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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So I’m noticing a few things that are dealbreakers for a lot of people. One thing is my race. But whatever, I like my skin color. Another is my face as I look too innocent or something/I’m not peoples type.
But another one is that I’m 5’6 and a half. I wanted to ask women if you would meet with someone my height or if it’s a total dealbreaker for you?
Not looking for criticism/to be roasted, just a genuine question. Thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference "
That’s understandable. How tall are you compared to that out of curiosity ? Like, are you just under 5’10 and want guys taller than you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me, your height would be a deal breaker, sorry. As I am 5'9 myself, and prefer men to be at least as tall as I am. "
That makes total sense  thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference
Exactly the same for me. At your height OP, I'd feel like I was breaking the law."
I can’t exactly change it….. owch |
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference
Exactly the same for me. At your height OP, I'd feel like I was breaking the law.
I can’t exactly change it….. owch"
I wasn't asking you to! I was answering your post. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference
Exactly the same for me. At your height OP, I'd feel like I was breaking the law.
I can’t exactly change it….. owch
I wasn't asking you to! I was answering your post."
I specifically asked for no criticism aha. Telling me you’d feel like you were breaking the law just for being me isn’t what I wanted out of this post! |
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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago
Somewhere in Co. Down |
Yes height comes into it .I prefer men who are over 5'9" .Mainly because the few I met who said they were shorter than that were a lot shorter than what they had on their profile. |
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference
Exactly the same for me. At your height OP, I'd feel like I was breaking the law.
I can’t exactly change it….. owch
I wasn't asking you to! I was answering your post.
I specifically asked for no criticism aha. Telling me you’d feel like you were breaking the law just for being me isn’t what I wanted out of this post!"
Don’t sweat it bro. Height matters to a lot of women, but not all, and those that say they need a 6ft man or whatever soon change their tune when a good one comes along under 6ft
And others display their red flags for all to see on their responses. So don’t pay any attention to unwanted critique. Those that mind don’t matter, those that matter won’t mind |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Height is not a deal breaker for me. I don't even tend to look at the height on here.
Most of my ex boyfriends have been under 5'8". I like towering over them in heels, makes me feel Amazonian. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Height is not a deal breaker for me. I don't even tend to look at the height on here.
Most of my ex boyfriends have been under 5'8". I like towering over them in heels, makes me feel Amazonian. "
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I think it might well depend on how you carry yourself, if you're super confident 5ft 6, that can be very attractive.
I'm only 5ft 3, so anyone would need to be a little bit taller than me.
Most (not all) women, want to feel protected, feminine, smaller than their guy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think it might well depend on how you carry yourself, if you're super confident 5ft 6, that can be very attractive.
I'm only 5ft 3, so anyone would need to be a little bit taller than me.
Most (not all) women, want to feel protected, feminine, smaller than their guy. "
Thanks for the response! Sadly I do get the “feminine” comment quite a lot and get told that I look innocent/submissive/“not like you’ll rail me”! I really don’t know how to change that. |
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"No 5ft 10and over for me. I like tall men. Just my preference
Exactly the same for me. At your height OP, I'd feel like I was breaking the law.
I can’t exactly change it….. owch
I wasn't asking you to! I was answering your post.
I specifically asked for no criticism aha. Telling me you’d feel like you were breaking the law just for being me isn’t what I wanted out of this post!"
That's not a criticism of you though, that's an observation of how I feel about men much sorter than me. |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
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"I think it might well depend on how you carry yourself, if you're super confident 5ft 6, that can be very attractive.
I'm only 5ft 3, so anyone would need to be a little bit taller than me.
Most (not all) women, want to feel protected, feminine, smaller than their guy.
Thanks for the response! Sadly I do get the “feminine” comment quite a lot and get told that I look innocent/submissive/“not like you’ll rail me”! I really don’t know how to change that. "
Mate, don't try to "change" it. Whatever you are - OWN it!
At 5'6 you are still taller than me! Despite that, I've not had a terrible time here. And to be frank, I have more success out there in real life where people can make a decision after meeting me rather than make a judgement on me in a cold 2 dimensional profile.
