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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago
Burnleyish (She/They) |
As per the fab rules/faq's it's someone's way of saying they aren't interested, it's nothing personal...
General generic advice:
Read people's profiles fully, only message people who are looking for what you're able to offer (and if your profile doesn't say as such, talk about it in your introductory message).
Think about what you want from a meet but also what the other person wants too, noone likes to be viewed as a fetish dispenser. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nothing personal your just one of many available options to them. They can be choosy you need to stand out by offering something that fit's their niche. It's just the nature of the game. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you give us - on this thread, some idea of your approach, maybe we can tell you if it would work.
One thing is certain though, reading all the profiles before you think of messaging, would be the best help I can give.
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OP, you didn't ask for profile advice so can't give any. But is that the best you can do?
You have two cam veris, no meet veris- I'd think camming is all you want to do and not engage in conversation with you. |
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"Why do i keep getting blocked or ignored by women who are in area its annoying "
How are you approaching them?
If it’s “fancy a fuck?” Then it’s probably the reason. If they’re not looking for a meet, then tgat could be it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do i keep getting blocked or ignored by women who are in area its annoying "
Dnt let it bother you. You just aren't for them im sure someone will come along that is |
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"Hope so but cant see it though
If you use the "+quote" button when replying in the forum, people can see what you're replying to and things might make a bit more sense.
Ok thank you very much for the info
(Bry)"
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"How can u get a meet if you get blockes or ignored impposible "
Find your local social meet(s) or a club and go to them. Get talking to real people who really swing, make friends and get verified that way.
Cam verifications mean nothing, when the women you're messaging have the choice of another two hundred people who have proper meet verifications.
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"How can u get a meet if you get blockes or ignored impposible
Find your local social meet(s) or a club and go to them. Get talking to real people who really swing, make friends and get verified that way.
Cam verifications mean nothing, when the women you're messaging have the choice of another two hundred people who have proper meet verifications.
(Bry)"
Ok thanks and will do its not easy get a proper meet and will try look for a social |
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You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys….. |
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"You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys….. "
Yes it cant be easy for women but they have time to block though and not relly |
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"You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys…..
Yes it cant be easy for women but they have time to block though and not reply "
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It could also be that they search the forums before blocking you....you know the green arrow next to the posters name shows the last forum posts made? It can show someone's character a lot better than the content of their profile......
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"Not my loss of they block me its there of some one genuine "
But it IS your loss. Eventually every single woman on the site is going see you for what you are and block you and then you've lost out completely.
Change your attitude, accept that this isn't dial-a-shag and no-one owes you sex, make some effort and maybe you'll do better.
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"Tried putting effort in and still no look and how is it my loss am a nice guy its them who are judging not me "
But it's you who are missing out on potential meets. Not the women who are blocking you.
Advice has been given. Follow it or don't. It's genuinely no loss to us.
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
"Not my loss of they block me its there of some one genuine "
…. But you are the one complaining 
I love the word genuine because it’s one of the word’s people throw out there but it doesn’t actually mean anything!
I am a believer in that you get one chance to make a great first impression… between this and the other thread I don’t think you are doing yourself any favours!!
So let’s be blunt… hand on heart, knowing the shed load of profiles out there… would you answer your own profile? |
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"Well most comments ive read have been "
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Well they will be if you're only reading threads started by women who've been stood up, it isn't the case otherwise (ie in the vast majority of cases). |
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By *ammo89Man
over a year ago
Aberdeen |
What kind of things do you usually say in your messages? Could be nothing wrong with them, but its always worth checking, dare say the couples on this thread could suggest changes etc.
Also, the best piece of advice I got since joining: when you send a message, don't go to sent and check whether it's been read. Delete them all if you're too tempted to look. Then at least if you hear anything back, it's a nice surprise and a bonus |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op is it the fact that you have messaged all of the women close to or the ones that profile pics you like the look of before looking at the profile is it more the people you think are more physically attractive to you (before people say yes I understand that’s the same for everyone) but you might not be to them and also I agree with the other posters on this thread about how much a woman actually gets messaged in a day and how many they actually reply to maybe message a woman that isn’t typically someone you go for you may find that that woman is going to be the best meet you will ever have that’s the point in fab trying something new and fun after all |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why do i keep getting blocked or ignored by women who are in area its annoying "
Your profile isn't bad although you could fluff out the bio a bit.
