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"Hey everyone, I'm a bit tired of this site and rarely use it as I'm yet to get a meet, have barely chatted to anyone much either in the two or so years of my account Any words of advice? "Well if you are serious about meeting then I’d change the “rarely use it” and start using it more… | |||
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I like your pics but definitely can't hurt to have more. We could do with more of Mr Fox in all fairness.
Focus more on what you have to give others here, again something we need to alter in our own profile  - Xeno | |||
"Hey everyone, I'm a bit tired of this site and rarely use it as I'm yet to get a meet, have barely chatted to anyone much either in the two or so years of my account Any words of advice? "It is indeed hard work but you will only get out of it as much as you put in and occasionally reviewing your profile yourself to see if it would attract the kind of attenton you would like is priceless, what we write in our bio and the photo effort is not always the best even if it seemed OK at the time so constantly check it and change it. Ther'es someone on here for everyone if you have the patience. | |||
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"Hey everyone, I'm a bit tired of this site and rarely use it as I'm yet to get a meet, have barely chatted to anyone much either in the two or so years of my account Any words of advice? "Hello OP, Can I just pick out a few words from your opening post? bit tired of this site rarely use it I'm yet to get a meet barely chatted Judging by the above, it's clear that you have had a negative experience in the time you have been here. That's a shame, but rest assured you are not alone in finding it difficult to get a meet, it happens to all profile types. However, as has already been pointed out this site requires effort as well as a healthy dose of luck. You do have some factors that will reduce your chances of a meet on here and it's best to recognise them. The most obvious is that you are a single guy and not everyone is looking for single guys. Those that are have a wide and varied choice and so it can be difficult to stick out from the crowd. There are numerous threads on the forums that might help you to do so. The second factor riding against you is the way you use this site. If you 'barely use it' the chances are that local people notice that you've not been online for weeks/months and therefore don't bother to communicate. On the subject of using the site, don't rely solely on messages. During your two years on this site you have only used the fora twice before this thread. That isn't surprising as the fora are only a portion of the site and not to everyones taste, but the fora are a good way to 'join in' and make an impression. It might be worth noting that their has recently been a thread about a social event in Cork this weekend. Like wise the chatroom can be a good way to get to chat with people, if that's something you'd care to explore at some point. The third thing that may hold you back is your age. Don't fret it, you can't do anything about it, but it's wise to be aware that some women will not be interested just because of your age. Use the 'I must match meet their age requirements too' checkbox when you are carrying out a search. The fourth factor is again something you cannot easily change. You live in a small town of around 6-7000 people. The chances are that their are perhaps two dozen people close by that may be swingers, but what are the chances that you match what they are looking for and vice versa? Pretty slim I'd guess. Ok, I get that you can travel, so let's look wider afield. At present their are 33.5K users online, but having carried out a search of women that are in County Cork, that want to meet a man of your age and that have been online in the past week and the results are very small. Just 11 women match that description. Conversely there have been over 300 men between 25 and 30 and looking to meet a woman online in the past three days. Perhaps when you look a tthe stark comparrison of those figures it might help you to appreciate the numbers game a little more and why men have to put more effort in than women to stand out from the crowd. Don't be despondant though, you might be able to turn things around, it's all down to you. As others have said your profile is important to make the right impression. At the moment it is contradictory and I'd suggest that the opening line is not hitting the right note. Whether you take on board what I have written here, or others have written on this thread is of course up to you. It's your profile, so it's your choice, but perhaps there is enough collective food for thought. Good luck whatever you decide | |||
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