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Arrange a first meet with a couple
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've been chatting with the M of a couple who are looking for another M to join them.
Everything so far appears to be nice and cordial and we appear to get on.
I suggested a first meeting, but somehow its turned into a meal in a local restaurant and it seems I paying.
I don't have a problem with paying but the voice at the back of my head says this doesn't sound right.
what do you think? |
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By *Xtriple7Couple
over a year ago
N Peterborough. |
Sounds bollocks to me. If we want a guy for a 3 some we look for location, looks and attitude. If we're happy with all them then we'd meet for a drink.
We all know what we're here for so dinner just seems ott in our opinion. |
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Someone else we met said this happens more than you’d realise, couples meeting single guys for a social and getting them to pay for all drinks/meals then not meeting or playing after.
Sounds a bit too much like fraud for me that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do some checks to make sure they are actually a couple and not a single guy trying to get wank fodder."
They (he) is posting and the profile has photos which are updated/added too from time to time, but yes I take your point. It just seems odd to me and not sure I will go through with it although that risks being labeled a time waster! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A meal seems a tad much for a chat to see if you're all compatible. Especially if they are expecting you to pay. Either split the bill or suggest a coffee/pint. Far less formal too.
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"Do some checks to make sure they are actually a couple and not a single guy trying to get wank fodder.
They (he) is posting and the profile has photos which are updated/added too from time to time, but yes I take your point. It just seems odd to me and not sure I will go through with it although that risks being labeled a time waster!"
Do they have verifications (not cam, they seem to be fishy more often than not).
Do they have pictures of them together ?
Will they do a video chat ?
There's a lot of "couples" on here who are just a guy on the windup. |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
You shouldn't be expected to pay for a meal for all of them.I think that is very presumptuous of them.
Like others said say you will meet for a coffee or a drink a meal with people you don't know can be awkward not to mention very expensive.
And if you decide not to meet that is your perogative .Everyone on here has the right to decide not to meet someone especially if they spot red flags that are making them wary. It does not make you a time waster if you tell them that you no longer want to meet. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
Have you not spoken to the lady too op?
It sounds off to Me and your gut is telling you it is too .
I'd ask to speak to the lady first ,if there's excuses as to why she can't, I'd leave it .
It could be genuine ,but it's a bit cheeky expecting you to pay for a meal and could be akward. |
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last meet i had like that cost me 100 quid for a hotel as i drove 192 miles to get to the said place , hotel for my use only as was going to drink so that bits fine.
i met the couple who skanked me for £66 quids worth of drinks and didnt even offer to buy me one, they slipped after about an hour too, and lied to me next day so i blocked them immediately in every way shape and form.
It was only a social meet.
i'd been chatting 2 years as well so wasnt a blind date, they were just users so my advice op would be to decline.  |
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Ive met quite a few couples never heard b4 all this bollocks. last 1 met them in a pub stood with them at bar had cpl drinks and quick finger at bar then back to theirs no bloody hotel or meals in restaurants. Either that or straight to theirs sounds like they are fleecing you mate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds a bit iffy although hard to swallow sometimes just walk away from this one better to be safe than sorry
You've proven you can communicate well with people and the right couple will come along
What ever you do don't compromise hold out for what is right and good for you |
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"2 years?????  "
yes, texting , whatsapping, on here , etc.
i'm not bothered , was just commenting how you can be skanked lol,
i lent another bird a hundred quid i'd never met, desperately needed her car fixed or couldnt get to work or shops etc, i still chat to her , no mention of the hundred quid though lol..  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the posts. You've all confirmed what I was thinking. I won't waste my time even responding, simply blocked and reported as a possible scam. cheers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’d up the ante and suggest a 7-course taster menu at a Michelin starred restaurant. Pay for your third and then see their reaction…"
obviously. who doesn’t suggest that to smoke out the timewasters  |
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"Do some checks to make sure they are actually a couple and not a single guy trying to get wank fodder.
They (he) is posting and the profile has photos which are updated/added too from time to time, but yes I take your point. It just seems odd to me and not sure I will go through with it although that risks being labeled a time waster!"
No you’re not a time waster you can change your mind at any point
Calling people time wasters is putting pressure on people to have sex when they have changed their minds
You can change your mind after talking to them xx |
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When we meet single guys for actual meet everything is 50/50 , anyone who sounds cagey will have social meet for a chat and a pint before they meet wife , that helps ruling out time wasters , works both ways for invites from couples too , but far the best way to arrange meets is club socials and parties |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've been chatting with the M of a couple who are looking for another M to join them.
Everything so far appears to be nice and cordial and we appear to get on.
I suggested a first meeting, but somehow its turned into a meal in a local restaurant and it seems I paying.
I don't have a problem with paying but the voice at the back of my head says this doesn't sound right.
what do you think?"
Well if your paying take the greedy cunts to McDonald's... well that's if they turn up . |
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