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How do I get experience if everyone only wants someone with experience?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I’m at a loss here because everyone I message seems to say that but I don’t have it and idk how to get it.
I get everyone has a preference sure but if you’re looking for fwb and not one time thing does it really make a difference. Everyone like’s different things so surely you need to know what the other pwrson wants. You don’t just know that if the bat  help me out guys. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials. "
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
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Socials are usual advertised in meets ans events. They are usually hosted in pubs, and it's just a place where like minded people can chat and make connections. It's nothing more than that.
I'm sure you could Google your local clubs and find out where they are and what's on.
It's not too difficult, you just need to put yourself out there  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I'm sure you could Google your local clubs and find out where they are and what's on.
It's not too difficult, you just need to put yourself out there "
Hmm okay thanks for the info. Sounds like something I’d like to do. I’ll give that a google
Yeah you’re right. I do need to do that and get out there more
Also your profile pic is very interesting. Wish I was that creative haha |
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You age will be a big barrier for some 40-50s seems to be the biggest age group, many will have children your age making you a no go zone
A cougars and cubs night at a club might be a good idea as it's older ladies specifically looking for younger men |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You age will be a big barrier for some 40-50s seems to be the biggest age group, many will have children your age making you a no go zone
A cougars and cubs night at a club might be a good idea as it's older ladies specifically looking for younger men "
No I understand that and I completely agree. It does make it awkward
Hmm okay I’ll have a look and see if I can find one. I did try looking at socials and meets on here but I wish you could sort by location and it’s hard to find ones in my area |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have said, go to a club. Chat to people, be affable. Have zero expectations.  "
Well I had a look and the only local one called the lodge got closed down which sucks |
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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago
Titz Towers, North Notts |
"As others have said, go to a club. Chat to people, be affable. Have zero expectations.
Well I had a look and the only local one called the lodge got closed down which sucks "
Road trip! Fire up the Trans Am |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks "
It’s right that everyone is new to swinging at some stage and we all had to find our way.
To me and sorry if this is incorrect, it’s coming across like you want others to do the work for you. No one can hold your hand throughout the process. You have to put in the hard work for yourself.
Read the relevant posts on the forums. All the info you need is out there if you look.
Effort in reward out. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
It’s right that everyone is new to swinging at some stage and we all had to find our way.
To me and sorry if this is incorrect, it’s coming across like you want others to do the work for you. No one can hold your hand throughout the process. You have to put in the hard work for yourself.
Read the relevant posts on the forums. All the info you need is out there if you look.
Effort in reward out. Good luck."
This  get on Google,find where clubs are,check their websites and reviews to see if they're of interest to you.Similar thing with socials,use the search function on the forums here for starters and pretty much every question you have will be answered.It's not difficult,and if you think it is (and I mean this in the nicest way possible) then perhaps swinging isn't for you |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks "
expect nothing and you may be pleasantly surprised  |
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks "
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out. |
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"I’m at a loss here because everyone I message seems to say that but I don’t have it and idk how to get it.
I get everyone has a preference sure but if you’re looking for fwb and not one time thing does it really make a difference. Everyone like’s different things so surely you need to know what the other pwrson wants. You don’t just know that if the bat help me out guys. "
Poor spelling and punctuation in a profile puts people off; "domaint" isn't even a word mate, and someone who actually is a Dominant knows what they're doing, they don't "give it a go"..... I would just delete those lines altogether fella |
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As others have already advised you OP, look for an organised social event near you. Don't bother with an actual club, they're too much like hard work as a solo guy. An organised social will work much better to get yourself known, and make connections, including getting your profile here verified |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks "
As a Glos local I can tell you there are a couple of socials. Clubs aren't really that close. Remix in Swindon is the place to be lately though. The next Glos social is 11 Nov and they are all really friendly bunch.
Gloucester isn't a bad place for swinging and the social side. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out."
I just wanted to know what to expect if I go to one from people who’ve been.
Yes, i know and I appreciate that I had a look on socials and meets here but there wasn’t a way to sort by location, so I found it quite confusing. I did google clubs. There was one called the lodge which was bulldozed, chameleon club 50 miles away and Xtasia club 45 miles away and ones in London.  Is that reasonable travel distance? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m at a loss here because everyone I message seems to say that but I don’t have it and idk how to get it.
I get everyone has a preference sure but if you’re looking for fwb and not one time thing does it really make a difference. Everyone like’s different things so surely you need to know what the other pwrson wants. You don’t just know that if the bat help me out guys.
