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Why do some ladies dislike verification?
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I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? |
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"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? "
Fab is quite predatory
Some women are threatened by other women and get too protective over their meets. There is a lot of jealousy on here unfortunately
I know some women on here that literally ban their meets from meeting certain other women
Could be that maybe ? |
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It’s not just a female thing in my experience.
I’ve known guys that won’t want a veri, they have a few as proof of trust etc but few veris.
I’ve been turned down by a few people on FGs as too many but if you read them, there are a few friends on there several times. It halves it.
If someone goes to a party, club etc & plays with 5-10 people but only get veris from 2-3, is that untruthful? Not in my mind. It’s life on fab & swinging. I find it’s a balance of the type of verification, the Nos & how that person or couple treats you. Other people may have other criteria too.  |
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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago
East London |
Maybe because they don't want their private life splashed over a website for all to see.
I get the feeling that some men are here just for the verifications.
Someone was a bit miffed that I didn't verify him, even though he already had quite a few.
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"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? "
Don't want to appear promiscuous on a swinging site? Dozens over 2 weeks maybe, dozens over a few years wouldn't be. That's strange she's never left you a verification considering so many like to see genuine veris. Yet if she doesn't have verifications her profile may not look genuine. Very strange. |
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"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else?
Fab is quite predatory
Some women are threatened by other women and get too protective over their meets. There is a lot of jealousy on here unfortunately
I know some women on here that literally ban their meets from meeting certain other women
Could be that maybe ? "
I'd say this... I've had people tell me they have been told someone wouldn't meet them as I'd verified them lol |
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over a year ago
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Veris don't bother me. I've met guys with none and guys with plenty.
The indepth detailed veris make me cringe as do guys asking me to verify them when they have plenty and multiple veris from the same person. I don't see the point.
Thankfully the people who have left mine are well aware of this and you can rarely tell if it was a social or play meet.
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"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else?
Fab is quite predatory
Some women are threatened by other women and get too protective over their meets. There is a lot of jealousy on here unfortunately
I know some women on here that literally ban their meets from meeting certain other women
Could be that maybe ? I'd say this... I've had people tell me they have been told someone wouldn't meet them as I'd verified them lol "
People make out it’s all fine and good meeting whoever you please in the bane of swinging but definitely a lot with underlying issues of people meeting others in case they are better / hotter / whatever
Of course most will never admit to having the green eyed monster lol |
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"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? "
Maybe she doesn't want the world to know who she is going with x |
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It's not just ladies, I dont want them either. I also have a couples profile with my girlfriend that is the same. We like the degree of privacy that affords. Both profiles only have very early veri's. There have been some people who grumble but overall it makeovers little difference to our fab lives... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"A former fwb has hidden the veris I left for him…
So I just blocked him now so they will disappear and save him the trouble. Lol.  "
You blocked him because he didn't show the veris you left him?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Veris don't bother me. I've met guys with none and guys with plenty.
The indepth detailed veris make me cringe as do guys asking me to verify them when they have plenty and multiple veris from the same person. I don't see the point.
Thankfully the people who have left mine are well aware of this and you can rarely tell if it was a social or play meet.
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This is put very eloquently  |
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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago
Redhill |
"A former fwb has hidden the veris I left for him…
So I just blocked him now so they will disappear and save him the trouble. Lol.
You blocked him because he didn't show the veris you left him? "
He’d shown them for years. And no, that was not the main reason. The main reason is none of your business.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A former fwb has hidden the veris I left for him…
So I just blocked him now so they will disappear and save him the trouble. Lol.
You blocked him because he didn't show the veris you left him?
