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"Hello OP. Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be something there to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the bio you have wrote won't impress anyone. Might I suggest you at least add some puntuation to break it into sentences. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age but one look at your profile would be enough to put us off. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically on a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile in intricate detail, making sure it is truthful, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. For starters, are you really sure you want to have sex with people in the nineties? Put on some different pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, anything in between is great.I would say some of your pics are too similar to offer a wide range, but then I realised you have literally uploaded the same pic more than once. Get some variety. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Then... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Good luck "Amazing advice | |||
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"After trying to decipher what your profile bio means - after the third attempt, I gave up. That's probably twice more than most people." Yeah literally makes no sense | |||
"Hello OP. Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be something there to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the bio you have wrote won't impress anyone. Might I suggest you at least add some puntuation to break it into sentences. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age but one look at your profile would be enough to put us off. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically on a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile in intricate detail, making sure it is truthful, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. For starters, are you really sure you want to have sex with people in the nineties? Put on some different pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, anything in between is great.I would say some of your pics are too similar to offer a wide range, but then I realised you have literally uploaded the same pic more than once. Get some variety. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Then... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Good luck "This is the best advice you will ever get on here! Your very young, Your profile does not make sense And read other profiles | |||
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"OP also remember that a large section on here are fantasists with no intention of meeting up so be careful with your free time." This is true. So many men out there just here for a wank | |||
"OP also remember that a large section on here are fantasists with no intention of meeting up so be careful with your free time. This is true. So many men out there just here for a wank" All genders tbh | |||
"Hello OP. Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be something there to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the bio you have wrote won't impress anyone. Might I suggest you at least add some puntuation to break it into sentences. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age but one look at your profile would be enough to put us off. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically on a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile in intricate detail, making sure it is truthful, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. For starters, are you really sure you want to have sex with people in the nineties? Put on some different pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, anything in between is great.I would say some of your pics are too similar to offer a wide range, but then I realised you have literally uploaded the same pic more than once. Get some variety. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Then... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Good luck "This should be in the FAQs. Perfect advice | |||
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"Hello OP. Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be something there to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the bio you have wrote won't impress anyone. Might I suggest you at least add some puntuation to break it into sentences. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age but one look at your profile would be enough to put us off. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically on a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile in intricate detail, making sure it is truthful, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. For starters, are you really sure you want to have sex with people in the nineties? Put on some different pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, anything in between is great.I would say some of your pics are too similar to offer a wide range, but then I realised you have literally uploaded the same pic more than once. Get some variety. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Then... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Good luck
This should be in the FAQs. Perfect advice "Some great advice above. Just to add at 22 you'd be to young for some of the swinging club age requirements for example our local club is 23+ others are 25+. Many won't allow entry to a younger single male entry without fab meet verifications so contact clubs 1st / do your research in this area. Regarding cock pictures 1 decent cock pic ideally erect is enough. Yes some don't like them but many people need to see upfront if what your offering matches what they are looking for before committing to a meet. Just dont have it as your profile picture or have multiple cock pictures from every angle. Finally making contacts on Fab and the swinging world is actually harder than real life (non internet hook ups like the pub, gigs, events etc). If your not successfully in those areas id work on those 1st before trying Fab. Good luck OP | |||
"OP also remember that a large section on here are fantasists with no intention of meeting up so be careful with your free time. This is true. So many men out there just here for a wank All genders tbh " | |||
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"Simply put this is a swingers site - too many guys seem to think ah swingers they will fuck anyone and all it takes is a message saying want to meet? The reality is it really doesn't work like that. Try Tinder. " This, 1 million % | |||
"Your bio needs to be spell checked and grammar checked, sorry. Some people will just read it and simply dismiss you based on that fact..." And definitely this, your profile reads like it was badly translated from something that was badly written in the first place | |||
