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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago
carrbrook stalybridge |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday 
What excuses do other people use?"
mum & dad are going out for a "date night" with out the kids |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?"
Never explain yourself to your kids, it's ok to have a private life. |
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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago
Kidderminster |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?"
We just say we're going to friends and our son is early 20s. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just say you’re going dogging and laugh. I guarantee they won’t believe you and won’t ask any further questions because they’ll be disgusted at your response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just tell my son either
"I am going out tonight"
Or
"I am going to see my friend tonight"
Likewise he will say the same to me if he's going out.
I never ask him where he's been until 3am...
He wouldn't ask me either x |
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"Ours are still young ,but once rhay are old enough and start asking then we will tell them the truth as we are a very open family "
They probably won't thank you for telling them about your sexual shenanigans |
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""a friends party" if it's evening and for daytime events "we're going to a spa" - neither are lies if you pretend that the hot tub is a spa  "
Too much detail! Imagine oh mum n dad go to a spa every month they can recommend it, mum can you get Nan gift vouchers when you go tomorrow so she can go for her birthday. Then when Nan goes to the apparent regular spa with the daughter they don’t know her etc |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too much detail! Imagine oh mum n dad go to a spa every month they can recommend it, mum can you get Nan gift vouchers when you go tomorrow so she can go for her birthday. Then when Nan goes to the apparent regular spa with the daughter they don’t know her etc "
Nah, it works well for us as K likes a shower after a club visit so we say we went to a spa with a pool so she has a reason to get clean after, if not it's way weirder to have "gone out" to always need to shower when you come home. Our kids are not going to talk about spa visits. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because if we ask them where they are going then we expect to know something about that for their safety and it cuts both ways if you want respect. It would seem pretty unreasonable and unfriendly to us if our teens asked "where are you going" and the reply was "none of your business", we're just managing it carefully as we don't want to lie or tell the truth.
At some point our kids will be told that we go to clubs, mostly as they have been brought up in a fairly open and honest environment and we wouldn't them to find out we're swinging by turning up at the same club night as us.... |
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When our kids were almost adults they weren't that interested in where we were going they were too busy with what they were doing. They assumed that our lives were boring anyway and when we said we were going out just accepted it. When they were 13/14 it was different they seemed to resent us having a life  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My kids dont usually ask but i got caught out recently with a 'which friends' question as id been to s social and i think i blushed a bit.
But my sister, who knows nothing about my fab life, told her it was none of her business and i was entitled to my own private life!  |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?"
You are the parents why do you need an exscuse. Just say you are going out.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?
Never explain yourself to your kids, it's ok to have a private life. "
Exactly our thoughts. Especially as our 14 and 15 year old HATE us knowing where THEY are going or have been lol.  |
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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago
cheshire |
My youngest kept askimg me one night where i was going she was mid 20s then i just kept saying out eventually i said off.to a swingers club....her reply
Oh i always go to one of them.. she didnt come with us.. lol |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
Play tovelo habits and then explain to them that your mum and dad likes going to sex clubs to Watch other people's or get fucked themselves by strangers. Then they will never ask you ever again. |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?mum & dad are going out for a "date night" with out the kids "
That's exactly what we say too - we tend to stay over at an apartment we rent for meets |
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By *nimal007 OP Couple
over a year ago
Manchester |
"We tell them we're going out, we're adults and don't have to account for our whereabouts. Mobile phones are there in the event of an emergency. "
Thats the other problem. in a club we dont have our phones on us....when we come out 15 missed calls later.....lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ours are still young ,but once rhay are old enough and start asking then we will tell them the truth as we are a very open family
They probably won't thank you for telling them about your sexual shenanigans "
I was thinking the same thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We tell them we're going out, we're adults and don't have to account for our whereabouts. Mobile phones are there in the event of an emergency.
Thats the other problem. in a club we dont have our phones on us....when we come out 15 missed calls later.....lmao"
Honestly, if your teens are ringing multiple times when you're out for a few hours, have a word, you're entitled to your own time, set the boundary. Give them an emergency number for another trusted adult. |
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"We tell them we're going out, we're adults and don't have to account for our whereabouts. Mobile phones are there in the event of an emergency.
Thats the other problem. in a club we dont have our phones on us....when we come out 15 missed calls later.....lmao"
You can buy a smart watch and link to your phone. It looks like a watch, but you can read your texts on it. |
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"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?
Never explain yourself to your kids, it's ok to have a private life. "
Agreed! Our line is we’re out parting, no further explanation required |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?"
Tell them the truth. At best they'll get uncomfortable and move out. |
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Nearly adult children - they're old enough that they've probably seen things on the Internet. I'd say be honest and tell them. I had a very conservative upbringing, even at 33 my parents still expect me to be a virgin until I'm married. Don't be guilty about what you're doing, it'll only instil that sex is something to be ashamed of. I honestly believe the crippling repression I had growing up is why I'm still single. Or at least that what my therapist reckons... |
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"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?
Tell them the truth. At best they'll get uncomfortable and move out."
. I think people hugely underestimate how prudish some younger people can be. It's great all the time it's Love Island but a very different thing when it's your parents |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?
Tell them the truth. At best they'll get uncomfortable and move out.
. I think people hugely underestimate how prudish some younger people can be. It's great all the time it's Love Island but a very different thing when it's your parents "
 It's traumatic enough for them just to think of their parents having sex with each other |
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When we go to a club we tell the kids we're off to the Naturist Spa. Worked perfectly for years and they never question it.
If we're meeting/going away with freinds from the scene it's just we're out with our freinds.
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I got my kid to help me with a costume for a fettish event. Just told them dress up party. Eventually it came back to bite me and I told them the truth. Went to cos play event and dressed up in leather. They told group that i was a Domatrix. No explaining or anymore questions. If do i remind them I'm the parent not their friend |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"So we have little issue in that our nearly adult children keep asking where we are going. We are running out of "friends" to visit till 1am on a Sunday
What excuses do other people use?
Tell them the truth. At best they'll get uncomfortable and move out.
. I think people hugely underestimate how prudish some younger people can be. It's great all the time it's Love Island but a very different thing when it's your parents It's traumatic enough for them just to think of their parents having sex with each other "
Theres plenty of studies or their suggesting that genz's take less risks, have less sex (relatively for their age when compared to past generations at that age) and drink less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I got my kid to help me with a costume for a fettish event. Just told them dress up party. Eventually it came back to bite me and I told them the truth. Went to cos play event and dressed up in leather. They told group that i was a Domatrix. No explaining or anymore questions. If do i remind them I'm the parent not their friend "
Honestly. What the hell  |
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By *oxesMan
over a year ago
Southend, Essex |
"This thread is brilliant… something your kids will tell a therapist when they’re older. Imagine finding your parents on fab… mortified!!! "
I shared a taxie back from an fab event with a guy who discovered his step parents were swingers. |
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