Poor spelling and punctuation in a profile puts people off; "domaint" isn't even a word mate, and someone who actually is a Dominant knows what they're doing, they don't "give it a go"..... I would just delete those lines altogether fella "
Well, I put it through a spell checker and read it so, I guess I missed something. Thanks for pointing that out. Okay touché |
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out.
I just wanted to know what to expect if I go to one from people who’ve been.
Yes, i know and I appreciate that I had a look on socials and meets here but there wasn’t a way to sort by location, so I found it quite confusing. I did google clubs. There was one called the lodge which was bulldozed, chameleon club 50 miles away and Xtasia club 45 miles away and ones in London. Is that reasonable travel distance? "
Yes, lots of clubs are worth travelling for. There’s nothing local for me closest is 35 miles away. I don’t mind travelling for a night that’s worth it. Depends what you are looking for really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As others have already advised you OP, look for an organised social event near you. Don't bother with an actual club, they're too much like hard work as a solo guy. An organised social will work much better to get yourself known, and make connections, including getting your profile here verified "
Gotta be honest, didn’t know there was that on here  . I never used the Meets & Events section here but I wish I did before. I thought they meant browsing the forums or googling it. I had a look and couldn’t find any looking but I’ll make my own and see what happens.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
As a Glos local I can tell you there are a couple of socials. Clubs aren't really that close. Remix in Swindon is the place to be lately though. The next Glos social is 11 Nov and they are all really friendly bunch.
Gloucester isn't a bad place for swinging and the social side. "
I’d definitely be interested in doing some socials. Swindon is a bit far for me. If I was closer I’d try it. Really? I had a look on Meets & Events on here and I couldn’t anything. Am I looking in the wrong place? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out.
I just wanted to know what to expect if I go to one from people who’ve been.
Yes, i know and I appreciate that I had a look on socials and meets here but there wasn’t a way to sort by location, so I found it quite confusing. I did google clubs. There was one called the lodge which was bulldozed, chameleon club 50 miles away and Xtasia club 45 miles away and ones in London. Is that reasonable travel distance?
Yes, lots of clubs are worth travelling for. There’s nothing local for me closest is 35 miles away. I don’t mind travelling for a night that’s worth it. Depends what you are looking for really."
Well, I thought clubs were the way to go but after reading some comments, social meets the way forward. Those clubs charge so much of single guys compared to single women |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
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"45 miles away ..... Is that reasonable travel distance? "
Our three closest clubs are all exactly one hour away. Our most recent club visit was Penthouse Playrooms and that was an hour and a half. Unfortunately if there's none local then travel, you must.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
As a Glos local I can tell you there are a couple of socials. Clubs aren't really that close. Remix in Swindon is the place to be lately though. The next Glos social is 11 Nov and they are all really friendly bunch.
Gloucester isn't a bad place for swinging and the social side.
I’d definitely be interested in doing some socials. Swindon is a bit far for me. If I was closer I’d try it. Really? I had a look on Meets & Events on here and I couldn’t anything. Am I looking in the wrong place? "
Search for the profile Glos social page. Message that and get on the list for the 11th.
Unfortunately if you won't travel to Swindon then that's clubs out of the question for you. We got that one or Bristol, wsm, Newport or then looking at Brum way. Does depend how much effort you want to put in.
Glos social is in the city centre. And then there is a Cheltenham social too. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Our three closest clubs are all exactly one hour away. Our most recent club visit was Penthouse Playrooms and that was an hour and a half. Unfortunately if there's none local then travel, you must.
(Bry)"
I had a look on the forums. A lot of people liked that one. Yeah, you’re right. I’ll try and look for socials at the moment |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" Search for the profile Glos social page. Message that and get on the list for the 11th.
Unfortunately if you won't travel to Swindon then that's clubs out of the question for you. We got that one or Bristol, wsm, Newport or then looking at Brum way. Does depend how much effort you want to put in.
Glos social is in the city centre. And then there is a Cheltenham social too. "
Where do I search for that? I tried forum search and the username search and nothing. Couldn’t find a way to type anything in on socials and meets 
Yeah, you’re right. I want to put the effort in, I don’t like driving especially motorways
That would be great |
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out.
I just wanted to know what to expect if I go to one from people who’ve been.
Yes, i know and I appreciate that I had a look on socials and meets here but there wasn’t a way to sort by location, so I found it quite confusing. I did google clubs. There was one called the lodge which was bulldozed, chameleon club 50 miles away and Xtasia club 45 miles away and ones in London. Is that reasonable travel distance?
Yes, lots of clubs are worth travelling for. There’s nothing local for me closest is 35 miles away. I don’t mind travelling for a night that’s worth it. Depends what you are looking for really.
