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By *ilhay OP TV/TS
over a year ago
Edinburgh |
I have planed and organised a few gangbang/bukkakes for other people and one of the things guys almost always end up asking is "How many guys are going to be there?"
It proper pisses me off because, how the fuck would I know? I'm in the process of planing it and seeing if "you" want to be there or not, plus fuck knows how many fantasists and dreamers are going to flake out last min, but mostly it pisses me off because ... what does it matter?
It's a gangbang scenario. The point is to get as many guys as possible there. What does the actual number matter to them for? is five too many for them to be around? is 6 too few to be bothered with?
what are they looking for when they ask this question and why does it matter to them?
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"I have planed and organised a few gangbang/bukkakes for other people and one of the things guys almost always end up asking is "How many guys are going to be there?"
It proper pisses me off because, how the fuck would I know? I'm in the process of planing it and seeing if "you" want to be there or not, plus fuck knows how many fantasists and dreamers are going to flake out last min, but mostly it pisses me off because ... what does it matter?
It's a gangbang scenario. The point is to get as many guys as possible there. What does the actual number matter to them for? is five too many for them to be around? is 6 too few to be bothered with?
what are they looking for when they ask this question and why does it matter to them?
when planning a gangbang why do guys always ask "how many guys will be there?""
I think its a reasonable question to ask as it will indicate the type of event being planned. Small and intimate or large and wild.
I have organised over 100 sex parties and yes I got all sorts of questions. I found the best approach was to put together a quick FAQ page and send that to anyone who was interested in attending. When I started doing parties the biggest problem I found was no shows which averaged over 50% |
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"I have planed and organised a few gangbang/bukkakes for other people and one of the things guys almost always end up asking is "How many guys are going to be there?"
It proper pisses me off because, how the fuck would I know? I'm in the process of planing it and seeing if "you" want to be there or not, plus fuck knows how many fantasists and dreamers are going to flake out last min, but mostly it pisses me off because ... what does it matter?
It's a gangbang scenario. The point is to get as many guys as possible there. What does the actual number matter to them for? is five too many for them to be around? is 6 too few to be bothered with?
what are they looking for when they ask this question and why does it matter to them?
when planning a gangbang why do guys always ask "how many guys will be there?"
I think its a reasonable question to ask as it will indicate the type of event being planned. Small and intimate or large and wild.
I have organised over 100 sex parties and yes I got all sorts of questions. I found the best approach was to put together a quick FAQ page and send that to anyone who was interested in attending. When I started doing parties the biggest problem I found was no shows which averaged over 50% "
I'd have to agree with this. I think it's a reasonable question as there's a big difference between a gang bang with 3/4 guys and one with 20 |
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I fail to see why its an issue for you?
Everyone has a right to know what sort of situation they are entering and for some people that's knowing how many people are going. If we go to a private party, we like to know who and how many are attending. Gngbangs are absoultely not our thing and my wife is not intrested in multiple guys. We've had had one such event we where invited to in the in the past where it quite litterally would have been us and another couple with a bunch of guys and we wouldnt have known had we not asked. Not our thing at all.
I assume the same can be said got a gangbang. Some guys might be perfectly OK with it being 3 or 4 other guys but not be in to it if there's 10 or 12 for arguments sake.
There's nothing wrong with anyone politely asking as it's as much for their enjoyment as it is yours. Even if you don't have a exact number, surely you can give them a best guess or let them know how many have asked to attend. You are the one arrange said gangbang I assume? |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
I get it. It’s a question that gets asked a lot about club visits, especially daytime ones, too, and it feels like it shifts the focus entirely from the women who want to be fucked and objectifies her. Whereas “how many is she looking for?” is a question that gets the same answer but hits in an entirely different way. |
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I think it's a fair enough to ask. Some men maybe comfortable with 5 or 6 but think 30 guys is a bit grim. It's their bodies and they have a right to understand what they are getting themselves into too. I don't think it's fair to be pissed off with them for asking a fair enough question.
And it's fair enough for you to say there will be the numbers there that there is. They can make their mind up from there. |
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"I think it's a fair enough to ask. Some men maybe comfortable with 5 or 6 but think 30 guys is a bit grim. It's their bodies and they have a right to understand what they are getting themselves into too. I don't think it's fair to be pissed off with them for asking a fair enough question.
And it's fair enough for you to say there will be the numbers there that there is. They can make their mind up from there. "
Trouble is, you have to ask 30 for a remote chance of getting 6! |
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Trouble is, you have to ask 30 for a remote chance of getting 6!
Once you get a little experience organising gangbangs/parties you get a feel for the likely drop out rate."
I know the drop out rate, that's why I said 30. |
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It's not a field I'm particularly interested in and don't know about the organisation. But I'm guessing there's two main types of guys:
A. The ones that really love it and will go out of their way.
B. The ones who just like the idea of getting attention and possibly laid by any means. But isn't really their ideal situation.
