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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'm quite happy for my man to meet couples and other women ,however I've seen quite a few posts where women won't let their men play with women .
How does your partner feel about it is what's most important,is he happy with that arrangement ?. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"He's happy as he gets off on me being played with. Just wondered if I was the only one  "
It's not for me, but I have seen lots of other couples where the woman doesn't want the man playing with ladies .
If everyone's happy with it that's the main thing . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi Fire here,
Our dynamic is that I’ll only do soft play with other ladies, whereas Smoke can play fully with both ladies and gentleman. I don’t have any problem with that as penetrative sex isn’t the be-all-and-end all for me (my personal feeling is a lot of the time soft play can be a lot more cerebral than full intercourse). |
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As long as everyone's happy then I don't see what's wrong with it! Nobody judges cuckold couples and that's rather one sided.
I have a lot of hangups about Mr Fox playing with other women, but we've communicated and I know what I'm comfortable with now  |
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It doesn’t matter what other people do or think, you have to have the boundaries that work for your relationship.
As long as you are honest and up front with people that’s all that matters.
We meet people we full swap with, others we soft swap with and we’ve both watched the other have fun. It’s all down to what works for you as a couple. |
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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago
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I don't stop my husband from meeting who he likes but when we meet as a couple I'm not comfortable seeing him with another woman at all and don't want to know details of when he meets with another woman alone |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
I've seen this dynamic more often than any other in clubs to be fair ... I've also ended up on a nasty situation where the guy tried to play with me while his wife was off having fun with my friend and had a guy in this sort of relationship try to touch me on the sly in the jacuzzi. So now I avoid that situation... however it is very common
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
This is the same as our relationship. I (male) have no interest in playing with another woman. Mrs likes to play with other guys, both alone and with me, and I occasionally play with guys alone in the right situation.
We don't play with couples as it wouldn't work for us.
She's always dominant with guys, and we have quote a sub/Domme relationship.
As long as you're not breeding resentment by denying him, I'd just go with whatever you guys both enjoy. |
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My partner and I are a bit like that
I have no issue with him playing with women & couples but I don't enjoy watching so in a club it can be awkward - but it's not just him I can't watch I don't like watching others either I just don't have the voyeur gene
So generally at a club we look for guys for threesomes for me & he has meets via here
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"My partner and I are a bit like that
I have no issue with him playing with women & couples but I don't enjoy watching so in a club it can be awkward - but it's not just him I can't watch I don't like watching others either I just don't have the voyeur gene
So generally at a club we look for guys for threesomes for me & he has meets via here
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Glad it's not just me who isn't much of a voyeur! |
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"My partner and I are a bit like that
I have no issue with him playing with women & couples but I don't enjoy watching so in a club it can be awkward - but it's not just him I can't watch I don't like watching others either I just don't have the voyeur gene
So generally at a club we look for guys for threesomes for me & he has meets via here
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That's interesting. I am more than happy for her to play with whoever she likes, but I have no desire to watch it. We enjoy talking about it after though.
I'm glad someone else has that gene missing too! |
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"My partner and I are a bit like that
I have no issue with him playing with women & couples but I don't enjoy watching so in a club it can be awkward - but it's not just him I can't watch I don't like watching others either I just don't have the voyeur gene
So generally at a club we look for guys for threesomes for me & he has meets via here
That's interesting. I am more than happy for her to play with whoever she likes, but I have no desire to watch it. We enjoy talking about it after though.
I'm glad someone else has that gene missing too! "
That's me, I love hearing about what he's been up to but i just don't enjoy watching
If we are in a club and people have left a door open, he enjoys having a peak and honestly im stood 20 foot back against a wall I feel like I'm intruding on someone's moment by watching even when they've said it's fine |
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"Why do you allow it? Or put up with it? X"
Assuming you're replying to me.
Just because I don't enjoy watching her doesn't mean I don't enjoy it happening.
It's a lot deeper than that, but essentially I enjoy the fact she is free to do what she wants.
