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Anyone else had a dip with age?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!
Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! |
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"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!
Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "
Could be something in your profile putting people off? People look for different things as they get older so what eve worked back then might not now.
Also online dating has become even more butal than it ever was in the past few years. |
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"Could it be that people weren't looking to meet for the two years of the pandemic ?"
I agree. I think it’s changed things in here. Too many men joined too which makes it even harder. Women get fed up to be honest with the idiots. |
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"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!
Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "
If you’re worrying about age at 26, wait until you get to 53 lol! 
I think covid has had more of an effect on people wanting to meet than many realise, but the doors are definitely opening more now. Just give it time fella  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The problem with " not my type " is its very vague. I was brought up to get to know someone as a person not for looks etc but thats why modern dateing doesnt last as no one is prepered to get to know someone if they are not really attractive. Sad and shallow world sadly. |
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It could just be one of those boom and bust cycles that you’re reading too much into.
We all have them, one month you’re flying and everyone’s interested, meets are amazing and the worlds all sunshine and sex.
Another month you’re no one’s type, meets are social and go nowhere and it’s all rain clouds and woah is me.
Ride the storm out, keep putting your best self out there and the moment will pass……..  |
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By *arc 7-6Man
over a year ago
Halesowen |
Trust me it gets harder as you get older. Most more mature women have gone through the change and aren't interested in sex of any kind (there are very few my age). Then you're trying to appeal to younger people who don't want an older guy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything"
Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags? |
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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago
Durham |
"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything
Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?"
Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!
Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened! "
Are you approaching people who are looking for single guys in your age group? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything
Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?
Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary. "
Ah okay! what are the Amber flags on my profile? Just curious so I know what the problems are! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Noticed that I used to have a lot of luck on websites (tinder, OKCupid, sex apps and also kink websites) in my late teens/early twenties but for the past few years I’ve had absolutely none (literally no matches on there or when people do, they unmatch). Not sure what it could be (I’m not tall and muscly and not particularly manly and kind of nerdy tbh, but that’s not changed?) And I don’t think I’m particularly ugly. I get a lot of 'not my type' responses on here but that's to be expected!
Anyone else had similar experiences? Not a pity-me post, genuinely curious as to what’s happened!
Are you approaching people who are looking for single guys in your age group? "
Yeah! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"For me, you have a few amber flags in your profile. Also, as someone else pointed out, the pandemic changed everything
Hi, what do you mean by Amber flags?
Well, you know what a red flag is? Like that, but less cautionary.
Ah okay! what are the Amber flags on my profile? Just curious so I know what the problems are!"
I say this because I thought my profile was really well-written (and others have said so too) so if there’s any Amber flags then I’d be interested to know what they are. |
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