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By *exyFZee OP Couple
over a year ago
Harrow |
Hi
I'm the female half of couple who meets men solo. I've always wanted to peg a man and found someone who wants to be pegged- but I've never done it before, he's never done it before and I'm not big fan of getting sex lessons from porn 
Does anyone have any advice for a man's 1st time? Any tips or hints to make it more pleasurable for him? Any recommendations for strap on harness/dildo? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Going to be keeping an eye on this... it's something we want to try together. My only instruction to debs is to start small... she's used vibrating anal beads on me and it feels amazing so now ready for her to try a small strap on. Dan. |
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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago
Welling |
Forget strapon, find experienced top bi or gay (preferably with small cock) and let him do the deeds. Once the door is open, you can pitch in with strapon and fuck them both…. 
On a serious note, the guy need to douche to be 100% comfortable. Lots of foreplay, bit of rimming and fingering and slow unhurried penetration. Once in, freeze for a minute, let his muscles there to get use to it and relax, listen to his body and response, you see when he wants more.
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"Going to be keeping an eye on this... it's something we want to try together. My only instruction to debs is to start small... she's used vibrating anal beads on me and it feels amazing so now ready for her to try a small strap on. Dan."
Starting small, in our experience is not the way… an average girth decent size 7 or 8” is far better ( if you go small you’ll be replacing the toy straight away with something bigger) … too small and it’ll feel like an irritant, feeling weird because it’s almost not there rather than dilating your sphincter and readying for fucking. Poppuler leather cleaning products can help massively he’ll be pushing back in no time x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say that rimming is a good place to start. Once you are both comfortable, introduce a cheeky finger. These things can't be done in one go. Go at your own pace, plenty of lube. Talk to eachother how it feels. Don't be tempted to slam dunk on the same night. I'm always sore the day after, even with gentle play.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Lots of lube, good lube not cheap and sticky (comfort) and then I'd suggest placing the tip of your chosen strap against his hole and let him push back gently until he gives you the green light, there will be a moment he glides down to the entire shaft and let's you know you can have at it  |
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"I would say that rimming is a good place to start. Once you are both comfortable, introduce a cheeky finger. These things can't be done in one go. Go at your own pace, plenty of lube. Talk to eachother how it feels. Don't be tempted to slam dunk on the same night. I'm always sore the day after, even with gentle play.
Hope you have a fantastic time. "
I definitely agree with the above. Take it slow and using lots of lube. It took several weeks to build up a to small dildo with hubby.
One finger, anal beads, two fingers. Positionally he found it more comfortable either on all fours, or with as couple of pillows under his hips.
My strap-on was expensive, but so worth it. There I am actually a video of me wearing it in my gallery. It is a spare parts jocose.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get him to practice on his own first, start small, finger... Then maybe a butt plug. Always plenty of lube! "
This!
Once he's practiced himself he'll know his arse is ready. You just both have to relax when it comes to you pegging him and all will be fine. Good luck and enjoy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll be honest I got done two weeks ago the girl put small first went straight in wasn't enough wanted bigger so she out bigger on and omg I loved it if any ladies Wana guinea pig to try it on I'd be more than happy to help |
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Firstly, how much can he handle depth wise? Remember, there's no back wall for pounding, so will need to be opened up. Have you considered doching his hole? You can get lube syringes so you can lube him up plenty inside. Has he had anything in him as of yet? |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
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The guy should prepare himself thoroughly,for my 1st bi experience I bought a 3 sized butt plug set from AS and over a period of time I used each one - moving on to a bigger size when I felt I could take the smaller one down comfortably.
My wife pegged me once and (due to her inexperience) it bloody hurt so I commend you for wanting to get this right from your end. |
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Speaking from a male perspective , I bought a set of butplugs from love honey rangeing small medium large
Small is alittle bigger than a finger medium two fingers and large which is bigger than a small dildo.
