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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they think you are too tall?
Maybe they don't want to show you the ropes and want someone that knows what they are doing?
You can't assume that you are a perfect match, that is their call not yours. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Some people hide the fact they look at profiles. Yes you might be a perfect match on paper but maybe in reality you're just not their type.
Grow a thicker skin, trust me, you'll need it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are lots and lots of people who message us who fit our criteria exactly but a lot of times we either just don't fancy them or we can't be bothered - it's that simple.
Fitting the criteria is one thing but getting someone to fancy you is a totally different kettle of fish |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The criteria on someones profile is only a basic discription or otherwise the profile would be pages and pages long.
People still need to feel an attraction towards u |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's something that happens all the time I'm afraid. I've looked at profiles and thought 'Wow, this person or this couple are perfect and I seem to be what they are looking for'. Send them a message, and it gets deleted with no reply and they don't even look at my profile.
You just have to learn to live with it, they don't fancy you, the way you fancy them, so you must ignore it and move on. It's no good dwelling on something that's not going to happen. You have to be thick skinned on here at times |
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Noone can tell if I look at their profile as I do so in stealth mode.
There are plenty who seem a match in paper but who I don't fancy based on looks or on the way they phrase things or some of their preferences.
It can be as simple as they are at the lower end of my age range but are very baby faced and that isn't my thing. Or facial hair, or messy background in pics or...
You get the idea. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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At the end of the day, if one does not tick enough boxes for the receiver of a message to warrant a meet, there is nothing one can do about it.
I am very fussy, have always been like this and am not going to change.
I don't mention all the boxes that need to be ticked in my profile, as I need to keep some back as my own make or break deciding factors.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me"
I used to get annoyed by this as well.I have now decided that it is quite a good filter in itself. If members have not got the good manners to reply even if it is a "thanks but no thanks" then I do not want to get involved with them, so job done.  |
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By *ikkiBWoman
over a year ago
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me
I used to get annoyed by this as well.I have now decided that it is quite a good filter in itself. If members have not got the good manners to reply even if it is a "thanks but no thanks" then I do not want to get involved with them, so job done. "
Half the time I reply with a sorry not interested I just get abuse, so not replying is less hassle |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me"
Try not to worry about it - it takes ages for single guys to have any luck on this site - it could be one of a hundred reasons - maybe they didn't even see your message and it just got bulk deleted with many others - whatever the case it's about patience here ..oh and being thick skinned |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me
I used to get annoyed by this as well.I have now decided that it is quite a good filter in itself. If members have not got the good manners to reply even if it is a "thanks but no thanks" then I do not want to get involved with them, so job done.
Half the time I reply with a sorry not interested I just get abuse, so not replying is less hassle"
Sure you are right everybody has choice and it would much improve this site if rejection was just accepted and we all move on. There is no excuse for members becoming abusive just because others have rejected them.  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
As I tend to reply to most messages, I sometimes use the expression that we seem to be looking for different things. Most guys accept that and most will come back with a "thanks for the reply and happy swinging" or something like that.
A handful write back and ask "Why is that then"...sometimes forcing me into either deleting this message without reply or resorting to "You do not meet what I am looking for". I try and keep things civil.  |
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I get messages telling me they are just what I'm looking for.  That is MY call to make.
On paper a person might think they're a "perfect match", but I don't meet wannabes, I'm here looking for people who know what they want, not to teach.
I also have to find someone physically attractive: no matter how "good looking" they might think they are - and they may very well be, if they don't appeal to my sense of good looking - it's a non starter. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"I get messages telling me they are just what I'm looking for. That is MY call to make.
On paper a person might think they're a "perfect match", but I don't meet wannabes, I'm here looking for people who know what they want, not to teach.
I also have to find someone physically attractive: no matter how "good looking" they might think they are - and they may very well be, if they don't appeal to my sense of good looking - it's a non starter."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As I tend to reply to most messages, I sometimes use the expression that we seem to be looking for different things. Most guys accept that and most will come back with a "thanks for the reply and happy swinging" or something like that.
A handful write back and ask "Why is that then"...sometimes forcing me into either deleting this message without reply or resorting to "You do not meet what I am looking for". I try and keep things civil. "
I only ever say 'thanks for the reply' (as a single man - if I've even had a reply i feel privileged lol) but I wonder - I think what happens is, men probably want to know what went wrong and what they can do so as to have more success in the future - this is not the job of the respondent but perhaps explains the pestering nature of some guys? Absolutely no need to be rude though - if a girl brushes you off in a club you don't start shouting at her? Why do it here? |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
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"As I tend to reply to most messages, I sometimes use the expression that we seem to be looking for different things. Most guys accept that and most will come back with a "thanks for the reply and happy swinging" or something like that.
A handful write back and ask "Why is that then"...sometimes forcing me into either deleting this message without reply or resorting to "You do not meet what I am looking for". I try and keep things civil.
I only ever say 'thanks for the reply' (as a single man - if I've even had a reply i feel privileged lol) but I wonder - I think what happens is, men probably want to know what went wrong and what they can do so as to have more success in the future - this is not the job of the respondent but perhaps explains the pestering nature of some guys? Absolutely no need to be rude though - if a girl brushes you off in a club you don't start shouting at her? Why do it here? "
Agree and sometimes when I get vibes that he is genuinely wondering why I am not interested I will reply again and explain my reasons; eg distance, sexual preferences if they are stated in the profile, age and/ or just general outlook. Of course that is easier when a guy has a completed profile rather than a one liner. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me"
Outrageous!! I hope you've messaged them daily to enquire as to why they don't want you to pop round immediately and jump their bones! Either that or take a full page ad out in the Daily Mail.
Believe it or not there's only one genuine single female on here and two couples. The rest are all clones created by Funky/Invictus - although some of their sex bots are actually quite realistic assuming the skin hasn't started to peel off.
And don't believe everything you read in profiles - some people fib about all sorts of things! Age, location, hair colour and having boobs too.
The 'people' you messaged are probably a 67 yr old single guy called Derek (other names are available) working for Sydney Uni and here to dupe young studs such as yourself into sending them pictures of you engaged in dubious activities with root vegetables.
Either that or they just don't fancy you? I know - not as likely as the first scenario - but it does happen!
Chin up and have fun! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me"
Just because the slipper fits doesn't mean it's cinderella's
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"Everything is accurate in a persons profile about me sp i message them a nice friendly none demanding or desperate message but for some reason they delete my message before even looking at my profile. What is wrong with some people or is it just me"
they may have their profile set to not shiw on your looked at me list so you wouldn't see them check your profile so they probably did. maybe you weren't their type from your pics.. just because you fit they want doesn't mean you are what or who they want to play with has to be some attraction...maybe they weren't attracted to you..move on and find someone who is.. |
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