So don't try to appeal to everyone, just to those to whom you ARE appealing. And you can see from some of the responses here, there ARE people who like what you've got. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So I’m noticing a few things that are dealbreakers for a lot of people. One thing is my race. But whatever, I like my skin color. Another is my face as I look too innocent or something/I’m not peoples type.
But another one is that I’m 5’6 and a half. I wanted to ask women if you would meet with someone my height or if it’s a total dealbreaker for you?
Not looking for criticism/to be roasted, just a genuine question. Thank you!"
Yes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your on about your height 5ft 6 restricting you well I get classed as I'm to tall. I've got mine on here as 6ft 7 as I think it's the max I can put but I'm alot taller than that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone on here has some characteristic that they consider a deal breaker.
So you're best off messaging profiles who don't have an issue with height.
I prefer a tall man because I'm tall myself and it is a deal breaker for me, I feel uncomfortable sleeping with men my height or shorter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Your on about your height 5ft 6 restricting you well I get classed as I'm to tall. I've got mine on here as 6ft 7 as I think it's the max I can put but I'm alot taller than that."
I met a guy on here who was 6foot 6/7 and it never ever occurred to me how awkward certain positions would be because of the height difference hahaha
Only position we could do comfortably was missionary cause we just couldn't work out the logistics for doggy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Myself and my wife don't struggle there even though there's nearly 2 ft difference. "
1’5” difference according to your profile which is closer to 1 ft than 2 ft. |
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"Myself and my wife don't struggle there even though there's nearly 2 ft difference.
1’5” difference according to your profile which is closer to 1 ft than 2 ft. "
The height doesn’t go any higher than 6,ft 7 so I would say he’s probably a lot taller than that .. |
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"Your on about your height 5ft 6 restricting you well I get classed as I'm to tall. I've got mine on here as 6ft 7 as I think it's the max I can put but I'm alot taller than that.
I met a guy on here who was 6foot 6/7 and it never ever occurred to me how awkward certain positions would be because of the height difference hahaha
Only position we could do comfortably was missionary cause we just couldn't work out the logistics for doggy "
I am 6' 6/7 and I do agree doggy is slightly awkward due to my longer legs but only if she is low down. If she is raised up higher then it is perfect. Never had any issues with any positions because of my height. |
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I’m 6ft tall and a really big, broad girl. Height is important to me because I don’t enjoy feeling enormous in comparison to my partner. It’s really down to my own insecurity and hang ups.
Like you, I can’t do anything about my size and so I feel for you. I’m too big for a lot of men to find attractive.
I will say though that there are LOADS of tiny ladies on the scene (I know because I’ve towered over loads of them in clubs) so I’m sure there’ll be plenty of ladies who’ll think you’re great. Don’t let it get to you too much. Good luck op. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m 6ft tall and a really big, broad girl. Height is important to me because I don’t enjoy feeling enormous in comparison to my partner. It’s really down to my own insecurity and hang ups.
Like you, I can’t do anything about my size and so I feel for you. I’m too big for a lot of men to find attractive.
I will say though that there are LOADS of tiny ladies on the scene (I know because I’ve towered over loads of them in clubs) so I’m sure there’ll be plenty of ladies who’ll think you’re great. Don’t let it get to you too much. Good luck op. "
Well said!!! This is exactly how i feel. Doesn't stop people giving you grief about it though. Very strange.  |
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"I’m 6ft tall and a really big, broad girl. Height is important to me because I don’t enjoy feeling enormous in comparison to my partner. It’s really down to my own insecurity and hang ups.
Like you, I can’t do anything about my size and so I feel for you. I’m too big for a lot of men to find attractive.
I will say though that there are LOADS of tiny ladies on the scene (I know because I’ve towered over loads of them in clubs) so I’m sure there’ll be plenty of ladies who’ll think you’re great. Don’t let it get to you too much. Good luck op. "
Brilliantly put!