Get him to take his time, I was putting them in regularly and got teal used to the feeling.
Douche is great so you feel clean.
Then the first time the missis pushed the strap on inside me was awesome and have since home up in size.
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By *astpoetMan
over a year ago
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The first time i tried pegging was with a woman I was seeing as a FWB who was very adventurous.
My tip from experience (mostly hers not mine that first time) was that she didn't just rush straight into it.
We had a lot of foreplay and teasing that eventually led to me on the bed on my back and her using various toys, starting with a small vibrator and working up.
When she eventually got the strap on out we started with me on top (but her in control), and it took a few times before I was on all fours for her.
Oh and the other thing that really goes without saying is lube, lots and lots of lube, and go slow for the love of god, if you try and ram it in you're going to end up with a lot of pain.
Also one other thing, not every man gets hard from anal, it doesn't mean they aren't enjoying it though, but some of us can cum from anal alone and don't even need to be wanked whilst we're doing it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So, I've been pegged a fair few times.
Start out with lots of foreplay, go slowly, if you rush it, it hurt (for him) and as always lots of lube helps.
You may want to make sure your strap on is comfortable as some don't always sit right and pressure in the wrong place isn't nice for yourself and its not pleasurable either. Hope that helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd be honest you want a loving man
One who'd open his legs 'When he likes you?
Subtly
Maybe Dry Spoon him
Any direction or Dry bone or Lust him
&Then drop into him/his mode to see
Remember it's sharing and his love you are exploiting
The extras are there after to enjoy the lust & larger experience
I like it & I think she/those females did too
If you can become regular partner there's extra place emotions and life practice
Do you want a hot lover
I've had multiple partners do this to great success some you have seen, some 2-3 at the same time.
Hot lad spit roast airball then smash each others not out the question or take him single
Both sides
My love |
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I'd be honest you want a loving man
One who'd open his legs 'When he likes you?
Subtly
Maybe Dry Spoon him
Any direction or Dry bone or Lust him
&Then drop into him/his mode to see
Remember it's sharing and his love you are exploiting
The extras are there after to enjoy the lust & larger experience
I like it & I think she/those females did too
If you can become regular partner there's extra place emotions and life practice
Do you want a hot lover
I've had multiple partners do this to great success some you have seen, some 2-3 at the same time.
Hot lad spit roast airball then smash each others not out the question or take him single
Both sides
My love "
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I'd be honest you want a loving man
One who'd open his legs 'When he likes you?
Subtly
Maybe Dry Spoon him
Any direction or Dry bone or Lust him
&Then drop into him/his mode to see
Remember it's sharing and his love you are exploiting
The extras are there after to enjoy the lust & larger experience
I like it & I think she/those females did too
If you can become regular partner there's extra place emotions and life practice
Do you want a hot lover
I've had multiple partners do this to great success some you have seen, some 2-3 at the same time.
Hot lad spit roast airball then smash each others not out the question or take him single
Both sides
My love "
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I have been Pegging my man since early 20’s so hopefully can give some advice.
Everyone will tell you to start small, However we found this to be BS, no I’m not telling you to go get 10 inches, however I remember when we first started with anal play we used bum beads and fingers and he actually found it more annoying or irritating than a turn on.
Around 6 inches is a great way to start, Something that isn’t too skinny however not incredibly girthy that will hurt. LUBE is absolutely key, take your time as the more relaxed he is the further it will go.
Over time we have built up to 10 / 12” (more for girth) and stretching and taken to many different ways. Feel free to message and happy to answer any questions.
Every experience is different and I’m rambling ha good luck x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Me and my fb have have experimented with all different size strap on's and I have found that a six inch is the best and most enjoyable for me. Use a good decent lube, use one then two fingers first then peg him by pushing in slowly, remember you cant feel whats going on so its easy to get carried away. Let him tell you what pace you need to go, dont rush it..get him to prep by douching before hand, a clean bum is much more enjoyable. |
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