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"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. " That’s not even true! There’s plenty of guys on here that are successful! It definitely takes effort though! | |||
"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. " Not true at all, I've met some amazing ladies here! As a single guy it just requires a little thought, some time, patience and decent communication to meet the right people. | |||
"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. Not true at all, I've met some amazing ladies here! As a single guy it just requires a little thought, some time, patience and decent communication to meet the right people. " Location helps too. Overall, most men are roughly the same (ok some are more polished etc), but if they’re only chasing one or two ladies locally, it’s much harder to shine. Not impossible, but definitely more ‘work’ involved | |||
"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. " Interestingly I never had a single meeting from Tinder, and yet on my old single male Fab profile I had over 150 meets. There's no one answer, one size fits all answer. Profile biog, photos, interaction on the forums, realistic messages sent, group socials and pure good timing are pretty significant factors I'd say. But what do I know. Winston | |||
"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. Not true at all, I've met some amazing ladies here! As a single guy it just requires a little thought, some time, patience and decent communication to meet the right people. Location helps too. Overall, most men are roughly the same (ok some are more polished etc), but if they’re only chasing one or two ladies locally, it’s much harder to shine. Not impossible, but definitely more ‘work’ involved "I dunno man, saying most men are roughly all the same is kinda strange..like there's a pretty big difference between Donald Trump and Connor mcgreggor as an example lol | |||
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"Tinder mate. You need a doctorate in psychology to buy a girl a coffee on here... I've followed all the advice for years and it's far as easier on tinder when you are younger. Aside from the odd spark of chat it's by and large soft reality porn on here.. so it has its place tbf.. lol .. " No, no and, err no. Nothing worth anything is worth doing nothing. It’s not about what you have or are, it’s what you do. I’m pretty damned good with my hands. This is not a boast. Not because I’m some expert cocksmith, which I most certainly am not, but because I took the time to learn WHAT A WOMAN WANTS , to do it how they like it and to put some effort into doing it well. That shows commitment and an investment in what the other person wants. Same with the profile. You have to make an attractive offer and present it like you have that commitment and investment in what a woman wants. This is not a sex site. This is not a catalogue of slappers. These are REAL women who have REAL needs and who are not looking for mere lip service in return for giving us the privilege of their intimacy. The OP has a profile which will be very effective at achieving a level of interest commensurate with the amount of effort it took to write it. Sweet FA. And rightly so. The aim of every man on this site should be to interact constantly at a level which will see the person they meet ask for a repeat performance. | |||
"Hello OP. Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. There is nothing you can do about it, so don't fret. Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away if you cannot 100% commit to a meet. Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for a bi guy, or a chubby guy, that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs. Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be something there to write about. Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly the bio you have wrote won't impress anyone. Might I suggest you at least add some puntuation to break it into sentences. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make. At present your profile couldn't sell a Big Mac to a starving man, so it's not going to sell you to prospective meets. We are a couple that do meet guys of your age but one look at your profile would be enough to put us off. Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically on a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile in intricate detail, making sure it is truthful, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression. For starters, are you really sure you want to have sex with people in the nineties? Put on some different pics. Face pics are best, cock pics are generally not required in your public profile, anything in between is great.I would say some of your pics are too similar to offer a wide range, but then I realised you have literally uploaded the same pic more than once. Get some variety. However your profile is not everything. Get involved with the forums, get involved in the chatroom too, both are great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Then... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do? Good luck " | |||
"Hey Guys. This is my first day able to post on the forum, but I don’t think I will see a better example of what I hoped the people would be like here. That is one long, detailed and eloquent reply to an OP’s post that, so far as I am concerned, took less effort to write than his own name. Unless I am mistaken you have taken you time to compose a comprehensive answer to a barely comprehensible question about an incomprehensible profile. He doesn’t even deserve an answer let alone the effort you showed. Nice one and kudos to you!" Thank you, we try to be the best we can be. Hope you enjoy your time here; Take care. | |||
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"A guy messaged me this morning. New profile (few days). Not verified. Good opening message. Good bio. No dick pics. Face pics. Regular conversation which touched upon what we were into but nothing graphic rounding up the chat he asked to meet and I'm looking forward to a social with him. It was really refreshing, sometimes it just works that way. " Yes sometimes it all about the feel and style of messaging and very hard to explain or quantify. Some people are naturally good at it and some people are awful and will never change. People can tweak their profile as much as they want but if crap at interacting then it won't matter. Enjoy your social x | |||
"After trying to decipher what your profile bio means - after the third attempt, I gave up. That's probably twice more than most people." Exactly this. You don’t appear able to string a sentence together which I have found turns lots of people off. Stay in school kids!! | |||