In short, you can't change it so embrace it and own it! Don't let it hang you up. It's impossible for everyone to be attracted to everyone, there is plenty of people around who would be very happy with your height. And plenty who wouldn't, but then that can be said for cock size, muscles, hair, facial hair, tattoos.....
Just be you, be confident,go to socials/clubs if you can/want to and let your personality and genuine self shine! |
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"I’m 6ft tall and a really big, broad girl. Height is important to me because I don’t enjoy feeling enormous in comparison to my partner. It’s really down to my own insecurity and hang ups.
Like you, I can’t do anything about my size and so I feel for you. I’m too big for a lot of men to find attractive.
I will say though that there are LOADS of tiny ladies on the scene (I know because I’ve towered over loads of them in clubs) so I’m sure there’ll be plenty of ladies who’ll think you’re great. Don’t let it get to you too much. Good luck op.
Well said!!! This is exactly how i feel. Doesn't stop people giving you grief about it though. Very strange. "
People can be really unkind, can’t they?  |
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It used to be with the Mrs…. Then she encountered me and completely changed her mind.
We both get the preferences of taller = stronger, masculine, safe etc. Sometimes though that’s not always the case. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks for all the kind and helpful comments everyone, really appreciate it. Guess the stoic approach works best in this situation, just try to better the things about me that I can and don’t worry about the things I can’t. |
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By *just.meMan
over a year ago
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"So I’m noticing a few things that are dealbreakers for a lot of people. One thing is my race. But whatever, I like my skin color. Another is my face as I look too innocent or something/I’m not peoples type.
But another one is that I’m 5’6 and a half. I wanted to ask women if you would meet with someone my height or if it’s a total dealbreaker for you?
Not looking for criticism/to be roasted, just a genuine question. Thank you!"
same for me, im only shitty 5ft 2 ½ |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
"I’m 5’6 and I question it too but I realised that I’m just average looking and being a man here is hyper competitive."
Your profile shows 5’ 9”. Trying not to criticise but accuracy is important.
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
"I’m 5’6 and I question it too but I realised that I’m just average looking and being a man here is hyper competitive.
Your profile shows 5’ 9”. Trying not to criticise but accuracy is important.
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Yes I noticed thar too? As said height shouldn't matter to those that matter. But I'd be surprised to meet you seeing you were 2-3 inches shorter than your profile says! |
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"Your on about your height 5ft 6 restricting you well I get classed as I'm to tall. I've got mine on here as 6ft 7 as I think it's the max I can put but I'm alot taller than that.
I met a guy on here who was 6foot 6/7 and it never ever occurred to me how awkward certain positions would be because of the height difference hahaha
Only position we could do comfortably was missionary cause we just couldn't work out the logistics for doggy "
My ex was 5’ 2” and we managed doggy just fine! |
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I'm 6'2" and I've been that height ever since I joined in 2010.
So it's not something I've had an issue with.
Lots of people say it's personality first but you can't convey that easily in a message so it's down to attraction.
It's why I have full face pictures but I can't change my age either I will always be 67 until I am 68.
I find that's the number 1 deal breaker now. |
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I do think it’s personal preference. I have Achondroplasia (a type of dwarfism) and whilst I know that I won’t be everyone’s target audience, it doesn’t mean that I’m not a sexy person or have great qualities to give. We’ve all won the lottery, mine was just in other areas. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m 5’6 and I question it too but I realised that I’m just average looking and being a man here is hyper competitive.
Your profile shows 5’ 9”. Trying not to criticise but accuracy is important.
Yes I noticed thar too? As said height shouldn't matter to those that matter. But I'd be surprised to meet you seeing you were 2-3 inches shorter than your profile says!"
I never noticed this
I wouldn't be happy if I met someone I thought was my height and they turned out to be alot shorter |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"I'm 5ft 10in tall and for me it's a deal breaker. I had arranged to meet a guy in a club who was supposedly 5ft 11. I almost didn't recognise him as he was actually about 5ft 6in x "
But did he perform well.... |
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"I'm 5ft 10in tall and for me it's a deal breaker. I had arranged to meet a guy in a club who was supposedly 5ft 11. I almost didn't recognise him as he was actually about 5ft 6in x
But did he perform well...."
