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Any nice people out there with advice for me please
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right here goes im 28 single and really miss a lady in my life. I would love a regular fuck buddy errr even writing that sounds bad lol ideally id love to meet a woman older than myself. Is there any serious advice you could give me as i dont seem to be doing well on here. I alkways be nice and leave nice messages i like it when a women tells me im not her type then i know and dont pester her. Im a canny bloke non pushy some advice would be great x  |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Right here goes im 28 single and really miss a lady in my life. I would love a regular fuck buddy errr even writing that sounds bad lol ideally id love to meet a woman older than myself. Is there any serious advice you could give me as i dont seem to be doing well on here. I alkways be nice and leave nice messages i like it when a women tells me im not her type then i know and dont pester her. Im a canny bloke non pushy some advice would be great x "
Give it time sweetie  |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"I will im just finding it all a little bit depressing x  "
Awe sweetie nothing good comes easy so focus on your job ect first and the fun side should fall into place soon  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!
on a serious note check out dating sites much easier to get sex from than fabs....... not knocking fabs but I mainly us it for forums and the odd meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!
on a serious note check out dating sites much easier to get sex from than fabs....... not knocking fabs but I mainly us it for forums and the odd meet "
ahem young man
where has your kiwi pic gone ?
that was 1 of my faves |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there is alot of single guys on here.. especially when a high percentage of couples/females are fake.
asking for regular is a pretty tall order too..
so dont expect to happen quickly.. patience is virtue |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!
on a serious note check out dating sites much easier to get sex from than fabs....... not knocking fabs but I mainly us it for forums and the odd meet "
What makes you say "Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!"
The lads feeling deflated at the minute and perhaps saying that isn't what he needs to hear at the moment. |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"Im ok really _eerise. Just would love someone local to chat to all i seem to get is women from miles away such a shame x"
Babes your young you have plenty of time to meet people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right here goes im 28 single and really miss a lady in my life. I would love a regular fuck buddy errr even writing that sounds bad lol ideally id love to meet a woman older than myself. Is there any serious advice you could give me as i dont seem to be doing well on here. I alkways be nice and leave nice messages i like it when a women tells me im not her type then i know and dont pester her. Im a canny bloke non pushy some advice would be great x "
You seem like a nice guy if I'm honest
Your profile has a positive spring to it, yet it concentrates on what you would like as opposed to what you can give back.
Consider that - this is a two way street after all.
The other thing I am going to say is that your posts in the forums aren't particularly positive and I think that casts some doubt over what people are getting themselves into.
Most people are here looking for fun, whereas on the basis of this and other posts, it would suggest to me that you might be 'hard work'.
To that degree, people who may have messaged you on the basis of your profile might be put off from doing so by what you write in here.
Now please don't take that out of context, I am not slamming you, just pointing out that above all else, positivity and confidence shines through whereas negativity and / or confusion generally has the opposite effect.
I hope you can make the site work for you but in the mean time, sit back and take stock of what you do have, no what you don't
Good Luck |
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I agree with the above. Have a rethink about the bit in your profile about how you will go along with the womans fantasies if they fit with yours, it comes across a bit one sided although I'm sure you didn't mean it that way. Otherwise keep on trying, build up relationships in the fora there are some very nice, positive people on here and I hope you get to meet someone soon. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Right here goes im 28 single and really miss a lady in my life. I would love a regular fuck buddy errr even writing that sounds bad lol ideally id love to meet a woman older than myself. Is there any serious advice you could give me as i dont seem to be doing well on here. I alkways be nice and leave nice messages i like it when a women tells me im not her type then i know and dont pester her. Im a canny bloke non pushy some advice would be great x
You seem like a nice guy if I'm honest
Your profile has a positive spring to it, yet it concentrates on what you would like as opposed to what you can give back.
Consider that - this is a two way street after all.
The other thing I am going to say is that your posts in the forums aren't particularly positive and I think that casts some doubt over what people are getting themselves into.
