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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart  |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I never really know what to say in an opening message on here so was looking for a few pointers from people. Thanks "
Never send a 'Hello sexy' or 'Nice tits' message to a couple.
If you get any kind of reply it'll most likely be from the husband taking the piss.
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
Send them a friendly message saying why you are getting in touch is all you need to do. If they like the look of you that will be enough to start a conversation, if they don’t it really won’t matter what you write. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
All the above - don't just talk to the female half. Prove you've read the profile, and make sure you have something that people can reply to to build a conversation. Statements such as "you have nice pics" are quite hard to say anything other than "thanks" to.
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
In addition....you didn't ask for profile advise so can't give it, but profiles that give nothing away and have "just ask" or similar are really hard work to build an interesting message from if they message us.
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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago
Bucks/London/Oxford |
"I never really know what to say in an opening message on here so was looking for a few pointers from people. Thanks
Never send a 'Hello sexy' or 'Nice tits' message to a couple.
If you get any kind of reply it'll most likely be from the husband taking the piss.
a"
Best to never send a message like that to anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart "
Is this a quote from a film (not movie , we are not Americans )
If it isn't it sure as hell should be...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart "
Is this a quote from a film (not movie , we are not Americans )
If it isn't it sure as he'll should be... |
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Make an effort to at least show you've read their profile. Be polite. Attach face pics. Don't overthink it or spend too long on it, as chances are it will go unread or deleted anyway.
But every now and then the stars align and you'll get a one word reply to a thoughtful message  |
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart "
Pretty intense for a first message |
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"I typically make any opening messages I send short inviting the reader to get back to me with any interest they may have.
If interested they reply."
If it works for you great, but just sending a short message asking us to get back to you with any interest is..a bit lazy. Especially with a short message that tells me nothing about the sender I'll never know if I am interested. |
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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago
Bucks/London/Oxford |
"I never really know what to say in an opening message on here so was looking for a few pointers from people. Thanks "
You can send the greatest, most personalised message in the world - but that won’t guarantee it will even get read, or provoke a reply. Be prepared for disappointment and frustration. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart
Is this a quote from a film (not movie , we are not Americans )
If it isn't it sure as hell should be... "
Good old Rocky Balboa |
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Don't make the opening message too long, personally I hate it when guys say they are clean (I expect personal hygiene and no sti's so what are you clean from?) And if you can make it amusing that's a bonus. |
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Grammar and punctuation go a long way, it's insane how much text speak gets sent, use real words and use them well, articulate why you're messaging them, what you can offer them, and make your message about them and why you liked them.
And always be polite, manners cost nothing. |
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All of the above for us.
No text speak.
Have a profile picture.
Have at least a few lines in your bio.
Don't word it in as way you address just the lady. The guy will probably delete it before she sees it.
Tell us what you are looking for.
As an extra, consider saying,
If you drive.
Size of cock but not in an arrogant way if it's big.
What you like about the couple.
Where you saw their profile (forum etc)
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never really know what to say in an opening message on here so was looking for a few pointers from people. Thanks "
If you aren’t getting replies, the problem may not be what you’ve written in the message. It may be your profile and how you present (or fail to present) yourself x |
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By *afksedMan
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart "
Only that isn’t his best speech from the movie!
Hell, the best speech in the whole movie isn’t even by Rocky Balboa. Fighters fight. Brings a tear to the eye! https://youtu.be/XXk8J83A25A
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart
Is this a quote from a film (not movie , we are not Americans )
If it isn't it sure as hell should be... "
rocky 1,2 and 3 lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Grammar and punctuation go a long way, it's insane how much text speak gets sent, use real words and use them well, articulate why you're messaging them, what you can offer them, and make your message about them and why you liked them.
And always be polite, manners cost nothing."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Non crude and showing you’ve read the profile. "
And even then, you're not guaranteed of a reply - also apply manners, common sense, humour and perseverance (and never a picture of your penis, unless specifically requested).
We all got that? Good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a minefield All I do now is say hi guys I’ll keep this short and to the point and point them to my profile as it says exactly what I’m looking for and the hardware on offer lol then I send a face pic
If they like the look of you you’ll get a reply if they don’t like then you won’t it’s really about physical attraction if there isn’t any no matter what you say is going to make no difference |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mate, you’ve got one public picture of your belly in which you’re wearing dirty hi vis gear.
Good job you are seeking advice because you really need to nail that first message! |
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"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place, and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward; how much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that! There is no rules really except you have to follow your heart
Is this a quote from a film (not movie , we are not Americans )
If it isn't it sure as hell should be... "
Totally agree, you can use the above in life not just here
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