I don't like watching paint dry, but I like looking at it afterwards |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What are you happy with and what are you not happy with?
If you use reply & quote rather than just reply people will know who you are replying too x"
Thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why do you allow it? Or put up with it? X
Assuming you're replying to me.
Just because I don't enjoy watching her doesn't mean I don't enjoy it happening.
It's a lot deeper than that, but essentially I enjoy the fact she is free to do what she wants.
I don't like watching paint dry, but I like looking at it afterwards "
That makes sense! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We enjoy an MFM and I love to be involved and also to see Dora enjoying herself but I think it would destroy Dora to see me with another woman.
That’s simply her character and it’s in her nature and I accept, respect and love her.
I’m truly very happy. |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
Your defiantly not alone. We have had mmf fun and this was a first for us..never had done anything like it before so my hubby was very very nervous of seeing me have fun with another man, albeit he is bi as we both are it was still very daunting for him and for me...but I take my hat of to him because he went through with it, during play he found it a huge turn on and loved it..however we have not ventured into the ffm meet yet....I feel the same as he did but possibly 10 x worse...but I really want to try it because if we don't then I will never k ow how I will feel and we could be missing out on some seriously horny meets, thinking about him being with another woman drives me crazy and get really turned in by the thought but reality could be very diffrent. But until we do find a couple or a lady I will never know. |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
If he doesn’t want to play with other women then fair enough but if he likes attention of other woman and wants to play then I think it’s selfish and one sided relationship. Definitely a red flag for troubles ahead. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We enjoy an MFM and I love to be involved and also to see Dora enjoying herself but I think it would destroy Dora to see me with another woman.
That’s simply her character and it’s in her nature and I accept, respect and love her.
I’m truly very happy. "
You sound exactly like my partner. That's lovely to here! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
If he doesn’t want to play with other women then fair enough but if he likes attention of other woman and wants to play then I think it’s selfish and one sided relationship. Definitely a red flag for troubles ahead."
He has no interest in other females |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
Kinda sums us up really lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
This is exactly us!! Hubby loves to see me with other guys, sometimes he plays too and sometimes he doesn't.
I have seen him play with another woman as we used to full swap with couples but I don't think I could do it in a threesome scenario, I would be ok with him meeting alone but he doesn't want that  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As long as everyone’s happy I see no issue.
I’ve had some negative experiences with jealous wives not liking hubby looking at or talking to me in clubs though but as long as that’s not an issue I don’t think a couples dynamic matters to anyone but them! |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I believe it's a give and take if you're happy to play with other men he must also be happy to enjoy something that he wishes to "
I would say it doesn't work like that. Everyone has to be comfortable rather than a ,well you are doing that so why can't I type of thing |
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"I believe it's a give and take if you're happy to play with other men he must also be happy to enjoy something that he wishes to
I would say it doesn't work like that. Everyone has to be comfortable rather than a ,well you are doing that so why can't I type of thing"
Totally agree. Generally speaking, it should be joint pleasure and enjoyment that you as a couple experience, and that certainly doesn't mean you both need to play, if that's what works for you.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm quite happy for my man to meet couples and other women ,however I've seen quite a few posts where women won't let their men play with women .
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Is that maybe a bit strong? Mrs here has had a pretty shitty relationship in the past that created trust issues ie he shagged around sometimes very blatantly with women that did the chasing.
It hasn't prevented us from indulgence with other ladies but there are intentions barriers that I need to observe and if a lady was "too keen" and not showing enough interest in her own man the flags would go up and I'd step back. That's not the same thing as not being allowed. Sometimes guys are poor communicators (no shit Sherlock) and will verbalise situations like ours in an "I'm not allowed but I'm happy for her to" way.
You are right though it's what the couple themselves have discussed and are equally content with that determines what they should do. It's very obvious very quickly when there's a disconnect! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lol imagine if you spent the time talking with your man about how he feels rather than talking with everyone but him about it? Because frankly, no one else's opinion should matter in this but his... |
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"I believe it's a give and take if you're happy to play with other men he must also be happy to enjoy something that he wishes to
I would say it doesn't work like that. Everyone has to be comfortable rather than a ,well you are doing that so why can't I type of thing"
Exactly that.
