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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all, I’ve been on this site quite a long time, yet to get my first meet, hardly get any messages. can I ask can you all check my profile out and see give me some much needed advice to get more success off here. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
I'm the male half of a couple so not your target market, but my notes:
Age range: 18-99 sounds desperate and I'm sure you don't want a 99 year old. It's the little details that make a profile.
There's a whole paragraph in your text that's not needed - we can see your ginger hair, your height etc is in your profile details already.
The rest of it is a bit "meh". Quality over quantity cliché, etc. There's literally hundreds of guys for every single woman on here and unfortunately you just sound like all the others.
Finally.....you've been here three months which is nothing at all. Set realistic expectations - most guys won't get a meet all year. All single women (and most of us couples) get so many offers that we don't need to message guys, so don't expect that to happen. Work on how you search for those that you fancy, and who you match what they are looking for, read their profiles and write intro messages that show you're interested in them and not just in sex with them.
Most will go unread and deleted, but get the right message to the right person at the right time and good luck 
Oh....clubs and socials as well.
(Bry) |
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"I'm the male half of a couple so not your target market, but my notes:
Age range: 18-99 sounds desperate and I'm sure you don't want a 99 year old. It's the little details that make a profile.
There's a whole paragraph in your text that's not needed - we can see your ginger hair, your height etc is in your profile details already.
The rest of it is a bit "meh". Quality over quantity cliché, etc. There's literally hundreds of guys for every single woman on here and unfortunately you just sound like all the others.
Finally.....you've been here three months which is nothing at all. Set realistic expectations - most guys won't get a meet all year. All single women (and most of us couples) get so many offers that we don't need to message guys, so don't expect that to happen. Work on how you search for those that you fancy, and who you match what they are looking for, read their profiles and write intro messages that show you're interested in them and not just in sex with them.
Most will go unread and deleted, but get the right message to the right person at the right time and good luck
Oh....clubs and socials as well.
(Bry)"
Oh I wish this could be pinned. This is fantastic advice. |
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You've been here 3 months I thought you were going to have photos going back pre Covid
There's 100+ guys to every lady couple on this site meaning for every guy to get just 1 meet a year every lady needs to be meeting at least 2 different guys a week which lets face it won't ever happen, most probably don't meet once a month, I've had 1 meet in the last year
So the reality is most single guys will never get a meet from this site, unless you really stand out, and while there's nothing wrong with your profile, there's nothing that grabs me & makes me think, yep, there's the next guy I want to meet
Have you tried clubs or social events, get you face known in your local area |
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You are looking for extra fun.
My read is that you are in a relationship, looking for a bit on the side.
Some ladies might be up for seeing an attached chap, as he has reason to be discreet, not turn into a stalker etc. The thrill of taking another woman's man.
Others don't want drama.
I may have misread the situation but that's my impression. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are hundreds ouf guys on here that are fitter and appear to have much more to offer in every way and form, no offence just my obvs from what I have seen
Then there is the fact you cant accommodate often means and not saying you are, means cheating.
IMO, you'd do better on a dating site and not a fucking site.
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Bry said it all, really.
And as others have said, your profile might suggest to some that you are cheating. This will put many off. Of course, it will also attract some!
You are very good looking, though I may be an old fart because I'm not really into photos with ear pods!
I don't think you shouuld expect women to message you first. We get loads of messages on our couples account, but I can't remember the last time a woman messaged me first on my solo account.
Also, this line made me a little unclear what you are looking for: 'I'm looking to find someone who has the same vibes as me, She doesn't take life too seriously, And is easy to get along with.'
That sounds like you are looking for one person, possibly an FWB type scenario. If that's the case, it may be worth being up front about that.
Good luck!
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"Btw as others have said, "age rang to 99" lol, desperate or what
As I said, you look pleasant enough and if you want an OH, dating site for you
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Yet others will see it as a way to show you are not worried about people's ages. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm the male half of a couple so not your target market, but my notes:
Age range: 18-99 sounds desperate and I'm sure you don't want a 99 year old. It's the little details that make a profile.
There's a whole paragraph in your text that's not needed - we can see your ginger hair, your height etc is in your profile details already.
The rest of it is a bit "meh". Quality over quantity cliché, etc. There's literally hundreds of guys for every single woman on here and unfortunately you just sound like all the others.
Finally.....you've been here three months which is nothing at all. Set realistic expectations - most guys won't get a meet all year. All single women (and most of us couples) get so many offers that we don't need to message guys, so don't expect that to happen. Work on how you search for those that you fancy, and who you match what they are looking for, read their profiles and write intro messages that show you're interested in them and not just in sex with them.
Most will go unread and deleted, but get the right message to the right person at the right time and good luck
Oh....clubs and socials as well.
(Bry)"
wow!!! This helps me too. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm the male half of a couple so not your target market, but my notes:
Age range: 18-99 sounds desperate and I'm sure you don't want a 99 year old. It's the little details that make a profile.
There's a whole paragraph in your text that's not needed - we can see your ginger hair, your height etc is in your profile details already.
The rest of it is a bit "meh". Quality over quantity cliché, etc. There's literally hundreds of guys for every single woman on here and unfortunately you just sound like all the others.
Finally.....you've been here three months which is nothing at all. Set realistic expectations - most guys won't get a meet all year. All single women (and most of us couples) get so many offers that we don't need to message guys, so don't expect that to happen. Work on how you search for those that you fancy, and who you match what they are looking for, read their profiles and write intro messages that show you're interested in them and not just in sex with them.
Most will go unread and deleted, but get the right message to the right person at the right time and good luck
Oh....clubs and socials as well.
(Bry)"
Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses. |
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Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses. "
FWIW decent profile and reckon you will get somewhere but just takes time and you've only been here 7 weeks. Best of luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses.
FWIW decent profile and reckon you will get somewhere but just takes time and you've only been here 7 weeks. Best of luck. "
The thing is, I don't know what is a 'decent' profile. |
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Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses.
FWIW decent profile and reckon you will get somewhere but just takes time and you've only been here 7 weeks. Best of luck.
The thing is, I don't know what is a 'decent' profile. "
I mean that your's is a decent profile for somebody new to the site |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses.
Photos.
(Bry)"
Have added before but to no avail. Maybe it's just a waiting game. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
"Have added before but to no avail. Maybe it's just a waiting game. "
As people have said - women and couples don't need to message (some will, most pick from their inbox) so waiting isn't an answer.
(Bry) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have added before but to no avail. Maybe it's just a waiting game.
As people have said - women and couples don't need to message (some will, most pick from their inbox) so waiting isn't an answer.
(Bry)"
I'm stumped then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Good advice, I'm in a similar situation. Get absolutely no messages or responses. "
There's nothing wrong with your profile. I'd remove the mirror pics (samey, not good quality, don't add anything).
Read people's profiles and send a good first message.
Ultimately you a small fish is a very big pond. You can't just sit and wait, you have you get out there and stand out. |
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"Hi all, I’ve been on this site quite a long time, yet to get my first meet, hardly get any messages. can I ask can you all check my profile out and see give me some much needed advice to get more success off here."
I would avoid having age and height on the blurb.. you have to constantly update it whereas the other section updates age automatically.
Add some interests.. otherwise no idea what common vibes you are going to connect on
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you’re quite right. Similar, not identical!