Most people are here looking for fun, whereas on the basis of this and other posts, it would suggest to me that you might be 'hard work'.
To that degree, people who may have messaged you on the basis of your profile might be put off from doing so by what you write in here.
Now please don't take that out of context, I am not slamming you, just pointing out that above all else, positivity and confidence shines through whereas negativity and / or confusion generally has the opposite effect.
I hope you can make the site work for you but in the mean time, sit back and take stock of what you do have, no what you don't
Good Luck "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!
on a serious note check out dating sites much easier to get sex from than fabs....... not knocking fabs but I mainly us it for forums and the odd meet
ahem young man
ha ha I will get it back on just for you
where has your kiwi pic gone ?
that was 1 of my faves "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!
on a serious note check out dating sites much easier to get sex from than fabs....... not knocking fabs but I mainly us it for forums and the odd meet
What makes you say "Nice people on forums!!!! you must be joking mate!"
The lads feeling deflated at the minute and perhaps saying that isn't what he needs to hear at the moment."
DER!!! Was messing around hence why I said on a serious note..... and give some advice... Think you just proved my point that people jump down others necks to quick! |
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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago
Hull |
"Right here goes im 28 single and really miss a lady in my life. I would love a regular fuck buddy errr even writing that sounds bad lol ideally id love to meet a woman older than myself. Is there any serious advice you could give me as i dont seem to be doing well on here. I alkways be nice and leave nice messages i like it when a women tells me im not her type then i know and dont pester her. Im a canny bloke non pushy some advice would be great x
You seem like a nice guy if I'm honest
Your profile has a positive spring to it, yet it concentrates on what you would like as opposed to what you can give back.
Consider that - this is a two way street after all.
The other thing I am going to say is that your posts in the forums aren't particularly positive and I think that casts some doubt over what people are getting themselves into.
Most people are here looking for fun, whereas on the basis of this and other posts, it would suggest to me that you might be 'hard work'.
To that degree, people who may have messaged you on the basis of your profile might be put off from doing so by what you write in here.
Now please don't take that out of context, I am not slamming you, just pointing out that above all else, positivity and confidence shines through whereas negativity and / or confusion generally has the opposite effect.
I hope you can make the site work for you but in the mean time, sit back and take stock of what you do have, no what you don't
Good Luck "
Good advice from Bussy.
At least you have some positive aspects to your Profile; it's constructed well, with good spelling, grammar and punctuation plus you state what you are seeking and what you are like.
If I had to be picky, break your Profile down into 2-3 paragraphs as it is easier on the eye! Plus ditch the cock shots to your Private pics. You have a facial pic, but try to include a second one if possible.
Get onto the Forums, and see about going to socials and clubs in your region. It's all about being noticed.
It does get better, believe me! good luck! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See i get alot of good feedback for my cock pick and yes some say get rid of them its a tough one to decide with everyone being there own ninds and opinions |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"See i get alot of good feedback for my cock pick and yes some say get rid of them its a tough one to decide with everyone being there own ninds and opinions "
it seems to me u have asked for peoples opionions but then just want to dismiss them and act like u are doing nothign wrong.. if ur doing so right then why do u feel u r failing? cos its everyone else not u? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know im not doing perfect on here that why im asking advice for. But i got two messages of girls complementing my cock pics. I also get people who dont like then its just confusing x |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"See i get alot of good feedback for my cock pick and yes some say get rid of them its a tough one to decide with everyone being there own ninds and opinions "
You have loads of cock pictures and if that's all you have then join the que at the back |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"I know im not doing perfect on here that why im asking advice for. But i got two messages of girls complementing my cock pics. I also get people who dont like then its just confusing x"
Wait!!! 2 women said nice things so your confused because others haven't!!! Your beginning to sound very different to the sweet cheeky chap I usually speak to and your also showing your age. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I only have a pics of me alone so i put a face pic cock pic and ass pic. Some advice for what pics i should show i will put them all on have a look see which ones you thinks best x |
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"See i get alot of good feedback for my cock pick and yes some say get rid of them its a tough one to decide with everyone being there own ninds and opinions
You have loads of cock pictures and if that's all you have then join the que at the back"
Right I might as well chuck in my 2 pennies. I checked out your profile when I saw this thread. I read your profile which was ok then checked out your pics, IMHO there's waaaaay too many pics which are practically identical of you posing cock in hand. I'm not one for cock pics at all but I understand some are so I'd suggest posting one or two to keep everyone happy.