Tit-for-tat “if you can then I must” isn’t the sign of a healthy relationship. Both parties being comfortable and happy with their boundaries, even if they’re different, is. |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
I am wondering why you are only comfortable with your partner receiving attention from guys only…….
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
The key is to chat between yourselves and decide what works for you. Everybody's experiences and wants on Fab will be different. If you are both happy with the agreement then fine. We can't stress how important communication is.
If you are both happy with the arrangement then there is not a problem and there will be people out there who are happy to meet your needs. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
I am wondering why you are only comfortable with your partner receiving attention from guys only…….
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Just get jealous when its ladies ? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
The key is to chat between yourselves and decide what works for you. Everybody's experiences and wants on Fab will be different. If you are both happy with the agreement then fine. We can't stress how important communication is.
If you are both happy with the arrangement then there is not a problem and there will be people out there who are happy to meet your needs. "
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
I am wondering why you are only comfortable with your partner receiving attention from guys only…….
Just get jealous when its ladies ? "
Awww I see, well if the arrangement works for you both… Why not |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I manage watching my partner do soft play with other women, but I can't watch him having full sex with another woman. It just feels too intimate and the one time we full swapped it upset me.
So we just agreed to soft swap only. ATM just meeting TVs.
This is such a personal thing. What's okay for one person isn't for the next. We are all very different, and that's okay.
As long as you and your partner are happy, that's all that matters. If that arrangement works, go for it and enjoy! Xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
I am wondering why you are only comfortable with your partner receiving attention from guys only…….
Just get jealous when its ladies ?
Awww I see, well if the arrangement works for you both… Why not "
I'm the same, don't get jealous about guys but do about women! |
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By *asmartsCouple
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
Pretty much the same here and it doesn’t bother me at all |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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As long as you are both happy with whatever you have agreed between you then it's no issue.
I know many couples with all kinds of dynamics and as long as they both are happy and in agreement with what they've decided, then it's all good. |
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"I believe it's a give and take if you're happy to play with other men he must also be happy to enjoy something that he wishes to
I would say it doesn't work like that. Everyone has to be comfortable rather than a ,well you are doing that so why can't I type of thing
Exactly that.
Tit-for-tat “if you can then I must” isn’t the sign of a healthy relationship. Both parties being comfortable and happy with their boundaries, even if they’re different, is."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't do it unless both happy too play .my friend was in your situation and went ahead and didn't go too plan and they split up .She played swapped and then he did but she didn't like it when he wanted too play .Everyone is different . |
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I say each to their own and there’s nothing wrong with this at all. Our dynamic is different as I love watching hubby with other women and he loves watching me with other men (and women). As long as you’re both happy then that’s all that matters x |
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"Don't do it unless both happy too play .my friend was in your situation and went ahead and didn't go too plan and they split up .She played swapped and then he did but she didn't like it when he wanted too play .Everyone is different ."
Couldn’t agree more. |
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Like many have already said, it's about respecting your boundaries, as long as you're both happy with them. For instance, on my couples profile, my missus is only after females and isn't looking for other men so it considerably reduces our opportunities, but that's how it is and good people will respect our choices. |
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I'm happy for her to play with guys , she is happy for me to play with guys , which is great as I'm bi , we have had some great MMF fun .. but we don't ( or haven't so far) played with a couple as her isn't ready for and interaction between me and another lady , we are both fine with this , it's our boundaries which have been discussed and will be under regular review to make sure we are both happy and feeling ok with our dynamic |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Heck this gave me a flash back of a time we met a couple in a club, he didn't fully play. Changed his mind and asked to play, the Mrs went mental and stormed out 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
Everyone is individual - and as long as it works for you as a couple then that’s all that matters
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"Personally we only meet couples where everyone plays as we’re very much full swap. If it’s good for the goose and all that……Lots of dynamics on here so just do whatever works for you "
This is our dynamic also. We rather cpl meets where we are all nvolved with the play and not her go with the guy of the cpl and me
With his mrs. Jo and i get a bigger kink of a all of us in it together meet than seperating off for sex with the opposite of the cpl. John. |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ?