I suspect for the latter group the fantasy wears off with the reality they'll have to share the woman and preform in front of lots of men. Or they get a better offer.
I know personally it's not my thing and I wouldn't go out my way. However it's something I would consider (and have enjoyed before) while visiting a club if the Devil gets in me. But that's different when not preplanned. You get to know the environment, feel the vibe and meet the lucky lady before kick off. That's something you can't judge prior to making arrangements online. It's not generally for me and I suspect in reality it's not for the time wasters either.
But I suspect there are guys who have a real passion for it and an excellent reputation for reliability. I assume these guys are know by word of mouth and to contact such guys you need to be in the know to some extent. And if you recruit the right guys for the job you need not worry so much about numbers and no shows. That's what I suspect anyways, is this the case?
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"It's not a field I'm particularly interested in and don't know about the organisation. But I'm guessing there's two main types of guys:
A. The ones that really love it and will go out of their way.
B. The ones who just like the idea of getting attention and possibly laid by any means. But isn't really their ideal situation.
I suspect for the latter group the fantasy wears off with the reality they'll have to share the woman and preform in front of lots of men. Or they get a better offer.
I know personally it's not my thing and I wouldn't go out my way. However it's something I would consider (and have enjoyed before) while visiting a club if the Devil gets in me. But that's different when not preplanned. You get to know the environment, feel the vibe and meet the lucky lady before kick off. That's something you can't judge prior to making arrangements online. It's not generally for me and I suspect in reality it's not for the time wasters either.
But I suspect there are guys who have a real passion for it and an excellent reputation for reliability. I assume these guys are know by word of mouth and to contact such guys you need to be in the know to some extent. And if you recruit the right guys for the job you need not worry so much about numbers and no shows. That's what I suspect anyways, is this the case?
Mr"
There's a 3rd category because i fell into that catagory.Pure curiosity.
My wife and I have been on the scene since our 20s. Not shy about it and certai ly not inexperienced in any sense of the word. She has no intrest in gangbangs and neither do I to be honest. Our dynamic isn't about multiple fellas among other things. And I mean that in the sense that I'd never give it any thought. It neither appealed nor didn't appeal unless it was loads and loads of guys. 3 or 4 guys and a gal, sure. I could be part of that. 20 guys and being expected to dunk my dick in so one else's cum, no thanks. It was just was something I was a little curious about in certain situations.
As it happens, I did get invited by a lady to one last year purely by chance. I was unsure but my better half said give it a go at least once and tell me about it when you get back.
So I did. I had questions before the event and it wasn't unreasonable for me to ask them. I certainly wouldn't have been one guy in 20 for example and I would not have gone if certain things where expected of me that I was not interested in or comfy with. So I asked questions and was given a straight answer. Honesty is the best policy as far as I'm concerned.
Turned out on the day just myself and another guy turned up and he left after 15 mins. So I had the lovely lady to myself aside from.the host for a few hours which was fine with me.
Point is, as a first gangbang attendance, I wouldn't have gone not knowing anything about what to expect. I don't think there was anything wrong in asking questions politely. I get some people aware sick of having their time wasted, fab knows a lot happens on here but for organised events people have a right to know certain things, even if it's best guess. If you're the type of person to get hung up on being asked those questions, should you be organising such an event to begin with? Questions come with the territory be it organising a gangbang, a party or a social. |
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i am with the OP there if you advertise a gangbang then expect to have a minimum of 6 men there anything less is not a gangbang IMO, 3-4 guys is just an intimate party. if you reply to an advert for a gangbang and want to join in you have to be prepared that it will be a lot of men present it's the whole point of a gangbang. stupid question to ask.
and i do get asked a lot of stupid questions.
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
London |
"I fail to see why its an issue for you?
Everyone has a right to know what sort of situation they are entering and for some people that's knowing how many people are going. If we go to a private party, we like to know who and how many are attending. Gngbangs are absoultely not our thing and my wife is not intrested in multiple guys. We've had had one such event we where invited to in the in the past where it quite litterally would have been us and another couple with a bunch of guys and we wouldnt have known had we not asked. Not our thing at all.
I assume the same can be said got a gangbang. Some guys might be perfectly OK with it being 3 or 4 other guys but not be in to it if there's 10 or 12 for arguments sake.
There's nothing wrong with anyone politely asking as it's as much for their enjoyment as it is yours. Even if you don't have a exact number, surely you can give them a best guess or let them know how many have asked to attend. You are the one arrange said gangbang I assume?"
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By *D835Man
over a year ago
London |
"I have planed and organised a few gangbang/bukkakes for other people and one of the things guys almost always end up asking is "How many guys are going to be there?"
It proper pisses me off because, how the fuck would I know? I'm in the process of planing it and seeing if "you" want to be there or not, plus fuck knows how many fantasists and dreamers are going to flake out last min, but mostly it pisses me off because ... what does it matter?
