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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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We were on here last year and had a few socials and met one lovely person where it went further.
Then we got the horrendous news that S had Breast Cancer, despite a clear mammogram a few months earlier.
Since then she has had Chemotherapy, Single Mastectomy and Radiotherapy and is now doing remarkably well and is expected to make a full recovery. Amazing!
But her confidence has taken a battering, losing her hair was tough, but surgery, recovery and the realisation of what has happened to her have been really tough. I tell her every day I love her and she is beautiful. We have no problem with intimacy as we have always been very close, but I know she felt less sexy, not as womanly since surgery.
Recently we decided to take some new pics dressed in flattering lingerie and they have done wonders for her confidence and she said that she feels "almost normal" again, obviously a new "normal" but definitely helped her feel better about herself.
She's contemplating more candid photos showing scar and hair loss to try and highlight the reality of BC
What are peoples thoughts about meeting a Breast Cancer survivor intimately?
Would love to hear from others that have been through this, Ladies & Gents, how you both coped and got back to some type of normality.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sorry to here this I am living with cancer but not breast cancer. Tell her to remain positive there is always a light end of the tunnel "
Thanks for your kind wishes, hope you are doing OK |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Glad to hear she's almost back to her normal self,
She looks great in the pics and I'd say people won't mind at all as long as she's comfortable meeting again.
Good luck"
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We read your post together this morning and think you have a great attitude. Well done for the hot photos! In answer to your question, we wouldn't rule out meeting a survivor if there was an attraction  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I (micky) had a relationship with a girl who had lost one breast to cancer. Made no difference whatsoever to me. She had no confidence when I met her but bought her some nice lingerie for her birthday and, when being intimate, have as much attention to the scar as I did to the remaining breast. The relationship didn’t last but that was nothing to do with the lack of a breast. Any genuine and respectful guy would not be deterred by that. Good luck |
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"We were on here last year and had a few socials and met one lovely person where it went further.
Then we got the horrendous news that S had Breast Cancer, despite a clear mammogram a few months earlier.
Since then she has had Chemotherapy, Single Mastectomy and Radiotherapy and is now doing remarkably well and is expected to make a full recovery. Amazing!
But her confidence has taken a battering, losing her hair was tough, but surgery, recovery and the realisation of what has happened to her have been really tough. I tell her every day I love her and she is beautiful. We have no problem with intimacy as we have always been very close, but I know she felt less sexy, not as womanly since surgery.
Recently we decided to take some new pics dressed in flattering lingerie and they have done wonders for her confidence and she said that she feels "almost normal" again, obviously a new "normal" but definitely helped her feel better about herself.
She's contemplating more candid photos showing scar and hair loss to try and highlight the reality of BC
What are peoples thoughts about meeting a Breast Cancer survivor intimately?
Would love to hear from others that have been through this, Ladies & Gents, how you both coped and got back to some type of normality.
Xx"
Mrs H went through this in 2014. Single mastectomy followed by reconstruction.
The year between the mastectomy and the reconstruction was tough on her confidence but she soon bounced back.
She is now 8 years cancer free and (although slowed down a bit) still enjoying this lifestyle including nudist beaches and (pre Covid) 2 weeks of naked hedonism in Cap d'Agde.
To cover her scar tissue she wears a temporary tattoo and is regularly complimented on it. Her latest pic on here has been fabbed over 700 times.
Confidence does take time to rebuild but I'm sure she will get there.
Good luck and best wishes.
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I have posted on other threads about my particular journey with breast cancer through lockdown, and hopefully my experience will help with your journey also.
I am an extreme exhibitionist and 3 years ago had a wonderful DD boob job. I was so happy, but 6 months later found a lump and initially had a lumpectomy, being told my boob could be saved. But then we got the bad news and I had to have a full single mastectomy, which left me with two large scars. I have been waiting two and a half years for a reconstruction but a month ago found a lump in the scar and am nervously awaiting the results of a biopsy.
What was particularly hard is the fact I have a fetish for quarter cup bras and flashing, but hey ho.
But, all this said, I was determined to find a way to get back on track and have been posting pics over the last 8 months or so using my falsie. I have been open about these experiences in an attempt to make others going through the same thing feel better.
Your wife looks lovely and please pass on my best wishes. For what it is worth, my advice is to “own it” so to speak, be open and unapologetic about it, and as you have already found, there are many creative ways to make yourself look as sexy as ever.
Always happy to chat.
Mrs S xx |
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By * o yWoman
over a year ago
Liverpool |
This is what I love about the forums. Every 1 shares.
Please hold your head high. Carry on being positive.
Cancer is a *******, but your beating it.. every 1 reading this suffering with cancer stay strong and share. It helps xx |
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"A sexy woman is still a sexy woman, it doesn't depend on wether she has had a mastectomy. "
Total agree
M had a single mastectomy four years ago. Which slowed down us entering this world only because I found it hard to think about sharing her after thinking I might lose her. |
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By *eagleMan
over a year ago
Holywood |
In my sexual wanderings I have met two ladies who have had single breast mastectomies.
In neither case did it inhibit them - nor I.
Should you wish to know more, please do contact me by p.m.
Johnoxo |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
This is what I love about Fab. You can openly discuss how the breast cancer has affected your partner with regards to intimacy which is often overlooked and taboo in a normal situation but it’s one of the most important part of almost everyone’s life. Even a cuddle is important when you’ve gone through something like this. I have a few Fab friends who have had breast cancer, and like your partner, they’ve embraced it.
It’s good to see the positive comments about people meeting up with those that have had mastectomies. Not everyone opts for reconstruction. For women it is like a bereavement to lose part of what makes you feel feminine. It takes a lot to overcome it and your partner is a strong and beautiful woman.
Your doing a great job of supporting her.
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"What are peoples thoughts about meeting a Breast Cancer survivor intimately?
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It wouldn’t make any difference to us. We’re all human and we all have shit going on in our lives.
Have you considered going to a club, just to ease yourselves back into it? It might be less pressure for her than a private meet, and allow her to concentrate on a good night out and if sex happens it happens 
Hope she finds her feet again xx |
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