Well, I thought clubs were the way to go but after reading some comments, social meets the way forward. Those clubs charge so much of single guys compared to single women "
The clubs charge single guys more to control their numbers, otherwise the places would be filled with just single guys. Single women enjoy ‘discounted rates’ to encourage more to visit, but if you do attend a club, you will see just how few single women ever do go……  In this respect alone, the organised socials are a far better way to meet women, and get yourself known. Leave the clubs to the couples |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" The clubs charge single guys more to control their numbers, otherwise the places would be filled with just single guys. Single women enjoy ‘discounted rates’ to encourage more to visit, but if you do attend a club, you will see just how few single women ever do go…… In this respect alone, the organised socials are a far better way to meet women, and get yourself known. Leave the clubs to the couples "
Yikes I think I’ll give that a miss unless I’m going with someone.
How do I find organised socials? I tried events & meets? Is there a way to search for them I couldn’t find an option there |
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In true Liz Truss style.....I don't accept the premise of your question...
Many only want to meet people with experience but not everybody as you claim. And some people like us have a preference for people with experience/veris but don't rule out meeting people just starting out if they are polite, tick some boxes and make an effort. |
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks
Four days ago on another thread, we advised you how to find socials in a reasonable travel distance.
As others have said, stop expecting others to do the work for you. Effort in = reward out.
I just wanted to know what to expect if I go to one from people who’ve been.
Yes, i know and I appreciate that I had a look on socials and meets here but there wasn’t a way to sort by location, so I found it quite confusing. I did google clubs. There was one called the lodge which was bulldozed, chameleon club 50 miles away and Xtasia club 45 miles away and ones in London. Is that reasonable travel distance? "
"Is that a reasonable travel distance?"
How do we know what you consider a reasonable distance?
Our favourite club is 160 miles from where I live. Is that reasonable enough for you?
This thread feels like being a travel agent, come trip advisor, come guidance counsellor.
All I'm reading is you asking for information that you can find yourself, albeit with a bit of effort.
And maybe that's the problem, it's too much effort.
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By (user no longer on site)
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This thread feels like being a travel agent, come trip advisor, come guidance counsellor.
All I'm reading is you asking for information that you can find yourself, albeit with a bit of effort.
And maybe that's the problem, it's too much effort.
Winston"
This ^^ C’mon OP, if you want to make this work please stop expecting people to do it all for you.
Plenty of people including myself have already said this to you but it doesn’t seem to have made a difference |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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" "Is that a reasonable travel distance?"
How do we know what you consider a reasonable distance?
Our favourite club is 160 miles from where I live. Is that reasonable enough for you?
This thread feels like being a travel agent, come trip advisor, come guidance counsellor.
All I'm reading is you asking for information that you can find yourself, albeit with a bit of effort.
And maybe that's the problem, it's too much effort.
Winston"
Yeah that’s too far. 160 miles is too far. I might as well message people that are in that radius. What people have said clubs aren’t a great option for single guys so I’m trying to look for socials
It’s not that I don’t want to put the effort in. I do and I learned a lot from this. Yeah and I have looked myself. I checked the forums searches and the meets and events for local socials and nothing |
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By *TG3Man
over a year ago
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This thread feels like being a travel agent, come trip advisor, come guidance counsellor.
All I'm reading is you asking for information that you can find yourself, albeit with a bit of effort.
And maybe that's the problem, it's too much effort.
Winston
This ^^ C’mon OP, if you want to make this work please stop expecting people to do it all for you.
Plenty of people including myself have already said this to you but it doesn’t seem to have made a difference "
he's still living in a dreamworld where he expects to get something from this site without putting much in lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Clubs, organised socials.
Well i don’t know if there’s any local to me in Gloucestershire and Herefordshire area but could you tell me a bit more about the clubs and socials, if I find a local one?
What can I expect when I get there since one never been to one? Do I just chat and see where it goes with someone?
Thanks "
Do some research into clubs you might have to travel just go and socialise you don’t have to jump straight into stuff. We are still very much beginners and found the club scene amazing. |
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" Search for the profile Glos social page. Message that and get on the list for the 11th.
Unfortunately if you won't travel to Swindon then that's clubs out of the question for you. We got that one or Bristol, wsm, Newport or then looking at Brum way. Does depend how much effort you want to put in.
Glos social is in the city centre. And then there is a Cheltenham social too.
Where do I search for that? I tried forum search and the username search and nothing. Couldn’t find a way to type anything in on socials and meets
Yeah, you’re right. I want to put the effort in, I don’t like driving especially motorways
That would be great "
https://m.fabswingers.com/profile/gloucester_social_page
There you go, easy to find on the name search |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" This ^^ C’mon OP, if you want to make this work please stop expecting people to do it all for you.