He’d shown them for years. And no, that was not the main reason. The main reason is none of your business. "
I didn't ask. But with the information you volunteered you sound incredibly petty. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t do Veris unless asked to, personally i think it’s nice if a man has a couple to show he’s genuine but I think too many makes you think uhoh, but each to their own they are there for a good reason but let’s be honest who’s going to display anything negative anyways |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else |
"I don’t do Veris unless asked to, personally i think it’s nice if a man has a couple to show he’s genuine but I think too many makes you think uhoh, but each to their own they are there for a good reason but let’s be honest who’s going to display anything negative anyways "
The slight difficulty with "too many" is that it's impossible to tell whether the number was achieved over 366 days or 25 years - both will show as "over a year" on the profile. |
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By *l1pp3ryCouple
over a year ago
Bradford |
I don't know if this applies to other people but I know we have been subjected to people playing games with us by looking in a person's veris then clicking through to us and making contact with us, not because they want to meet us, because they want to play mind games. Ie we met someone who had recently broken ties with a fwb because, according to him, she had developed feelings. Luckily I knew who she was because people will write in their profiles I also have a couple profile, then in their couple profile it displays their single profile names so having looked at his 'couple' profile i had seen her name so when she made contact within a week of meeting him I knew she had an ulterior motive. It could put me off verifying (but hasn't yet) |
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
Longridge |
"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? "
Have you never asked a lady how many men, she's slept with. When you get the answer, you'll understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t do Veris unless asked to, personally i think it’s nice if a man has a couple to show he’s genuine but I think too many makes you think uhoh, but each to their own they are there for a good reason but let’s be honest who’s going to display anything negative anyways
The slight difficulty with "too many" is that it's impossible to tell whether the number was achieved over 366 days or 25 years - both will show as "over a year" on the profile."
Don’t the show month and year?  |
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I rarely show my veris or the summary,
I've had jealous males and females send some awful messages sent to me regarding people I've met.
I really hate this side of fab.
I do read single men's veris, just to get a gist of what they are like.
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If only there was a way of varifying people without having to give your username over.
So many profiles state they will not meet anyone without a recent varification but if people don't want to leave one how can you prove it, my last one was over 2 years ago now. |
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By *sa JaneWoman
over a year ago
Cumbria |
Sooo many veris are like.. met this lovely guy at Club xxxx..we chatted..love to see him again sometime- honestly does that even count!
I'm conscious of veris being used like a paper trail..for nosey arses..but sooo true in my opinion. Then you hear people meet leave a great veri..but are then heard to say they didn't have a good meet and wouldn't meet again- quite a minefield. They are good to get new Fabbers off the ground though probably their best purpose.
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By *rFunBoyMan
over a year ago
Longridge |
Another issue with them..
After meeting a female or couple and publishing them, I've later wondered why I not heard from some of then again.
Turns out others were contacting the verifier and told them what a 'bad' character I was.
I stopped publishing due to this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally find them a bit cringe.
This is not trip advisor.
FuckAdvisor sex reviews. "Give her a try, she fucks great!""
It’s so cringe. One man wrote “highly recommend” and another wrote “don’t miss out”.
Is that supposed to be flattering?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I personally find them a bit cringe.
This is not trip advisor.
FuckAdvisor sex reviews. "Give her a try, she fucks great!"
It’s so cringe. One man wrote “highly recommend” and another wrote “don’t miss out”.
Is that supposed to be flattering?!"
Some people use it as a sex review system. It reduces people to sex meat.
It's no wonder so many men send "fuck now?" as their first message. |
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I'm always happy to leave someone a veri for a social, if they were decent and it's going to help them on their Fab journey, even if I'm not interested.
The only comment I've ever had about one, was someone calling me a cougar as I'd met a 26yr old.
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else? "
Don't sweat it OP.
You've managed to get meets without them verifying you so you're doing fine.
So it's evidently not essential to be verified, despite what so many seem to say.
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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago
Northampton |
"I suppose I can understand why some people prefer not to have dozens of veris on their profile - don't want to appear promiscuous perhaps? My question is, why do some simply avoid leaving verifications altogether? I've met two ladies on here that just don't do it as a rule. One of them I've known for 5+ years now and met over a dozen times - she's never left a verification for anyone, says she's not on here to validate other people! Is it just the promiscuity worry again or something else?
Fab is quite predatory
Some women are threatened by other women and get too protective over their meets. There is a lot of jealousy on here unfortunately
I know some women on here that literally ban their meets from meeting certain other women
Could be that maybe ? I'd say this... I've had people tell me they have been told someone wouldn't meet them as I'd verified them lol "
Me too, a whole bunch of the local ladies did this... And guys that you might be talking to, get arsey if someone else pops up with a new verification from you, before they get one too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We get put off by people that seem to have been around the block many times, it's a personal thing, we would rather gel with more selective people. (not saying lots of vers means you are not selective, it's just a generalisation) |
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