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By *rrollout OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle-under-Lyme |
Are they an absolute no-no for most women on here, or is it not an issue so long as the guy is honest about the situation?
In my circumstances, the marriage has been dead for a long time and the only reason we remain married is because divorce is expensive and unsettling for children. Neither of us care who we sleep with though.
I don't judge though, and I personally would have no issues having NSA with a married women regardless of their circumstances. But do women on here think differently about this? |
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By *rrollout OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle-under-Lyme |
"Most will say no, but everyone is different so some will be fine with it"
If most say no, that explains why I don't get many responses. I've been honest about it in my profile though, because there's no point hiding it. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message . |
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By *rrollout OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle-under-Lyme |
"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message ."
Agreed, and I never do message anyone who outrightly states they won't meet married men.
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message .
Agreed, and I never do message anyone who outrightly states they won't meet married men.
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem."
Maybe the ones who don’t are just interested in NSA. Or maybe they don’t want to part of or contribute to someone else’s mess , or just tried it and realised married men are harder to get quality time with, don’t accommodate or let them down last minute when wifey says he can’t go out. There’s likely lots of reasons |
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"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem."
Just because it's a NSA site doesn't mean that women are comfortable doing that with a married man. Whilst you may be honest about your circumstances a lot of men aren't so women take that into consideration. It could also come down to the self worth of the woman and the personal boundaries they have. Plus as another poster said most women stick together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem.
Just because it's a NSA site doesn't mean that women are comfortable doing that with a married man. Whilst you may be honest about your circumstances a lot of men aren't so women take that into consideration. It could also come down to the self worth of the woman and the personal boundaries they have. Plus as another poster said most women stick together "
Proof is in the stats.. |
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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago
Wirral |
It can work both ways, a hubby may be seen as someone to be avoided by some but (if you are the type who values discretion) a married/attached guy may be a safer option as they are less likely to want to draw attention to themselves by being indiscreet. |
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This is one of the reasons (among many others) we never do private meets.
We would be horrified at the thought of an irate wife turning up on our doorstep shouting "have you been fucking my husband"
In clubs we don't ask and we never give out private information until we know someone very well.
We are into this for fun, not stress. |
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"This is one of the reasons (among many others) we never do private meets.
We would be horrified at the thought of an irate wife turning up on our doorstep shouting "have you been fucking my husband"
In clubs we don't ask and we never give out private information until we know someone very well.
We are into this for fun, not stress."
This just about sums up our attitude as well. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As a couple we would never knowingly meet a married man without full permission from his wife.
We wouldn’t meet any man who openly states he would meet a married woman regardless of her circumstances because that says he has no respect for marriage at all. |
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Yeah as you never know when the out of the blue happens.
I was at work but had a sneaky meet in a car park.
Wife went shopping, saw two people snogging away in a car, looked, as you do and boy was she surprised.
I nearly shit myself when she opened the door!
So never say never and it could just be by accident you do get found out.
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Its not just some women who wont meet married men but some of us men won't meet married women.
We are swingers and totally open and honest with each other...thats how the lifestyle works...anything else just invites grief into our lives which we don't need. |
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I don't understand why folks cheat
Both the cheater and the person knowingly who plays with a cheater are to blame
Your both messing around with other people's lives and the fall out from that can be tragic for other family members
Surely there enough single people out there to play with instead of stooping as low as cheating  |
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"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message .
Agreed, and I never do message anyone who outrightly states they won't meet married men.
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem.
Maybe the ones who don’t are just interested in NSA. Or maybe they don’t want to part of or contribute to someone else’s mess , or just tried it and realised married men are harder to get quality time with, don’t accommodate or let them down last minute when wifey says he can’t go out. There’s likely lots of reasons "
That's the thing it's a swingers site not an NSA site & that's why so many people are left disappointed in here
For many the social aspect of swinging is more important than the physical & many married people wouldn't want to be sitting in a pub with a couple or a single guy/girl, they are literally only here for sex
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message .
Agreed, and I never do message anyone who outrightly states they won't meet married men.
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem."
Well for me it's as I say above
I'd hate my partner to do the same to me ,so wouldn't want to risk the hurt it could cause another woman.
Even swingers have their own moral codes op. |
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"I wouldn't knowingly meet a married or attached man.
I'm half a couple and I'd hate it done to me .
Some women do meet married men ,always read a profile and if it says no attached men ,don't message .
Agreed, and I never do message anyone who outrightly states they won't meet married men.
It's strange though. I can understand why on dating sites no women would entertain married men because they seek an LTR. But on a site like Fab, I'm surprised why it's an issue as an NSA is the main goal and if it's discreet and to each others' mutual liking, there shouldn't be a problem."
That’s a big assumption to make that NSA is the main goal. There’s a lot between NSA and a full on relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Shared profiles is the way ahead, both having access eases any concerns a lady may have about playing with a married chap. Having said, some women will still not want to get involved. To each their own |
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If we were looking for single men on Fab, I would actively avoid attached men, as I wouldn't want to be knowingly complicit in his cheating.
In reality, we probably have met attached guys, as we only ever meet single men in clubs.
Nita |
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By *rrollout OP Man
over a year ago
Newcastle-under-Lyme |
"If we were looking for single men on Fab, I would actively avoid attached men, as I wouldn't want to be knowingly complicit in his cheating.
In reality, we probably have met attached guys, as we only ever meet single men in clubs.
Nita"
So is what you're saying is, ignorance is bliss? So long as women don't know they're having sex with a married man, the conscience is left intact?
Then if further down the line the man reveals he is in fact married, if the woman has been satisfied with the man enough she can choose whether or not to continue the sex on her own terms? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For situations like yours i dont see a issue as you are single in effect. those who are just here and cheating on wives sneaky most wont touch and rightly so as its shitty. |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"For situations like yours i dont see a issue as you are single in effect. those who are just here and cheating on wives sneaky most wont touch and rightly so as its shitty."
You’d be amazed how many loving husbands and family men are also, apparently “single in effect.” |
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