I used to have a sub gf who I would send to meet guys to be their plaything.
The dynamic eventually shifted to her telling me when she was going on the meets.
At 1st I would fuck her on her return, atfer a while it became just licking her, then me wearing lingerie and chastity followed. |
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over a year ago
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"How many men that are dominant in there relationship have the urge to or do switch. "
I am switch and enjoy both
We often or mostly switch roles during play
She will be dominant with d
Stapon and flogger. I will switch and give her a good fucking with plenty of orgasms. Once she's done she will switch and carry on fucking me till I pop
Great fun, no problems either way switching
It suits us just fine |
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By *atenaWoman
over a year ago
Hyde |
"How many men that are dominant in there relationship have the urge to or do switch. "
Are they actually Dom then? Or maybe they thought they were but wanna explore the switch side ... whichhhhhh could lead them to be sub!!
I have had experiences with this.... where my Dom wanted to explore - fair enough for them. But I don't choose to date a switch as I have a string personality so any subbie ness seems to come to the forefront in any partner
If that makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it can be good to experience both sides of activity, having received will allow you a better understand of how you give, giving will great you a better understand of what you receive 
It's good to understand the dynamics of both sides, the motivation and desires |
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If you are Dom you are Dom (men or women). if you want to experience then you can not class your self as being Dom imo.
Smae goes for TOP men that want to suck me sorry but if you are TOP you do not suck cock lol |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
Everyone I’ve had a committed D/s relationship with has accepted and asked for service topping, whether that be a back massage at the end of a long day or pegging. The whole point of submission is that what THEY want is important and it’s my job to give it to them. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
We typically are domme & dom when we meet women (who are of course with us to enjoy being submissive)…we’ve always fancied entertaining a domme and relinquishing control, but it’s much harder to find here. |
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People often seem to frame the notion of ‘Dom and sub’ around particular acts but (in my opinion) that’s got nothing to do with it. It’s an organic mind state. Another way to think about it is: who is in control and who is not. Acts done for pleasure are rarely relevant to this question. |
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I’m a switch. I enjoy both. Who ends up where is entirely dependent on the company and the circumstances.
I generally end up topping, because I’m such a big bloke and I look quite stern, so I typically attract people who are interested in that.
The occasions on which I meet people I can submit to are unfortunately rare but completely delightful.
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By *renzMan
over a year ago
Between Chichester and Havant |
I had a sub who wanted to switch so she started seeing other guys until she found one that also switched. We're no longer together as switching isn't my thing but she has told me he doesn't satisfy her in the same way because she knows he really isn't dominant. |
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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago
Sandwich |
I would classify myself as switch. There’s definitely been many self-professed Doms that have been interested in experiencing the switch.
I feel many men feel that they are pressured into being the leader sexually with most women. They therefore really enjoy being able to just let a woman take the reins for a while. |
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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago
somerset |
ill actively avoid any one who is a switch for me it never works if i want a dom then i want a dom i dont want to be thinking but he is sub as well ... does nothing for me your asertive / dom or im really not interested ..
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"How many men that are dominant in there relationship have the urge to or do switch. "
Mr has started training me to domme him. Enjoying the experience so far. I have always been flip with other ladies but sub to my mr. It is good to experience flipping with him to now  |
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"ill actively avoid any one who is a switch for me it never works if i want a dom then i want a dom i dont want to be thinking but he is sub as well ... does nothing for me your asertive / dom or im really not interested ..
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Well said, excellent answer. You're either a sub or You're a Dom.. I couldn't submit to anyone. A person may ask me, but you just cannot tell me has always been my mindset |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
Sutton |
To my mind I can understand people saying if a person was to switch within their relationship, it would be hard seeing them as a Dom/me.
However, to say a person is either a Dom/me or a sub, smacks of "one true way ism" or believing in domly stereotypes.
My understanding id thst modern BDSM is all about interpersonal relationships, and not rigidly conforming to a pre 1970s stereotypes. Particularly, as most people on Fab calling themselves Dom/mes or Masters are either "Tops" or "hedonists" If your only skill is rough fucking or giving orders in my books that does not make you a Dom.
I had a fun interaction last week at Eurekas after an afternoon of sunbathing. At end of the session I was entering the main building to shower, I overheard an attractive woman mentioning a spanking bench. So I asked her "What spanking bench?" She pointed to one in the field. I said that's a shame I have my floggers with me but I am leaving". Her response was "If you stay for the night party, I can flog you with your floggers". She was giving off a domme vibe. I replied "I flog but don't get flogged" and left her.
Anyway, I got showered and dressed but you have to pass the bar to leave. The same woman was by the bar and I overheard her talking about a dungeon. As I had my bag with me I went up to her and said "Just to show that I was not poseing I will show you my floggers". With the usual sods law, I could not find my floggers, all I could find was rope. So embarrassed, I said "I also do rope." She looked at me differently and said "I know, I know you, you have tied me before at HDZ."
HDZ was a brilliant fetish night at the old Abfabs. |
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