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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " What's your first message to people? Your photos are very cock heavy. One photo will show the goods not really a need for so many. Maybe an upper body pic. You can fluff your bio up too. Your likes, what you're looking for. Show your personality. You need to make yourself stand out. | |||
"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? What's your first message to people? Your photos are very cock heavy. One photo will show the goods not really a need for so many. Maybe an upper body pic. You can fluff your bio up too. Your likes, what you're looking for. Show your personality. You need to make yourself stand out. " Totally agree  | |||
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"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. " Men with big baguettes ? | |||
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"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. Men with big baguettes ?" Huge, stuffed ones. | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. Men with big baguettes ?" We all luff a loaf. | |||
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"Best advice is read the profile. And offer whqt they are looking for, if it fits your interests too. If you read ours it's quite easy. Message us asking to watch us, your get blocked. Don't be tempted, already had 2 this week. Wastes our time reading it then blocking. Or messages like, wanna chat see how we get on? Again, we're only looking when meets qre up. Why chat forever, going off the boil and dairy not lining up. " I like to get to know people before I have sex with them but at the same time if I know it’s going well then I like to get a date in the diary early on so the conversation has a point. | |||
"Its every single man on here There are way more men that use the site than women so unfortunately there aren't enough women to go around " | |||
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"For every single tu on here to get just one meet a year every lady would need to meet 2/3 times a week which lets face it is never going to happen So you need to really up your profile game, to stand out, think about changing your profile pic, doesn't have to be a face pic but at the moment it just looks like a camera flash & I like a dick pic but 10.. 2s plenty, believe it or not lots of women and couples don't want to see a dickpic so your profile would be an instant block to them especially with so many " The stats are probably worse then that to be honest. That assumes that no one is going to meet the same guy. | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " The very fact you posted a look at poor me thread will cause some to steer clear. Accept you are on a recreational sex site where there are tens of thousands of guys in the mix with you! It’s a bit of fun........... | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. You need to understand what generally attracts women instead." I love to get a message from a fella with a sense of humour. Too many men on here with the serious, Mr Grey mentality. I'm on FAB to have fun and enjoy meeting others. I do feel for chaps on here though. The MF ratio is incredibly high xx | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. Men with big baguettes ? Huge, stuffed ones. " Stuffed with pure Beef lol | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " And to be fair, this is a site for swinging couples. Single people are on the periphery - single guys especially x | |||
"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " Probably most men on here | |||
"What's your first message to people? Your photos are very cock heavy. One photo will show the goods not really a need for so many. Maybe an upper body pic. You can fluff your bio up too. Your likes, what you're looking for. Show your personality. You need to make yourself stand out. " This
Not only do you need to stand out with both your bio, photos and first message, but - as far as couples are concerned- those things should also demonstrate you will respect not only the lady of the couple but also the guy. Because if he isn’t respected or comfortable about who you are, you’ve got no chance. (BTW not saying you’re being disrespectful anywhere, it’s just your profile needs to inspire confidence in you  )
Post an example of your opening message and you’ll get some great feedback | |||
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"It really comes down to patience, resilience and conversation " This, plus add in a little "don't take it too seriously" | |||
" is it just me? " Just you mate. The other thousands of people posting the same thing are all lying. | |||
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"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. You need to understand what generally attracts women instead." This | |||
"Women will tell you you've got too many pics of your cock but the only picture they have are of their tits and beaver. " An over generalisation  | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. You need to understand what generally attracts women instead. This "What generally attracts women? I would be interested to know! | |||
"If you're a man then like all things in life. Unless you're in the top 1% you get dunked on and you have to struggle to get anything you want. All in all, were bottom of the barrel so get used to it and claw out your own path." But other than that everything is ok? | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " My wife and i would be interested but you are straight. | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " Mate, we outnumber girls here something like 100 to 1... I have three tips that work for me, I hope they can help. 1. Try clubs, be friendly and social. Works way better. Someone mentioned here and it happened to me too, that I met with a couple in a club, had a great night together and when I arrived home I noticed that I messaged them months before - no answer. Then we met in person and they were very much interested! 2. Try regular dating apps with an honest approach if you are only looking for something casual. Don't say in your profile that you are only for a quick shag, rather write something like "I'll move out of the UK in a couple of months, so don't look for anything long term, but truly believe in the beauty of flirting if it based on respect and honesty". For me it works very well both on Tinder and Happn, brings me way more success than this site. 3. If you still want to try your luck here, target those profiles that don't have any photos. You will face way less competition and from the details (age, body type) you still can have an idea about the person you are talking to. Most of the time when a girl doesn't show a photo on her page is not coz she is ugly, but because she is really worried about her privacy. Okay, you will bump into some catfishes too, but here comes that what sort of photos do you show on your profile? You will need to send a face pic with your messages otherwise you have no chance. And your profile is full of cock pics. If you are comfortable showing face and cock picks together to random strangers (who can be even your colleagues, IRL friends or catfishes who will download them and use them elsewhere) then it's fine. If not, I think cock pictures don't help that much to be worth showing. Personally, I only show/send photos that I could share on my instagram too, soo even if I send them to a catfish/someone I know, what can go wrong? They have my face photo showing me in a bar, or they have a photo of me in boxer, like if I was on the beach. What wrong can even a catfish do with it? They can fuck off...  