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Why can’t I get meets?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Probably lots of things, probably mostly related to you.
Search the forums, covered to death in here.
Very quickly though, better pics, better profile, maybe don't refer to women as older or having a sweet tooth, suspect that'll draw out the ick rather quick.
Go to clubs, socials, realise that you're at a huge disadvantage by virtue of the numbers and not being owed a damn thing.
So reflect honestly, improve your approach and chances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Those who feel the breath of sadness
Sit down next to me
Those who find they're touched by madness
Sit down next to me
Those who find themselves ridiculous
Sit down next to me
I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.  |
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Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.
Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.
Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light. "
Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset! |
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"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.
Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light.
Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset! "
Yeah, but that's advice benefiting women, not men.
(You'll notice I'm not saying anything specific - that's deliberate. "Women don't like X" means people might get rid of X. Whereas "display yourself in your best light" could be "my X is amazing, I love my X, I'll display it more". Could only highlight themselves as they are) |
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By *JandCMCouple
over a year ago
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Not getting meets is not just a male thing.
As a couple we have been let down twice trying to get a second M for an MMF n twice arranged via message n phone n they still haven't turned up.
Got one more meet arranged n if same happens then that will be it for us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Single guys often struggle on here, as there are so many of you. Eight weeks isn't a long time.
Think about how your profile might come across to those you're looking for, and how you might display yourself in your best light.
Honestly I'd rather some people come across as how they really are... Would have saved me a lot of time and upset!
Yeah, but that's advice benefiting women, not men.
(You'll notice I'm not saying anything specific - that's deliberate. "Women don't like X" means people might get rid of X. Whereas "display yourself in your best light" could be "my X is amazing, I love my X, I'll display it more". Could only highlight themselves as they are)"
Good point given.
So if I was a salesman, (woman who’s trying to share my body with someone I like)
I do t want to hear them walk into my showroom saying ‘I can’t find good sex’. Because I’d need to ask ‘what are you looking for?’
But if a customer walked in and I over heard them (or read their profile) say ‘ I’d love a woman that’s was into hard fucking and loved a big cock, because that’s what I’d give her!
I’d step in and say ‘dude, I’m the girl for you!!
I went to a weird place for a moment there. 
Op. My point is, tell people what you want and who you are somehow, maybe that might work, maybe it won’t, as I’m a single guy to, and I know jack sh*t apparently.  |
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Everyone comes to FAB thinking it'll be an easy fuck
The reality is it's the total opposite, 1000 guys for every woman or couple means every lady would need to be meeting 3x a week for every guy to get just 1 meet a year
There's probably a better chance of you winning the lottery than getting a meet on here
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Everyone comes to FAB thinking it'll be an easy fuck
The reality is it's the total opposite, 1000 guys for every woman or couple means every lady would need to be meeting 3x a week for every guy to get just 1 meet a year
There's probably a better chance of you winning the lottery than getting a meet on here
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Guess I should by a ticket then |
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So you think you can create a profile, chose a mature woman and off you go?
Get rid of the cock pics
Update your profile with a little more content
Be patient and polite
Lower your expectation
And just for the record, even mature women have age ranges! Not all mature women seek a much younger guy |
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Every one likes different things about a profile but it's hard for a single guy on hate some just like the fantasy of it I'm not holding out if I meet someone at all I ve been there on a mfm was very good but you have to connect that what's hard for a couple to find good luck ?? |
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"Those who feel the breath of sadness
Sit down next to me
Those who find they're touched by madness
Sit down next to me
Those who find themselves ridiculous
Sit down next to me
I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push. "
?? that song!!! |
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"Those who feel the breath of sadness
Sit down next to me
Those who find they're touched by madness
Sit down next to me
Those who find themselves ridiculous
Sit down next to me
I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push. "
Love that song!!! |
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"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?  "
Hi OP,
It's worth saying from the outset that there probably isn't anything wrong with you, it's just for one reason or another people haven't been interested. That's no different to the realisation that not every person you pass on the street wants to have sex with you.
The forums are full of advice for people in the same position as you and the vast majority of it is generic. Just have a look around and see what you think applies to you.
To be more specific though, it would be hard to know why you cant arrange any meets without knowing what you do to try and get one. For example someone spending 12 hours a day reading profiles and sending thoughtful messages is probably going to have more success than a person that logs in for five minutes every two days and floods the Internet with winks, friends requests and copy and paste 'Hi, HRU?' type messages.
To be even more specific again we'll share a few thoughts with you. What you do with those thoughts is up to you. Your profile consists of less than 30 words and pretty much repaeats what is already written on your profile in the 'looking for' section. Three of your five pics are dick pics, which not everyone wants to see. You cannot accomodate which will indicate to many people that you are either living at home or with someone and playing away. Couple that with the flowery bedspread and can of Silvikrin hair spray visible in one pic and it's probably a fair assumption that there is a woman living in the same place in some capacity. What you do is up to you, but people will make assumptions and swiftly move on.
Good luck
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There’s nothing wrong with you, there is however 12 million single guys on here (slight exaggeration) looking for a quick fuck and it doesn’t work like that.
Head to a club chat to people who will verify you or arrange a social drink get verified so people know your genuine. Like anything this isn’t as easy as everyone seems to think it is when they sign up. |
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By *JstarsoloWoman
over a year ago
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Unfortunately it's not a very well written profile. Looks as if almost no effort has been put into it. So you have a sweet tooth for older women. We're not gobstoppers.
What can you offer other people, aside from the obvious, that's what I would want to know.
You've been here for 8 weeks. It's not pick and mix and off you go. Some effort, care and attention is needed to stand out from the crowd. Good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Those who feel the breath of sadness
Sit down next to me
Those who find they're touched by madness
Sit down next to me
Those who find themselves ridiculous
Sit down next to me
I try finding a social, talk to people face to face, try a club, that’s the advice that was always given and the one I’d always push.
Love that song!!!"
Same.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me? "
There is nothing wrong with you. What you have to remember is
For every single guy like you there is thousands of single women and couples.
Your profile says nothing about what you are looking for or what you offer to people if they meet you.
If you want to meet stand out against the thousands of other single guys. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
Op
Their is plenty of helpful advice among the pile of threads from previous folk whom asked similar would be a great place to start search via profile help/advice it's a great useful tool for you to create something that fits around you personally |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Probably lots of things, probably mostly related to you.
Search the forums, covered to death in here.
Very quickly though, better pics, better profile, maybe don't refer to women as older or having a sweet tooth, suspect that'll draw out the ick rather quick.
Go to clubs, socials, realise that you're at a huge disadvantage by virtue of the numbers and not being owed a damn thing.
So reflect honestly, improve your approach and chances. "
The forums have a search option to see if a topic has been discussed before? Every day is a school day lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be yourself. Write a completely truthful profile about yourself. Forget about what you think people might want to hear or see. Share who you really are and trust me there’s weirdos out there for all of us! Even us vanilla fuckers! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why can’t i get any meets what’s wrong with me?
There is nothing wrong with you. What you have to remember is
For every single guy like you there is thousands of single women and couples.
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I’ve read this twice now….and oh the dream? If only? |
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