Just wondering if any other people deal with this?
So basically everytime we go to a club I (A) spend the next day really tired and lethargic, not through a hangover as I don't drink, more like a "what on earth happened last night" kind of feeling. I liken it to mental exhaustion..
Should note that I love the experiences, but they seem to take alot out of me. Is this something that's likely to fade once I find my stride?
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"Just wondering if any other people deal with this?
So basically everytime we go to a club I (A) spend the next day really tired and lethargic, not through a hangover as I don't drink, more like a "what on earth happened last night" kind of feeling. I liken it to mental exhaustion..
Should note that I love the experiences, but they seem to take alot out of me. Is this something that's likely to fade once I find my stride?
Ax"
I can do relate to this  introvert at heart and also where else do you shut your phone away for 7 hours and live in the moment?! It’s a lot! X |
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It depends on your constitution and what aspects of the clubs are driving your issue, IMO
I can find being highly alert, having lots of people around me, which is very stimulating, potentially scanning and analysing whether others may be of interest or interested in us - as well as wanting to keep guarded from undesirables, etc to be very exhausting. And that's without excitement and possibly some sexual activities.
When I visit and more fully relax, without being so highly on alert, it doesn't have the same load on me. Familiarity is great, knowing the place and a great proportion of the people, can ease things too. |
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I have this too. I find people exhausting wherever I am, but particularly so after a club visit.
I love clubs, and the people, although it takes me days to recover afterwards. |
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Sounds like your discribing something like Sub drop. In the Bdsm world you can get sub & Top drop. It's the come down from the adreniline (sp). I've had it on occasion. Take time for yourself the next day. Reading, sofa day, nice meal, cuddles ect. Whatever makes you feel good.  |
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By *JohnMan
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I find if I've had a good night out (whether it's at the club or not), my head will be buzzing when I get home. It doesn't matter if it's 2am and I have work the next day; I need a bit of time before I go to bed. If it was a particularly good night, I might need an hour or more.
The lack of sleep certainly doesn't help the next day. But it's more than that. How can the mundane world compare with whatever I was doing the night before? Everything is dull in comparison.
I'm still feeling a bit of that from Wednesday night. That was a good night. I just want to go back and do it again |
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As an introvert I can find a club visit mentally draining but also at my age it's physically pretty demanding too and it can take a couple of days to recover. Would that stop me going...absolutely not as its definitely worth it and we both have a great time. |
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Yes, definitely.
Find places, if possible, that are slightly more quiet. To zone out, collect your thoughts, before going back in.
They're incredible places but for a lot of us they can only be handled in small doses |
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Wow! Didn't feel that this would be a shared feeling! Thanks so much for everyone's contributions and advice.
Definitely makes you feel not alone in this struggle and some helpful tips for combating/accepting it. |
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Its the drop in dopamine, serotonin endorphins that are released. Its also called sub drop. Without aftercare I suffer from it badly for days. With good aftercare Im fine. |
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"Just wondering if any other people deal with this?
So basically everytime we go to a club I (A) spend the next day really tired and lethargic, not through a hangover as I don't drink, more like a "what on earth happened last night" kind of feeling. I liken it to mental exhaustion..
Should note that I love the experiences, but they seem to take alot out of me. Is this something that's likely to fade once I find my stride?
Ax"
I have Aspergers, so I deal with this everyday in normal life. So going to a club presents a hell of a lot of sensory input. The day after, I can barely move from exhaustion.
But this is the way I see it: At least it’s sensory input and exhaustion that I knowingly and willing brought upon myself, rather than it being imposed upon me 
(All the naked ladies help take the edge off it too!!!)
Mr x |
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