Yes, I'm here, as I'm single and I like girls, like sex, nothing is a secret about it, even in my real life. But I'd not feel comfortable making full nudes of myself (possibly) circulating on the web. | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " Not just you. You have to realise your chances of a meet are a million to one. I've been on fab nearly 14 years and only had 1 meet. The odds are against you. There is a good chance of loads of chats and promising situations, like I have had, but every single one stabs you in the back or let's you down, so accept you may never get a meet, though there's always that slim chance that keeps you on here. | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. You need to understand what generally attracts women instead. I love to get a message from a fella with a sense of humour. Too many men on here with the serious, Mr Grey mentality. I'm on FAB to have fun and enjoy meeting others. I do feel for chaps on here though. The MF ratio is incredibly high xx " Totally agree with this comment, a sense of humour goes a long way. Someone that makes me laugh is instantly more attractive | |||
"Women will tell you you've got too many pics of your cock but the only picture they have are of their tits and beaver. " | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " So coming from another single guy here your profile and pics basically tells me you have a cock and want to do more things maybe being a little more specific about what your looking for and what you have already done/like and have a pic without your cock in it | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? The very fact you posted a look at poor me thread will cause some to steer clear. Accept you are on a recreational sex site where there are tens of thousands of guys in the mix with you! It’s a bit of fun..........." Probably less fun if you're not getting to take part in any of the fun which I suspect is the reason behind OPs post | |||
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"Another problem we have found when attempting to meet single men they talk the talk but then when it comes to actually meeting they back out without any explanation. Its not in every case but happends alot." This is why we only meet at Chameleons Darlaston now, | |||
"Women will tell you you've got too many pics of your cock but the only picture they have are of their tits and beaver. " Then turn down offers fron those women. | |||
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"OP you’ve been given some really helpful advice on your thread. It’s a shame you haven’t bothered to acknowledge any of it "Not like the OP hasn't had time, it was 3 weeks ago he made his original post. You get out what you put in | |||
"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? The very fact you posted a look at poor me thread will cause some to steer clear. Accept you are on a recreational sex site where there are tens of thousands of guys in the mix with you! It’s a bit of fun........... Probably less fun if you're not getting to take part in any of the fun which I suspect is the reason behind OPs post " You shouldn't expect anything joining any site from tinder to fab. Manage your expectations. The site doesn't owe you a shag for joining. | |||
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"You're definitely not the only one. We recently opened up our filters, most of the messages we receive are shockingly poor, from profiles that are poor. One message and profile piqued our interest out of 100+, so 99+ won't get a reply and are very unlikely to get a reply off others." Poor in what way?Crudity or inane? | |||
"I bet you get loafs of attention from men. You need to understand what generally attracts women instead. This
What generally attracts women?
I would be interested to know!"An excellent question | |||
"You're definitely not the only one. We recently opened up our filters, most of the messages we receive are shockingly poor, from profiles that are poor. One message and profile piqued our interest out of 100+, so 99+ won't get a reply and are very unlikely to get a reply off others. Poor in what way?Crudity or inane?" Given that they posted that message over a year ago, it's probably safe to assume that they won't remember specifics
But from our experience, the messages are inane and unengaging far more often than not. | |||
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"same for me just get unwanted attention from men think the women can see the red flags lol" You can block men from messaging you if it annoys you? I don’t mind guys messaging me; it proves my mailbox hasn’t frozen….. | |||
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" The absolute best advice is always go to clubs - the singles guys that I know are successful on here are all guys who are regulars or semi regulars at clubs. That doesn't mean you're always going to get laid at a club, but your chances are much higher than sending massive messages on fab, and you can pick and choose an event that may suit you. " Yep, good advice here. My success rate on here is somewhere round about 0.0%. My success rate at clubs isn't 100%, or anywhere near, but it's a lot higher than zero. Maybe it doesn't help on here or in clubs that I'm pretty picky about who I play with, which probably lowers my chances. Probably 40-50% of my club visits result in some kind of play, though it seems to have been much less recently. Other nights are 'successful' in terms of chatting, playing pool, enjoying the jaccuzzi, and such like. But you do need to have a strong 'expect nothing' mindset and be prepared to go with the flow. I've had some (thankfully not many) horrendous nights where I've ended up sat by myself all night, not been able to start a decent conversation, gotten nowhere... It could easily become quite depressing if you let it. But those nights are a minority, and generally being there, as a real person, with real personality, is the best way to get anywhere. On here, you're just another profile. It might be a nice one, but it's just a profile. | |||
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"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " No. Widen your horizons. The men who like men on here have a great time. Once you work out how to avoid the wasters, of course. | |||
"I’m on here as a genuine single man, but I’m finding it very difficult to get replies from people, does anyone else have this same problem or is it just me? " You’ve blocked all the good stuff!  | |||