Then you messaged me, thanks for taking the time to do so but I've gotta tell ya that I get at least 20 one sentence messages every day saying how nice my boobs are. I think if you are wanting to get more reaction and banter with the ladies you need to be a bit more imaginative. Make yourself stand out, read profiles then send a message based on what you think you and the person can benefit from each other! Hope this helps x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP..get off arse get to a club/socials
if these arent for u, thats a shame
I think too many people sit back and let the cyber aspects of it all land them meets(possibly the furthest thing from the truth).
U have one cam verify from a great looking member but that wouldnt lead me to believe ur up for geuine meetups.
U have been here over a year...time to get off ur arse and get to some of the things based within ur interests(Ive had a peek) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I do go on cam alot but yes i only have one person that has commented on it. I am very genuine just need help on how to approach people. Ive had alot of great advice and im learning everyday |
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"Thank you for that comment yes now i think about it my message to you was pretty lame hope you can forgive me x  "
Of course.  when I message people I just try to think of something they won't of heard a hundred times. Coz even tho its a compliment it gets old. By all means say about the boobs within a message just don't make all of the message x x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok i understand how are you doing today? and did you like my profile now x"
Please read what i wrote above again.
A constant need for re-assurance will only serve to sell you short.
I know confidence doesn't come naturally to some people, but you need to work on that more than anything.
You have physical attributes that many women will find attractive, you seem to know what you want - even if you choose not to write about what you can give back - you can string a sentence together and you have stuck round on the site despite not having had any meets.
Those things should all be in your favour which leads me to believe that you are perhaps your own worst enemy.
Have some conviction, have some confidence, dip your toe in the water, step out from behind the webcam and start meeting people.
They might not be all you want or all you seek, but the experiences will give you the self belief that I feel you so desperately need.
But bear in mind there is no set format, not all meets go to plan, you may say things you wish you hadn't, you may do things you wish you hadn't, you might think you have made a fool of yourself - but that is all part of the learning curve.
You are 28, you're not a kid any more.
Be brave - go out there and knock 'em dead (just not literally ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol i never ment to was a genuine mistakem
Tee hee your fingers slipped as you did the same to me bb "
just hang on a minute here
only 4 hours ago you were acting in the OPs defence telling a lad he was out of order for making 1 comment as the OP was down at the minute and probably didn't need to hear it
yet now you are showing him up in public by adding fuel to a fire that someone else started ?
fickle and not the nicest of moves |
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By *eeriseWoman
over a year ago
Manchester and that's all you need to know |
"lol i never ment to was a genuine mistakem
Tee hee your fingers slipped as you did the same to me bb
just hang on a minute here
only 4 hours ago you were acting in the OPs defence telling a lad he was out of order for making 1 comment as the OP was down at the minute and probably didn't need to hear it
yet now you are showing him up in public by adding fuel to a fire that someone else started ?
fickle and not the nicest of moves "
and if you read you would have seen where the OP said he was fine |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"lol i never ment to was a genuine mistakem
Tee hee your fingers slipped as you did the same to me bb
just hang on a minute here
only 4 hours ago you were acting in the OPs defence telling a lad he was out of order for making 1 comment as the OP was down at the minute and probably didn't need to hear it
yet now you are showing him up in public by adding fuel to a fire that someone else started ?
fickle and not the nicest of moves
and if you read you would have seen where the OP said he was fine "
don't toy with his emotions eh ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""starting a fire" was never my intention, I was just suggesting something he may need to stop doing as I know how much it frustrates me "
I get that
I just thought that someone else adding to it made him look a bit daft.
