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"Why is it so difficult for a single bi curious guy to meet a couple with a bi curious guy "
Because there are far far to many men on here that tell couples they are Bisexual/bi curious etc just to get their foot in the door, unfortunately we have fallen for that one however we had only just joined fab, now when a guy message us telling us he us that he wants to Try out some bi stuff we usually tell him to find a single bi male to try it out with...usually you don't hear back from them...or we say that's fine..come and play with hubby alone..again..they dissappear after that. Ask any bi couple and they will tell you they are very dubious about who they invite, we won't entertain any man who claims to be bi but has straight on their profile. |
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over a year ago
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"Because we don't meet bi or bi minded people. 
Curious as to why?
Surely if they agree to play straight there shouldn't be a problem?
I’d meet you "
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"Because we don't meet bi or bi minded people.
Curious as to why?
Surely if they agree to play straight there shouldn't be a problem?"
You'd think so, right?! Though I'm not sure (given their views) they are people we'd particularly want to mingle with. Win some, you lose some  |
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over a year ago
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"Because we don't meet bi or bi minded people.
Curious as to why?
Surely if they agree to play straight there shouldn't be a problem?
You'd think so, right?! Though I'm not sure (given their views) they are people we'd particularly want to mingle with. Win some, you lose some "
Yes, seems very bi phobic to me, although they just say it's a 'preference' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why is it so difficult for a single bi curious guy to meet a couple with a bi curious guy "
Work out what you are curious about and let the couple know when you first approach them. Do not pester if they don't respond. They might satisfy their curiosity elsewhere and your opportunity may come at a later date. Listen to what they say as you are very lucky to just get a reply. Accept what they want to do so long as it doesn't push beyond your limitations. Understand that the guy in that couple is just as nervous to satisfy his curiosity as you are. It is not an easy thing.
That curious guy can simply ask another curious/bi/gay guy if he can touch his dick and see what happens. Then his curiosity will be satisfied and he can make a decision as to his sexual orientation based on that encounter, or repeat until satisfied. It is the recommended route.
Many straight couples are phobic of bi/curious guys. It is their choice, no one needs to know why and there is nothing wrong in that. There are more experienced bi couples who want to avoid the awkwardness of a curious guys first encounter or the cock dodgers who think they can trick their way into a pussy. The curious ones may remain just that, as the guy in that couple is probably just as insecure about his first encounter as any other curious guy. It might not go gloriously and could very well end in a floppy, frustrating mess of bitter recrimination.
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"Why is it so difficult for a single bi curious guy to meet a couple with a bi curious guy
Why do you class yourself as bi curious and not bi sexual? "
I can’t speak for the OP but I ,the male half, have put bi curious despite having had sex with men. I guess because I don’t find men attractive in the same way as my bisexual female partner finds women attractive. I just like sharing and being shared by men and women with her. Maybe I should change it to bisexual. Maybe they should drop the sexuality options and replace them with which genders you want to have sex with. |
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In my limited experience I couldn’t agree more.
For me it has been a voyage of discovery. I was curious and I have now enjoyed joint masturbation with other guys and have enjoyed the sensation and pleasure of men giving me oral. The pleasure is heightened for me when female panties are introduced into the play.
I now know that I do not enjoy being rimmed.
What I have tried to say, rather clumsily, as it transpires is to meet someone who seems to be compatible and try to enjoy yourself and as the saying goes ‘when the fun stops, stop’. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
"Why is it so difficult for a single bi curious guy to meet a couple with a bi curious guy "
It’s difficult to get a meet for a single guy here in general.
The best way (it works for me very well) is to find bi event at a club. Chat on respective forum branch with couples that are going there as well. Turn up at event, a bit social at a bar (would be easier if you do your homework and have few couples known from the forum). And see where the night takes you. |
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Its a catch 22 situation for us men.
I class myself as bicurious becuase in an mmf, i will willingly suck a cock, fucklick the women and clean up the husbands mess.
