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Is our profile a bit harsh??!!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Harsh? No
Clear in identifying what you’re after? Yes
Lacking in any va-va-voom? Yes
Would I bother to message you (even if i was what you’re looking for )? No
But it’s your profile and it’s clear that you’ve probably had a gut full of twats messaging you so sometimes the direct approach is good.
Like someone said above, it might turn some good people off, but I expect you still get enough demand to fill your boots anyway   |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was a single guy that ticked all those many boxes I think I’d be put off about halfway to be honest but as the majority of single men on Fab don’t “read” past the pictures I would say that it’s just a bit hopeful.
Has it stopped the “how’s you’s” and the random friend requests?
If it has worked in attracting the men that you’re looking for then it’s ok isn’t it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It could be worded much better, it comes across to me quite aggressive, not approachable.
Many here don't want to read through long profiles and will either skip to the next or message anyway.
You can word it to express the same but more appealing and a little shorter.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Harsh? No
Clear in identifying what you’re after? Yes
Lacking in any va-va-voom? Yes
Would I bother to message you (even if i was what you’re looking for)? No
But it’s your profile and it’s clear that you’ve probably had a gut full of twats messaging you so sometimes the direct approach is good.
Like someone said above, it might turn some good people off, but I expect you still get enough demand to fill your boots anyway "
Trouble is, it's not likely to put off the chancers they seem clearly frustrated by, and is more likely to put off any decent, thrill seekers that may be otherwise interested.
We all are frustrated with certain aspects and attitudes within the site, it's how we respond that makes the difference. |
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By *tew008Man
over a year ago
edinburgh |
"Harsh? No
Clear in identifying what you’re after? Yes
Lacking in any va-va-voom? Yes
Would I bother to message you (even if i was what you’re looking for)? No
But it’s your profile and it’s clear that you’ve probably had a gut full of twats messaging you so sometimes the direct approach is good.
Like someone said above, it might turn some good people off, but I expect you still get enough demand to fill your boots anyway
Trouble is, it's not likely to put off the chancers they seem clearly frustrated by, and is more likely to put off any decent, thrill seekers that may be otherwise interested.
We all are frustrated with certain aspects and attitudes within the site, it's how we respond that makes the difference. "
True chancers won’t read it and try regardless. I wouldn’t message as it does read as if you know what you’re looking for. So any attempt to contact wouldn’t amount to anything. |
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By *s1981 OP Couple
over a year ago
halifax |
Modified the profile to show what we originally had before we updated at the weekend.
I'm guessing those who responded saying there is nothing about what we offer to a potential meet never read that far down our profile as it was all there. Guess that's telling us its too long anyway.
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"Only one minor niggle, if only the female of the couple is meeting maybe cut the interests list to what she is into?"
Yes agreed. Same room swapping for example not going to work. Or adult parties. Not much chance of watching them on webcam  |
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By *s1981 OP Couple
over a year ago
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"Only one minor niggle, if only the female of the couple is meeting maybe cut the interests list to what she is into?
Yes agreed. Same room swapping for example not going to work. Or adult parties. Not much chance of watching them on webcam "
We could remove but those still are overall interests and if the situation ever arise where we can
play together then that is what we would be up for.
We were kind of hoping we would have got Mrs L's first solo meet done by now but proving near impossible. A mix of her being very particular about who she wants to meet and also most potential matches back off as soon as they realise we can't accom is holding it all up.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What we have noticed on this site is that when looking at profiles there are lots of reasons why folk are here. Many are not after simple partner swapping. Some don't even want to have sex with another person, or only want one of the partners to swap.
Your profile looks ok though we cannot be certain as to if you are after couples and full swap. If not we'd suggest taking off anything that suggests swapping at all.
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"Only one minor niggle, if only the female of the couple is meeting maybe cut the interests list to what she is into?
Yes agreed. Same room swapping for example not going to work. Or adult parties. Not much chance of watching them on webcam
We could remove but those still are overall interests and if the situation ever arise where we can
play together then that is what we would be up for.
We were kind of hoping we would have got Mrs L's first solo meet done by now but proving near impossible. A mix of her being very particular about who she wants to meet and also most potential matches back off as soon as they realise we can't accom is holding it all up. "
You can always add back once you are able to play together. Doesn't sound at all likely at the moment. But in the schema of things not a big deal. Good luck sorting out first meet. Perhaps hotel and split the cost? |
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"Only one minor niggle, if only the female of the couple is meeting maybe cut the interests list to what she is into?
Yes agreed. Same room swapping for example not going to work. Or adult parties. Not much chance of watching them on webcam
We could remove but those still are overall interests and if the situation ever arise where we can
play together then that is what we would be up for.
We were kind of hoping we would have got Mrs L's first solo meet done by now but proving near impossible. A mix of her being very particular about who she wants to meet and also most potential matches back off as soon as they realise we can't accom is holding it all up. "
There's lots of men who are happy to meet in a hotel |
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