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By *opem OP Couple
over a year ago
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A question that probably only applies to couples. I'm humouring my sub by posing this question. She wants to know what your thoughts are.
Do you consider yourselves to be monogamous? Does it depend on the dynamic or situation? Full swap, hot wife, cuckold, dom/sub or simply who you're talking to, such as friends and family? |
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"I consider myself emotionally monogamous
This is the way it should be. Its just for physical fun.. Not emotional feeling.
Some are genuinely polygamous which is great but not for me.  "
Same for us swinging is almost a physical sport to enjoy like going to play tennis or other active sport but a zillion times better.
We might like our temporary team mates but we dont have or develop feelings for them.
That made more sense in my head
KJ  |
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"I consider myself emotionally monogamous
This is the way it should be. Its just for physical fun.. Not emotional feeling.
Some are genuinely polygamous which is great but not for me.
Same for us swinging is almost a physical sport to enjoy like going to play tennis or other active sport but a zillion times better.
We might like our temporary team mates but we dont have or develop feelings for them.
That made more sense in my head
KJ "
Agree with this. Pur relationship is the core. Our sex is different to when we play with others, then it's purely physical without emotion, other than pleasure and fun with the couple(s) we're with |
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No.
We are committed to.each other and both would return to being monogamous with each other if the other requested it but no, not whilst we are enjoying this lifestyle which we have for many years. |
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I would say I am monogamous. I have a partner, we are a couple, we don't date other people. We're not polyamorous and we're not in an open relationship. Occasionally we have sexual encounters together involving others, but I wouldn't refer to that as having relationships with them.
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What the last poster said. When we play with others it is just an extension of sex with each other. It is not born of a desire to have sex with other people but rather to have sex with each other with others involved. We are both involved with each other throughout. We are 100% emotionally monogamous. |
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"I would say I am monogamous. I have a partner, we are a couple, we don't date other people. We're not polyamorous and we're not in an open relationship. Occasionally we have sexual encounters together involving others, but I wouldn't refer to that as having relationships with them.
Tabitha xx"
I'm sure the dictionary definition of the word monogamous is
“having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time"
You swinging with partners purely for sex without an emotional commitment is not monogamy. Its often termed ENM Ethical Non Manogamy due to the consent of your partner.
When you have multiple sexual partners with emotional feelings involved and a wider conection beyond just sex then your Poly/ Polyamorous
"characterized by or involved in the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved."
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"I would say I am monogamous. I have a partner, we are a couple, we don't date other people. We're not polyamorous and we're not in an open relationship. Occasionally we have sexual encounters together involving others, but I wouldn't refer to that as having relationships with them.
Tabitha xx
I'm sure the dictionary definition of the word monogamous is
“having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time"
You swinging with partners purely for sex without an emotional commitment is not monogamy. Its often termed ENM Ethical Non Manogamy due to the consent of your partner.
When you have multiple sexual partners with emotional feelings involved and a wider conection beyond just sex then your Poly/ Polyamorous
"characterized by or involved in the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved."
KJ "
Like I said I dont class it as a sexual relationship, it's an activity we do together and its little more than an encounter. And we're all free to interpret what those words like monogamy and relationship mean to us Sometimes we see friends together and have a drink, sometimes we see friends together and there's poking, but I am committed to one partner and one relationship and choose to see that as monogamy |
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"I consider myself emotionally monogamous
This is the way it should be. Its just for physical fun.. Not emotional feeling."
I don't think you can say it's the way it should be just because that's what you think, everyone is different and enjoys different things, each to there own. |
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I'm sure the dictionary definition of the word monogamous is
“having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time"
You swinging with partners purely for sex without an emotional commitment is not monogamy. Its often termed ENM Ethical Non Manogamy due to the consent of your partner.
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How we feel about the word and define it is more important to us than what the dictionary says. I don’t like any of the swinging shorthand (though obviously some find them useful) as I don’t feel we fit any of them and they all mean slightly different things to different people. We just like having sex with each others with other people occasionally. What form that takes will be decided between all parties at the time. People who like swinging engage in as many different forms of swinging as there are people swinging. |
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Relationship and emotionally wise monogamous. That doesn't mean I don't have other shades of love and attraction for people around me. That maybe by other peoples definition isn't exactly monogamous but when it comes to My Girl no-one else is her. But sexually I'm non-monogamous. I love variety and sexual adventure. Plus women are just awesome and everyone different. Life is a buffet. But these are all happy sidelines because I have my best everything in My Girl. For me she is mine and I am hers, always. She is my one, my constant, my true North. |
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When I was involved with my wife in swinging, because we always did it as a couple & always together; looking upon it as an extension of our lovemaking, we were utterly monogamous.
That we could enjoy such sexual adventures with others without emotional complications reinforced our relationship. |
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"I would say I am monogamous. I have a partner, we are a couple, we don't date other people. We're not polyamorous and we're not in an open relationship. Occasionally we have sexual encounters together involving others, but I wouldn't refer to that as having relationships with them.
Tabitha xx
I'm sure the dictionary definition of the word monogamous is
“having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time"
You swinging with partners purely for sex without an emotional commitment is not monogamy. Its often termed ENM Ethical Non Manogamy due to the consent of your partner.
When you have multiple sexual partners with emotional feelings involved and a wider conection beyond just sex then your Poly/ Polyamorous
"characterized by or involved in the practice of engaging in multiple romantic (and typically sexual) relationships, with the consent of all the people involved."
KJ "
One of the joys of language is it's fluidity and ability to be adapted, updated and moulded to suit our rapidly changing society. Monogamy as a word was first used in the 17th century. A lot has changed since then! Probably 20 years ago, I'd have been inclined to agree. Now, it's more a case of words being used to approximate a situation or feeling so that others can identify it.
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I'm sure the dictionary definition of the word monogamous is
“having a sexual relationship with only one partner at a time"
You swinging with partners purely for sex without an emotional commitment is not monogamy. Its often termed ENM Ethical Non Manogamy due to the consent of your partner.
How we feel about the word and define it is more important to us than what the dictionary says. I don’t like any of the swinging shorthand (though obviously some find them useful) as I don’t feel we fit any of them and they all mean slightly different things to different people. We just like having sex with each others with other people occasionally. What form that takes will be decided between all parties at the time. People who like swinging engage in as many different forms of swinging as there are people swinging. "
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