I dont class myself as being bisexual as i wont give or recieve anal.
Luck has blessed me with a few meets but quite a few couples avoid anybody who is bicurious |
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"A - they can be picky.
B - quite often guys will say they are bi just to access the lady of the couple.
If you've got verifications from guys then this helps to mitigate against point B."
Agreed. Have experienced B in the past. |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
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"Why is it so difficult for a single bi curious guy to meet a couple with a bi curious guy "
It's not.
But like any prospective meet people have to be attracted, interested, feel their interests are compatible and that any conversations are engaging.
Being bi, bi-curious or straight makes no difference regardless of who you're looking to meet.
That's just one characteristic. There are many that will influence meeting people.
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"Because we don't meet bi or bi minded people.
Curious as to why?
Surely if they agree to play straight there shouldn't be a problem?
You'd think so, right?! Though I'm not sure (given their views) they are people we'd particularly want to mingle with. Win some, you lose some
Yes, seems very bi phobic to me, although they just say it's a 'preference' "
So no ones allowed a preference now without it being called a phobia?
By this logic, my wife must be hetro-phobic or whatever you would like to call it as she only wants to meet other bi ladies / bi lady couples. She has no desire to play "straight" as thats not her thing.
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So no ones allowed a preference now without it being called a phobia?
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The problem was that they were hijacking a thread not aimed at them just to express an anti bisexual ppinion.
Anyone who states they won't meet anyone who is "bi minded" is exhibiting a degree of sexual prejudice beyond what is normal on a swinging site so IMHO it probably could be classified as a phobia. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So no ones allowed a preference now without it being called a phobia?
The problem was that they were hijacking a thread not aimed at them just to express an anti bisexual ppinion.
Anyone who states they won't meet anyone who is "bi minded" is exhibiting a degree of sexual prejudice beyond what is normal on a swinging site so IMHO it probably could be classified as a phobia."
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Hi people
I class myself as bicurious as others have said only oraly bi not into Anal with guys at all. When first message I always point this out. it is just like finding ladies. More men then couples and they can pick and choose. I love the MMF, where I get to have fun with both. Its all about mutural fun for all. |
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"Its a catch 22 situation for us men.
I class myself as bicurious becuase in an mmf, i will willingly suck a cock, fucklick the women and clean up the husbands mess.
I dont class myself as being bisexual as i wont give or recieve anal.
Luck has blessed me with a few meets but quite a few couples avoid anybody who is bicurious"
The individuals preferred sex acts don’t define their sexuality!
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Stourbridge (West-Mids) |
The vast majority of Bi-Curious guys are just trying to get access to the female of the couple in our experience so we are very picky with who we will chat to/meet and would much rather be introduced to someone by a friend than risk a random guy from Fab |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
I struggle to believe straight guy label himself as bi curious just to get to female part. They must be really desperate to make their cock wet. Or Maybe they are just at very beginning of their bi journey.
Definitely reference from a friend or check who verified them is a good idea. |
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By *heGigglersCouple
over a year ago
Stourbridge (West-Mids) |
"Its a catch 22 situation for us men.
I class myself as bicurious becuase in an mmf, i will willingly suck a cock, fucklick the women and clean up the husbands mess.
I dont class myself as being bisexual as i wont give or recieve anal.
Luck has blessed me with a few meets but quite a few couples avoid anybody who is bicurious
The individuals preferred sex acts don’t define their sexuality!
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Exactly!!
There are gay guys who don't like anal, that doesn't mean they don't find other men sexually attractive!
Some couples only do soft swap, do you think that has anything to do with their sexuality?
For us it's about finding someone who is attracted to both of us, who we also find attractive. It is not about their experience levels or personal boundaries, it is about feeling desired.
No one wants to feel like the "price of entry", we are not interested in "taking one for the team". If you approach a couple you should be interested in both of them and make an effort with both of them, guys like being flirted with too! |
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