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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok, I know this has been covered before but I just thought I'd put my views forward as a single woman.
First READ a profile of the person you are intersted in, don't just look at the pictures, it will tell you what that person IS and is NOT looking for! Take note and just don't think, 'oh well I'll try my luck anyway'. You will just get deleted, then you'll whinge about getting no replies. People put things on their profile for a reason and to save you wastinng your time and theirs.
The most important thing to have is a FACE pic, ok so you don't want to display one on your profile but have at least one, more if possible, to send with your messages (look at your 'Manage Photos' section). And contrary to what you might think, cock pics do not do anything for 99.99% of us ladies. No matter how pround you are of your love tool, only send if asked. We much prefer to see a sexy torso, or even a cute butt if you want to keep your face in your private gallery. No one is going to meet you if they don't know what you look like! I mean really, would you?
Realise that not everyone is going to find you attactive or to their taste. Well come on, are you attracted to EVERY woman you see? Of course not. For example one woman might not go for bald heads where another might love them, we are all individual and find different people attractive for different reasons.
Write and individual message to a person you would like to get to know, not too long and definitely not 'Hi, how are you?' or the worst one, 'Wanna fuck?'. Say something about yourself and why you are contacting this person. Again by READING their profile fully you will get an idea of what they are like/looking for/interested in. Be polite and respectful, even if you feel that most people are not being polite back. A lot of people will reply with a polite 'thanks but no thanks' if they are not interested, a lot with just ignore you, but so many people then feel thay have to reply back with a rude remark. Why? Just accept it, forget it and move on! We all get ignored or rejected at some point, its all part of the wonderful world of swinging ( or even dating for that matter ).
Ok this is a site for people who enjoy sex, swingers, couples and singles alike, but that doesn't mean that everyone is here to fuck anyone or anything that moves at the drop of a hat. Most people on here are real, normal, intelligent, people with families and lives they want to keep separate, discression is a must. Also you will find that most people want to get to know prospective playmates before getting down to the 'nitty gritty' and want regular meets. As the more you get to know people the more comfortable you are with each other and the better the sex becomes and you make some really great new friends too. That doesn't mean to say there arn't people who are happy with 'one offs' and staright to the bedroom meets, of course there are, but everyone is individual, get to know them! Talk to people at length, be honest, if you click with someone and arrange a meet, TURN UP! If you have a valid reason for not being able to, or even if you've just changed your mind, then let the other party know. The worse thing you can do is stand someone up without an explanation or apology.
You WILL get let down, stood up, ignored, deleted and blocked at some point, again its all about the wonder world of Fabs, deal with it, move on and don't let ot put you off! There are lots and lots of lovely, genuine, fun and friendly people on here!
So, have fun, take care and happy swinging!  "
We totally agree with you... Goes for couples too xx |
Barb, your a star x