However, he seems happy enough, so apologies if my comment offended you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some people have a habit of always getting involved even when the OP have said let it go."
If the 'some people' comment is is a reference to me, then if YOU read the thread, you will see I had offered advice much earlier, so it's not as if I just jumped in.
If the 'some people' comment was not a reference to me, then I apologise for drawing that conclusion. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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so can i change topic slightly im 28 and have a real turnon for lets just say women who are older than myself was wondering if any women on here like younger men or is it a no go area. Id love to have the bottle to approach an older women in a bar ,i mean if theres just say 3or4 im ok at chatting to them we seem to connect |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so can i change topic slightly im 28 and have a real turnon for lets just say women who are older than myself was wondering if any women on here like younger men or is it a no go area. Id love to have the bottle to approach an older women in a bar ,i mean if theres just say 3or4 im ok at chatting to them we seem to connect"
some older women like youger men, others don't
what do you mean by older ?
30s / 40s / 50s / 60s
or all the above ?
and if you have the confidence to approach them in a bar and have a chat, then do so ! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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you know mate i am in the same boat and sooner or later there be no single guys on here.
very few will reply and if they do its not all the time so you can build up a friendship with them.
if a guy is rude block him but come on give us a chance ladies couples |
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We tarted by going along to a social, oncepeople know you actually exist and you are who you say you are you will be sorted. We have a circle of single malesthat we use as they are reliable etc. I imagine that a lot of couples are the same as us in that respect. get yourself known and the rest will follow.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just take time. Go to a few clubs, chat a bit more in forums, go to a social or 6. Make a circle of friends male and female, and have a few laughs along the way. The elusive female you seek will sneak up on you when you least expect it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"so can i change topic slightly im 28 and have a real turnon for lets just say women who are older than myself was wondering if any women on here like younger men or is it a no go area. Id love to have the bottle to approach an older women in a bar ,i mean if theres just say 3or4 im ok at chatting to them we seem to connect"
For me its a no go area but there are lots that don't mind and as someone says, chat someone up in a bar |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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New day feeling alot better of all your comments. I thibk really its just confidence i think i struggle with . I suppose im just like everyone else just wish i was more attractive :- |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I get what you say. I know how its of putting reading what im saying at times. I will be more positive on my comments. Your comments are clear thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"New day feeling alot better of all your comments. I thibk really its just confidence i think i struggle with . I suppose im just like everyone else just wish I was more attractive :-
I mean this in a helpful way, comments like that are not attractive. You say you feel better today and I'm glad you do, you come across as a nice guy and you look good in your pictures. Keep
posting and chatting everyone
struggles with confidence at some point
so in that respect you are just like
everyone else "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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As my first post stated any nice people got any advice and i have to say you all have been great. Think theres possibilitys of making some good friends on here. I know at time i seem down im not really just comes across like that but now i know i will think more about my posts. Really all im saying is thank you all xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i think its nice talking on cam as you see and can tell if you have things in common"
and its essentially partially stopping u explore REAL life swinging aspects, I'm not judging I used to cam alot...I just cant really be arsed anymore...but I have a fairly active meet life.Internet stuff is OK...but, I think u'd be better at least giving a go of some real encounters, socially or sexually...namely the club and or social scene... and after all its the crux of ur post really. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've already suggested clubs, but as with most people asking advice, you give them some and they choose not to take it  "
ive took your advice jsut give me time lol  |
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Just be natural . Post stuff on threads . Go to clubs if you can . You got nothing to lose. Chat. Flirt.. Have fun . Tease but be respectful . You don't want to piss people off. Be yourself you can't please every one all the time . Someone will think your cute sometime and cherish the contact you make. |
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