Plenty of people including myself have already said this to you but it doesn’t seem to have made a difference "
I took your advice and I googled clubs and looked at forums. Not like I didn’t do anything because I did. This is support and advice forum. I’m reading comments and learning more about it through than than if I just randomly googled it. If you wanted to make me feel bad you won. I tried my best to look |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Do some research into clubs you might have to travel just go and socialise you don’t have to jump straight into stuff. We are still very much beginners and found the club scene amazing. "
I had a look at some club reviews and forums. I’ll give it a miss, unless I can find someone to go with. Someone mentioned how there’s not many single women there which is what I’m looking for. There also aren’t in the distance I want to travel. I’ll just stick to social events |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"In true Liz Truss style.....I don't accept the premise of your question...
Many only want to meet people with experience but not everybody as you claim. And some people like us have a preference for people with experience/veris but don't rule out meeting people just starting out if they are polite, tick some boxes and make an effort. "
Well, I stand corrected. I guess the only ones who reply to me are ones who want experience. Be nice to meet someone who doesn’t rule it out I’ll keep looking and look for socials |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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" Search for the profile Glos social page. Message that and get on the list for the 11th.
Unfortunately if you won't travel to Swindon then that's clubs out of the question for you. We got that one or Bristol, wsm, Newport or then looking at Brum way. Does depend how much effort you want to put in.
Glos social is in the city centre. And then there is a Cheltenham social too.
Where do I search for that? I tried forum search and the username search and nothing. Couldn’t find a way to type anything in on socials and meets
Yeah, you’re right. I want to put the effort in, I don’t like driving especially motorways
That would be great
https://m.fabswingers.com/profile/gloucester_social_page
There you go, easy to find on the name search"
Thank you  I got confused by the glos and I didn’t think to put the full name or search it on names here. I tried googling it and forums and found nothing. I feel so stupid |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
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"In true Liz Truss style.....I don't accept the premise of your question...
Many only want to meet people with experience but not everybody as you claim. And some people like us have a preference for people with experience/veris but don't rule out meeting people just starting out if they are polite, tick some boxes and make an effort.
Well, I stand corrected. I guess the only ones who reply to me are ones who want experience. Be nice to meet someone who doesn’t rule it out I’ll keep looking and look for socials "
OP. Look on the Home Page here, then scroll down to Club Reviews. These are listed in geographical areas across the UK & beyond. Then within each club listed will be a website and other relevant information.
Take heed of what others have said. Yes, it is daunting, but you are competing with 1000's of other guys, all seeking the same goal.
You have admitted you don't accommodate (and why not) which may go against you, but at least you've been honest.
There are numerous other posts on this issue in the Forum pages Index, where useful advice and tips have been dispensed before.
But as said already, it takes time, and your success will only be measured by your effort. Be prepared for knock-backs, nil responses and have the patience of a Saint!!
But it does work! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" If you wanted to make me feel bad you won. I tried my best to look "
OP don’t even go there. Why would I want to make you feel bad?? I stand by what I said. People are giving you advice but you counter it every time with a reason why it won’t work for you.
I wish you good luck on Fab but you’ll need to not be so sensitive. |
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My first club visit was in Manchester which is over an hour away. Might be worth booking a cheap Travelodge for the night in advance. Check if the club is dress down (towel or boxer shorts for men) or nightclub style, smart clothes. Expect nerves and go with no expectations. Socialise with good manners just like any other night out. Clubs usually will give you a tour if you say your a newbie. Disagree that clubs aren't good fun for single men. Just be aware that some nights there isn't a connection and that is part of the experience. Good luck |
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" OP. Look on the Home Page here, then scroll down to Club Reviews. These are listed in geographical areas across the UK & beyond. Then within each club listed will be a website and other relevant information.
Take heed of what others have said. Yes, it is daunting, but you are competing with 1000's of other guys, all seeking the same goal.
You have admitted you don't accommodate (and why not) which may go against you, but at least you've been honest.
There are numerous other posts on this issue in the Forum pages Index, where useful advice and tips have been dispensed before.
But as said already, it takes time, and your success will only be measured by your effort. Be prepared for knock-backs, nil responses and have the patience of a Saint!!
But it does work!"
I had a look at the clubs on there
Yeah it sure is hard being a single guy on here.
