked up outside and was very nervous. Sat there and thought what's the worst that can happen and what's the best that can happen. Very glad I made the positive choice, met some great and very friendly people and had a lovely night  |
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We were so nervous for our first time! We stood outside the entrance for a good ten minutes before we were brave enough to ring the doorbell Once we were inside and had the tour, things almost felt anticlimacticaly normal!
We've since been to a a fair few clubs but still get the nerves. It's all part of the excitement.  |
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I went to a swinging club on my own within 2 weeks of joining fab best thing i ever did. Never knew a single person and was about 120 people there. Must admit was on my male profile not my tv profile but had a great night as the club didnt accept tvs. I made effort to speak to people didnt just sit there all night making no effort and got invitied to join in with a great couple so go for it  |
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"I went to a swinging club on my own within 2 weeks of joining fab best thing i ever did. Never knew a single person and was about 120 people there. Must admit was on my male profile not my tv profile but had a great night as the club didnt accept tvs. I made effort to speak to people didnt just sit there all night making no effort and got invitied to join in with a great couple so go for it "
Was the male of the couple also bi? |
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As someone else mentioned speak to the club, I always deliberately attend somewhere new on a quiet night, so I can have a proper nose around, get a feel for the place, where I'd feel comfortable hanging out, chat to the staff and others attending - I find it easier in a less busy environment
Nerves are natural but just remember, most of them will also have Gad first night nerves at some point |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"As someone else mentioned speak to the club, I always deliberately attend somewhere new on a quiet night, so I can have a proper nose around, get a feel for the place, where I'd feel comfortable hanging out, chat to the staff and others attending - I find it easier in a less busy environment
Nerves are natural but just remember, most of them will also have Gad first night nerves at some point "
First day of school nerves years down the line.
It was supposed to get easier with age... |
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"I went to a swinging club on my own within 2 weeks of joining fab best thing i ever did. Never knew a single person and was about 120 people there. Must admit was on my male profile not my tv profile but had a great night as the club didnt accept tvs. I made effort to speak to people didnt just sit there all night making no effort and got invitied to join in with a great couple so go for it
Was the male of the couple also bi?"
No he was not bi we both played with the female not with each other |
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"I went to a swinging club on my own within 2 weeks of joining fab best thing i ever did. Never knew a single person and was about 120 people there. Must admit was on my male profile not my tv profile but had a great night as the club didn't accept tvs. I made effort to speak to people didn't just sit there all night making no effort and got invited to join in with a great couple so go for it
Was the male of the couple also bi?
No he was not bi we both played with the female not with each other"
Fair play to you, what a great experience for your first ever club night! I'm sure the clubs in the South are generally more friendly towards single guys |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s like jumping in the shower. Once you get wet you can’t get any wetter.
Or put another way.
You can be that guy who wonders what it would be like going to clubs, or you can be the guy who goes to clubs. Just decide which one you want to be. |
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"There is absolutely no need to be nervous. Swingers clubs are so friendly and welcoming. My advice would be go with no expectation of playing just have a relaxed night out talk to people and see where it goes from there.
Good luck and have a great time. "
So rightly put and so right advice. |
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"Yeah been so tempted to brave my first time but nerves kick in ..."
Everyone's nervous on their first visit, we drove up and down outside for 30 minutes, you're in good company.
Just do it, everyone in there have been where you are. |
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Try put a few posts up and find yourself a women a friend or a couple to go with, doing anything like this can be pretty daunting as a bloke just have no expectations, say fuck it and even if you just go there and talk to people, you’ll be over the biggest hurdle, which is, I believe, walking through the dam door
When you do pluck up the courage to go, have a great night mate |
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Its taking the plunge which seems to be the difficult part of it all. Remember going first time to the nudist beach until i becomes a matter of wtf! Personally still need to get to a proper swingers club though that it does not seem to easy as a single male. Regrettably wife wont play. In london soon, le boudoir declined membership and admitted to GFG but read mixed reviews. |
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By *icnacWoman
over a year ago
skegness |
I’m with you on that thought.
Would love to try one it’s just plucking up the courage an going, or like someone said coupling up with someone an braving it together.
Love the positive responses and encouragement from people on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just go to the club, no expectations and explain the situation and you will find that people are very understanding and friendly.
Don’t be afraid it’s a great experience you should always at least try it.
Where are you going I can look out for you maybe if it helps? |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
People often say to go with no expectations. I say go with the expectation of a good social night with interesting new people.
Don't just sit in the bar feeling lonely. Explore the club, find the conversations, and join them. The smoking area and hot tub are often the best social places - they're quieter than the bar, with a small but ever-changing group of people. Those are good conditions for conversation involving everyone.
Don't make it all about sex, because it isn't. A club is a social place first, with facilities to go off and have fun with your new friends later.
That's the way I approached it when I was single. It led to some very good times, and some very good friendships. |
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"People often say to go with no expectations. I say go with the expectation of a good social night with interesting new people.
Don't just sit in the bar feeling lonely. Explore the club, find the conversations, and join them. The smoking area and hot tub are often the best social places - they're quieter than the bar, with a small but ever-changing group of people. Those are good conditions for conversation involving everyone.
Don't make it all about sex, because it isn't. A club is a social place first, with facilities to go off and have fun with your new friends later.
That's the way I approached it when I was single. It led to some very good times, and some very good friendships."
this is very good advice...and everyone is nervous first time. ..
I still get nervous at a new club |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"It's just like going to a pub or club. Except many will be scantily dressed and some might have sex "
We need more pubs like this!
"Are you looking at my bird?" in a vanilla pub, this is bad news, as well as an outdated attitude
In a swinger's club, this is more of an tongue-in-cheek, "She's looking amazing isn't she?"
I know which environment, I feel safer and happier in. |
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