I didn't find out  |
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Some care, some don't. I've played with a few ladies around the 5'10 or above, so obviously they didn't mind, but lying over my lap getting a spanking they're not so tall maybe it depends what they are interested in, some obviously do care.
Can't really argue with a lady's preference, it is what it is, I've always found it more productive to go find ones who want you, rather than trying to persuade those who don't. |
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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago
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It is a dealbreaker for me.
One time I met this lass and it turns out that she was secretly an intergalactic entity who when naked wasn't human but rather a being that was several thousands of light years tall!
That was a tiring session that I don't wish to replicate.
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For practically all women, yes, height as in you the man being shorter than them. Is a massive deal breaker. There will be many women here that say otherwise but guys we know it's true and women, you know it's true.
Look at many women's dating profiles for one that say shorter than me, not interested, under 6ft then you're none existent. |
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For me, for the most part, we do not care. It is very rare for an adult women anywhere in the world to be taller than an adult man so it's practically a none issue for men a woman's height. Though in the very rare instances, yes a woman being taller than a man is deal breaker but again I stress it's very unlikely for a woman to be taller than a man.
You go to a 5 foot woman and ask her if she wants a man shorter than her. Most if not all with say no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"For me, for the most part, we do not care. It is very rare for an adult women anywhere in the world to be taller than an adult man so it's practically a none issue for men a woman's height. Though in the very rare instances, yes a woman being taller than a man is deal breaker but again I stress it's very unlikely for a woman to be taller than a man.
You go to a 5 foot woman and ask her if she wants a man shorter than her. Most if not all with say no"
It's not rare for a woman to be taller than a man at all |
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I'm 6ft 2 in heels, which I often wear in the bedroom. I don't care how tall you are as long as you have a magic tounge, nimble fingers and a good sized cock and can make me cum multiple times.
One of my best meets was with a guy who was 5ft 5. He totally owned me, his confidence was off the charts. Most of my meets have been mediocre to be honest, but mr 5ft 5 was legendary.
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By *ogNMuseCouple
over a year ago
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"For me, for the most part, we do not care. It is very rare for an adult women anywhere in the world to be taller than an adult man so it's practically a none issue for men a woman's height. Though in the very rare instances, yes a woman being taller than a man is deal breaker but again I stress it's very unlikely for a woman to be taller than a man.
You go to a 5 foot woman and ask her if she wants a man shorter than her. Most if not all with say no"
Muse and most of our female friends are taller than me - funnily the people who mention my height the most are tall blokes  |
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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago
London |
"I'm 6ft 2 in heels, which I often wear in the bedroom. I don't care how tall you are as long as you have a magic tounge, nimble fingers and a good sized cock and can make me cum multiple times.
One of my best meets was with a guy who was 5ft 5. He totally owned me, his confidence was off the charts. Most of my meets have been mediocre to be honest, but mr 5ft 5 was legendary.
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Well I think I can tick at least one of those things. Now it's up to you to guess which one. Haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So I’m noticing a few things that are dealbreakers for a lot of people. One thing is my race. But whatever, I like my skin color. Another is my face as I look too innocent or something/I’m not peoples type.
But another one is that I’m 5’6 and a half. I wanted to ask women if you would meet with someone my height or if it’s a total dealbreaker for you?
Not looking for criticism/to be roasted, just a genuine question. Thank you!"
Yes I'd meet someone your height.
6ft is my maximum. Not into tall men. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve met ladies that have said- I wouldn’t have dreamed of dating someone like you .
Height, age, ethnicity, body shape, facial hair, religion, but I’m surprised that I am .
The moral of the story - come ladeez come try some sammy haha |
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"I feel like some people's replies in here reflect their insecurity rather than reality...
In what way do you mean? "
Was more aimed at men who are insecure about their height - Just present your best self.
Being really insecure about your height can be unattractive, and that insecurity may turn women off you, not your height. |
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