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Couples - how can I turn your heads?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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For me, playing with a couple is the holy grail. I love slipping into an existing dynamic and getting onboard with your intimacy. Besides, chances are if you get on with one half, you’ll have a great time with both.
That said, I’m not having much luck so I wanna know - what can a man who’s out here repping just for himself, do to catch your attention and stand out from the crowd? |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Your biggest issue will be the fact you're married. All us couples have been bitten by the single guy claiming to have permission from his wife to meet.
You may well be being truthful, but it's enough to sow doubt in the minds of people, and couples get enough offers that any small thing can be enough to discount someone.
Unfortunately don't really have a solution for you 
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your biggest issue will be the fact you're married. All us couples have been bitten by the single guy claiming to have permission from his wife to meet.
You may well be being truthful, but it's enough to sow doubt in the minds of people, and couples get enough offers that any small thing can be enough to discount someone.
Unfortunately don't really have a solution for you
(Bry)"
Thanks Bry. Had a feeling that would come up first. Bummer.
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Had a feeling that would come up first. Bummer."
Genuinely feel for you. A good friend couple of ours plays like that - she doesn't join in at clubs and he can go and have his own meets. Can't for love not money get meets though....just too many properly single guys out there for women and couples to choose from.
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Put your wife's username in your bio so any intetested couples can verify with her youre ok to play
My husband got much more interest once he done this, we also mention his solo profile on our couples profile |
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Assuming you are telling the truth which many won't believe. Its super hard.
99.7% of women don't believe you and assume you're cheating.
I say That as someone who is poly and has full permission to play. |
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"For me, playing with a couple is the holy grail. I love slipping into an existing dynamic and getting onboard with your intimacy."
This is typical - why are you sharing this in the forum but haven't at all mentioned it on your profile?  If this is really what you most want, be as explicit about it on your profile text, if not your profile title.
Reading through your profile my impression was that you were mostly interested in women for one-on-ones, which IME is the default for single guys these days. The men who actively want to join couples are a minority, and even then quite a few who entertain the thought would rather the man of the couple wasn't involved, or that he just watched. So if you really are into full fat mfm make it known, if you have existing experience mention that too.
Also, I hear from male friends that a lot of their successes with meeting was because they were "on call" (ie. random booty calls sometimes in ungodly hours), this may be your style or not (I suspect not), but something to consider. Good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me, playing with a couple is the holy grail. I love slipping into an existing dynamic and getting onboard with your intimacy.
This is typical - why are you sharing this in the forum but haven't at all mentioned it on your profile? If this is really what you most want, be as explicit about it on your profile text, if not your profile title.
Reading through your profile my impression was that you were mostly interested in women for one-on-ones, which IME is the default for single guys these days. The men who actively want to join couples are a minority, and even then quite a few who entertain the thought would rather the man of the couple wasn't involved, or that he just watched. So if you really are into full fat mfm make it known, if you have existing experience mention that too.
Also, I hear from male friends that a lot of their successes with meeting was because they were "on call" (ie. random booty calls sometimes in ungodly hours), this may be your style or not (I suspect not), but something to consider. Good luck!"
Thanks, this is fantastically specific advice. I shall think on it and make alterations. Still jealous of that marrow, BTW.
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
taunton somerset |
nothing is easy for a guy on fab (id hate to be a guy on here) but you are first off one of many and by many i means 100000s with very few women and couples to talk too then its down to attraction to that couple (both i might add even if str8) and then after that are you on the same page for wants and needs its very very hard simply put there is NOT someone for everyone on here just the sheer number of men see to that ... i know it gets said alot but if a guy wants to have more chance of getting somewhere the clubs are a really good place to start you'll soon know if your a hit or not in a club ... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"nothing is easy for a guy on fab (id hate to be a guy on here) but you are first off one of many and by many i means 100000s with very few women and couples to talk too then its down to attraction to that couple (both i might add even if str8) and then after that are you on the same page for wants and needs its very very hard simply put there is NOT someone for everyone on here just the sheer number of men see to that ... i know it gets said alot but if a guy wants to have more chance of getting somewhere the clubs are a really good place to start you'll soon know if your a hit or not in a club ..."
Thanks Mrs. I think the clubs are calling x
I know the numbers are against me. Lots of accounts call for hung gym bods, neither of which I am, so I work my perks - chat and charm and an as-yet unmangled face. We’ll see how far that goes… |
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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
I can’t be a massive help as we aren’t currently seeking out men to join us. I agree with the above about posting your wife’s username (if she’s on here) so that people can see that you are genuine. Or if you don’t already make a couples profile and go from there? X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I can’t be a massive help as we aren’t currently seeking out men to join us. I agree with the above about posting your wife’s username (if she’s on here) so that people can see that you are genuine. Or if you don’t already make a couples profile and go from there? X"
Appreciated. My other half hated it on here and so it’s just me. That makes things tricky. We don’t play together because we want very different things - that’s how we ended up opening up the relationship in the first place! I’m in a catch 22, it seems. |
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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"I can’t be a massive help as we aren’t currently seeking out men to join us. I agree with the above about posting your wife’s username (if she’s on here) so that people can see that you are genuine. Or if you don’t already make a couples profile and go from there? X
Appreciated. My other half hated it on here and so it’s just me. That makes things tricky. We don’t play together because we want very different things - that’s how we ended up opening up the relationship in the first place! I’m in a catch 22, it seems."
Ah right I see, yes it is a difficult one! Clubs will probably be your best way forward, good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Go to a club and meet couples in person. Show you're clean, respectful, intelligent and fun to be with and you won't have any problems."
Thanks guys, I think that’s just what I’m gonna do! |
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We're also not looking for single men so will probably not be of much help, but would agree with the advice about attending clubs. Event nights tend to be busier but then some are restricted at weekends for single guys.
Best of luck OP |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We're also not looking for single men so will probably not be of much help, but would agree with the advice about attending clubs. Event nights tend to be busier but then some are restricted at weekends for single guys.
Best of luck OP"
Thanks so much guys! We’ll see… |
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give it chance bud 