It's a gangbang scenario. The point is to get as many guys as possible there. What does the actual number matter to them for? is five too many for them to be around? is 6 too few to be bothered with?
what are they looking for when they ask this question and why does it matter to them?
when planning a gangbang why do guys always ask "how many guys will be there?""
I currently organise gangbangs, and I’ve also organised swinging parties in the past.
…. and I always get asked the same question:
"how many guys will be there?".
I kind of understand the reasons why I’m being asked this question, because I myself have attended gangbangs which I have been invited to……..and I tend to ask the same question as well to whoever is organising the gangbang.
One of the reasons for that question is to do with the ratio of men-to-women in the gangbang.
If you have just one lady in the gangbang, and then 12 guys turn up, it feels overcrowded.
If every one of those 12 guys needs to take a separate turn with the lady, then it could take a while before you start playing if you’re guy number 12 on the queue.
And if the gangbang lasts only 3 hours or less, then you could end up spending more time hanging around waiting for your turn compared to the time you actually spend playing.
This ‘waiting game’ does not appeal to a lot of guys.
In a scenario where you have one lady and 4 guys attending, then the guys will rotate much quicker compared to having 12 guys to one lady.
So…….. that’s one of the main reasons why guys would question how many people are attending.
Knowing the male-to-female ratio is a determining factor for lots of guys, and it gives them the opportunity to decided whether your gangbang is worth attending, or not. |
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I've often wondered about the exact same question, however, after seeing the good responses on this thread, it's a reasonable question to ask.
I turned up to one in the early 2000s it was help in a pub and the thought was great but once I got there it wasn't actually as great as I thought it was going to be.
In my favour though, I was first onto the stage with the women though but I did not hang about after. |
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I think the other thing to look at is many of these gangbangs that I have seen being arranged often ask for money to be paid. One such event I messaged about said the fee was to pay for the hotel room, trouble is when they are expecting every guy to pay £80+ it clearly is to make profit, in that situation I think it's fair to ask how many are expected. |
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I think it’s a reasonable question - which you can’t know the answer to until the event - so perhaps tell em how many you’re inviting and their guess is as good as yours for how many actually turn up. I’ve been invited to a small gb of 6 - 3 turned up and one bottled it before proceedings began  Some guys are just into the idea of doing it but when its time to deliver - they just can’t - the ones who turn up and are obviously overwhelmed at what they’ve committed to - I have sympathy for - the no shows and ghosts gave ruined and are still ruining swinging. Mostly because they think swinging is just a polite word for fucking. Clueless |
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"I have planed and organised a few gangbang/bukkakes for other people and one of the things guys almost always end up asking is "How many guys are going to be there?"
It proper pisses me off because, how the fuck would I know? I'm in the process of planing it and seeing if "you" want to be there or not, plus fuck knows how many fantasists and dreamers are going to flake out last min, but mostly it pisses me off because ... what does it matter?
It's a gangbang scenario. The point is to get as many guys as possible there. What does the actual number matter to them for? is five too many for them to be around? is 6 too few to be bothered with?
what are they looking for when they ask this question and why does it matter to them?
when planning a gangbang why do guys always ask "how many guys will be there?"
I currently organise gangbangs, and I’ve also organised swinging parties in the past.
…. and I always get asked the same question:
"how many guys will be there?".
I kind of understand the reasons why I’m being asked this question, because I myself have attended gangbangs which I have been invited to……..and I tend to ask the same question as well to whoever is organising the gangbang.
One of the reasons for that question is to do with the ratio of men-to-women in the gangbang.
If you have just one lady in the gangbang, and then 12 guys turn up, it feels overcrowded.
If every one of those 12 guys needs to take a separate turn with the lady, then it could take a while before you start playing if you’re guy number 12 on the queue.
And if the gangbang lasts only 3 hours or less, then you could end up spending more time hanging around waiting for your turn compared to the time you actually spend playing.
This ‘waiting game’ does not appeal to a lot of guys.
In a scenario where you have one lady and 4 guys attending, then the guys will rotate much quicker compared to having 12 guys to one lady.
So…….. that’s one of the main reasons why guys would question how many people are attending.
Knowing the male-to-female ratio is a determining factor for lots of guys, and it gives them the opportunity to decided whether your gangbang is worth attending, or not. "
Very valid points in my opinion. Organising one is a trial on its own. If you want a ratio of say 5-1, invite 20. Nearer the time of the gangbang it will have whittled down to maybe 12. Take another 6 away for no shows and your left with what you require. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Absolutely obvious to me, and I've never been in one or even explored the chance. Straight guys inherently don't want to be 'with' other guys naked. .. too many guys and it'll be a put off .. just the risk of 'touching' is enough lol.. we are talking normal straight here not fab straight..
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