I understand that not accommodating is off putting for some and I get that but like you said, it’s good to be honest. I wanted to clarify that I’m not cheating on anyone by saying the reason
I’ll have a look at what others have said on other forums about getting verified ms being noticed more
Yeah I get that. Gotten a lot of nil responses and unread messages but that’s to be expected. Would it help if I made a fresh profile? |
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"Gotten a lot of nil responses and unread messages but that’s to be expected. Would it help if I made a fresh profile? "
No, in fact it would probably make it worse as some people are reluctant to engage with newbies.
Opening a fresh profile will not change anything regarding the questions you have asked above, or the responses you have been given. |
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" OP. Look on the Home Page here, then scroll down to Club Reviews. These are listed in geographical areas across the UK & beyond. Then within each club listed will be a website and other relevant information.
Take heed of what others have said. Yes, it is daunting, but you are competing with 1000's of other guys, all seeking the same goal.
You have admitted you don't accommodate (and why not) which may go against you, but at least you've been honest.
There are numerous other posts on this issue in the Forum pages Index, where useful advice and tips have been dispensed before.
But as said already, it takes time, and your success will only be measured by your effort. Be prepared for knock-backs, nil responses and have the patience of a Saint!!
But it does work!
I had a look at the clubs on there
Yeah it sure is hard being a single guy on here.
I understand that not accommodating is off putting for some and I get that but like you said, it’s good to be honest. I wanted to clarify that I’m not cheating on anyone by saying the reason
I’ll have a look at what others have said on other forums about getting verified ms being noticed more
Yeah I get that. Gotten a lot of nil responses and unread messages but that’s to be expected. Would it help if I made a fresh profile? "
What would you say in a fresh profile that you're not saying in this one?
Seems pointless and IMHO you'd be having less success on a newbie profile.
The problem isn't your profile.
Your lack of effort is the problem. Your not using all the tools and resources Fab provides you with is the problem. Your wanting everyone else to spoon feed you is the problem.
Yes, it's tough for single men on Fab. That's why you have to use every tool, every resource and make a huge effort.
Nothing on Fab is going to come to you. You and you alone are responsible here.
I've just looked at the meets and events page.
Searching your area for social meets and ticking all boxes I found 14 profiles, all looking for a social meet.
Took me 10 seconds.
Spread your wings a bit further and you'll find a load more.
Winston |
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"No, in fact it would probably make it worse as some people are reluctant to engage with newbies.
Opening a fresh profile will not change anything regarding the questions you have asked above, or the responses you have been given. "
Yeah I guess you’re right about that |
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" What would you say in a fresh profile that you're not saying in this one?
Seems pointless and IMHO you'd be having less success on a newbie profile.
The problem isn't your profile.
Your lack of effort is the problem. Your not using all the tools and resources Fab provides you with is the problem. Your wanting everyone else to spoon feed you is the problem.
Yes, it's tough for single men on Fab. That's why you have to use every tool, every resource and make a huge effort.
Nothing on Fab is going to come to you. You and you alone are responsible here.
I've just looked at the meets and events page.
Searching your area for social meets and ticking all boxes I found 14 profiles, all looking for a social meet.
Took me 10 seconds.
Spread your wings a bit further and you'll find a load more.
Winston "
Idk. I guess you’re right. If I’m not getting any now, making a new one wouldn’t help as I still wouldn’t be verified
Yeah I had a look at meets and events myself. I found where you’re looking. I’m just looking for single females not couples or men. There was 12 but I didn’t meet their requirements.
I also looked at the glos social page profile but can’t message them because I’m not 28. that was a dead end
I’ll make my own and see if anyone responds and browse some forums on similar topics |
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If you only want to meet women for a FWB relationship, why bother with Fab? When I was a single male, admittedly nearly a decade ago, I had many such relationships via PoF or similar or what used to be the traditional way of meeting people, pubs and clubs, by just being honest about what I was looking for. Not stating it as bluntly as I want a FWB but basically saying writing all the stuff you would normally put on a dating profile but stating I wanted the fun of a relationship with no commitment. There are loads of women who want the same who aren’t on Fab. . They don’t advertise the fact because they know they would be inundated. |
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"If you only want to meet women for a FWB relationship, why bother with Fab? When I was a single male, admittedly nearly a decade ago, I had many such relationships via PoF or similar or what used to be the traditional way of meeting people, pubs and clubs, by just being honest about what I was looking for. Not stating it as bluntly as I want a FWB but basically saying writing all the stuff you would normally put on a dating profile but stating I wanted the fun of a relationship with no commitment. There are loads of women who want the same who aren’t on Fab. . They don’t advertise the fact because they know they would be inundated."
It’s more direct about your intentions in here compared to that Well, I’ve tried dating sites for that but didn't have much luck finding someone for short term relationship. I guess I could give it another go if it doesn’t work out on here |
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