If he doesn’t want to play with other women then fair enough but if he likes attention of other woman and wants to play then I think it’s selfish and one sided relationship. Definitely a red flag for troubles ahead.
He has no interest in other females "
But if he does would you let him play? |
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"I'm happy for her to play with guys , she is happy for me to play with guys , which is great as I'm bi , we have had some great MMF fun .. but we don't ( or haven't so far) played with a couple as her isn't ready for and interaction between me and another lady , we are both fine with this , it's our boundaries which have been discussed and will be under regular review to make sure we are both happy and feeling ok with our dynamic "
This is us to..Happy to play bi mmf but not yet ventured I to ffm or full swap..not ever soft swap with other couples or single ladies. |
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"Personally we only meet couples where everyone plays as we’re very much full swap. If it’s good for the goose and all that……Lots of dynamics on here so just do whatever works for you
This is our dynamic also. We rather cpl meets where we are all nvolved with the play and not her go with the guy of the cpl and me
With his mrs. Jo and i get a bigger kink of a all of us in it together meet than seperating off for sex with the opposite of the cpl. John. "
Same as that, always same room action as then you get to see the other enjoying themselves |
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
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By *rnmrs40Couple
over a year ago
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"He's happy as he gets off on me being played with. Just wondered if I was the only one "
No you’re not the only one. We are very similar. I (mr) don’t play with others but mrs does. She has been very clear from the start that currently she doesn’t feel comfortable with me being with anyone else. However I’m not particularly interested anyway, more into seeing mrs playing.
She still includes me in any situation even if that is just asking if I’m ok with it or not and she would stop if I asked her to. Not that I have so far. We are still fairly new to it all and she has not fucked anyone else yet but just watching her give a hJ or bj or even just kissing another guy is so hot. |
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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago
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"Hello guys just want some information. My partner (the M) wants me to have attention from any man however Im not too happy about him having attention from other women only men as he's bi. Does anyone else experience this ? "
Yep, we're in the same place in that I'm more than happy to have another guy for us both but the boss says no ladies.
I don't think you're particularly unusual (but then I would say that) and hopefully you'll find someone just right for you  |
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It's what your both comfortable with as a couple we all have our own dynamics.
I (Mrs) like mr playing with other woman but I'm not that interested in playing with other men only women, this doesn't bother him or me, it's just what I'm comfortable with.
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"He's happy as he gets off on me being played with. Just wondered if I was the only one
No you’re not the only one. We are very similar. I (mr) don’t play with others but mrs does. She has been very clear from the start that currently she doesn’t feel comfortable with me being with anyone else. However I’m not particularly interested anyway, more into seeing mrs playing.
She still includes me in any situation even if that is just asking if I’m ok with it or not and she would stop if I asked her to. Not that I have so far. We are still fairly new to it all and she has not fucked anyone else yet but just watching her give a hJ or bj or even just kissing another guy is so hot. "
This is how we began our journey x |
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At the end of the day as a couple it's all about communication.
You agree what you are happy with.
If that is for the M to not play with another woman fine.
You have to accept the potential in a club women may talk to him (unless he's wearing a placard!). But then you all just talk and if the question is raised answer re your dynamic.
What I'd say is as you go through the journey keep talking to each other because things can change...
If for example a time arose where M wanted to start playing with both M and F then clearly you need to be on the same page ...
If not you could end up forcing your view on him or visa versa and that's where issues arise and relationships can suffer |
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Everyone will have their own "rules" me and my fella meet as a couple, and both as singles. I'm more than happy for him to pop off an play as he is for me. We do lean more towards hotwifing scenarios though. I think you have to set your own boundaries for now and just see how things go, you may find that it's just not your thing letting your fella play alone. And you know what OP that's absolutely fine. It's your choice. X |
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