Maybe you just aren't what you're looking for, maybe it's your first message. It's hard to say exactly without knowing what you say.
Unless someone stands out they will have the message deleted. If they grab my attention and have read my profile they are half way there. |
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Negativity isn’t a positive trait. If it’s difficult for you to meet anyone that’s your fault not the women you’re messaging.
Here’s a tip, women read profiles for anyone they’re contemplating to meet.
Not giving profile advice here, imagine you put up two photos and one paragraph of text. Another guy puts up loads of photos of his body, nice smiling face etc…he also has plenty of text on his profile telling anyone who’s reading it, exactly what he’s looking for and inserted a bit of his personality within it as well.
Who Op (imagine you’re a woman for a second) would you pick ?
Your profile and forum participation will also be checked out every time you send a message to a woman who reads it.
There are some guys who believe other guys have all the luck on this site. I disagree, there’s some guys who are clued up and the rest.
Good luck Op  |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
What you need to understand it's a two way street just because you message doesn't mean that the other person has to reply.if their interested might if their busy might but if they block it just saves having to explain if read or not.just move forward and Don't let it knock your confidence not everyone will be compatible |
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"You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys…..
Yes it cant be easy for women but they have time to block though and not relly "
Why would you think we have more time? 
Your profile is your shop window, we need to be tempted in to maybe try something on... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The best thing you can do OP is maybe change your approach if it’s constantly getting you blocked or ignored?
Think of your profile like a shop window (look at it from a woman’s pov)
Go to socials and clubs get out there because not everything goes on - online |
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So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
In English please. |
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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago
Newcastle |
"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
Pal the site isn't but being patient without any expectations get involved with the forums calmly |
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I rarely use this site nowadays, but I can guarantee within seconds of logging on I'll have three 'wanna fuck?' messages. I do just block as they aren't worthy of a reply. I always respond politely to original respectful messages. Try to be original, funny and charming in your messages and you might stand out from the crowd. |
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
I don't understand this comment, you think there's no point being nice to women as you won't get a shag out of it?
I think the people who tend to be nice to people with no motive in general do much better on fab. |
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"Tried putting effort in and still no look and how is it my loss am a nice guy its them who are judging not me "
Are you for real do you mean about most stuff or just here there is cheese in my fridge thats more mature than you seem to be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can get that you're frustrated that it's not panning out on here as you'd probably hoped. But you're coming across a bit frosty, and you've been given some really good tips in this thread.
Personally for myself I'd look at your profile and it'd be a block based on your comment regarding 'no gay or bi men'. Why do you even feel the need to put that? 
Just set it so you don't receive messages from blokes. Job done! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys….. "
I think it's a little different as the OP states clearly in his profile he is straight and doesn't want to meet men, whereas I'm pretty sure the OP would be messaging women who say they want to meet men. I'm not saying women should reply to 3very message, just pointing out the comparison is way off the mark.  |
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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago
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I block whoever is not interested in not meeting me; if I send a message and it gets deleted, or goes unread for a while, or if I get a reply to say sorry not interested…then I block, don’t waste my time or theirs
…especially if they make that clear from the profile; that they say they’re not interested in ‘meeting black guys, no offence’
None taken, blocked. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You know how frustrating it is when you get messages from guys, who you’re not interested in? Do you reply to all of them? Do you explain in detail why you’re not interested in them? Or do you just delete the message/block them?
That’s how it is for women. Constant messages from guys, and there simply isn’t time to reply to them all explaining. It’s much easier to just delete and ignore, if they don’t take the hint and message several times, they get blocked.
A bit like I imagine you deal with guys…..
Yes it cant be easy for women but they have time to block though and not relly "
It takes seconds to block though and much more effort to reply especially when people don't take no for an answer so you then get caught up in a back and forth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be honest your attitude is ugly.
I'd see this and think entitled, immature, little boy and be totally turned off. You're wingey, winey, moany, playing the victim, childish with your responses and don't stand out at all.
Until you have a better attitude towards this I don't see you being successful or satisfied at all.
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"To be honest your attitude is ugly.
I'd see this and think entitled, immature, little boy and be totally turned off. You're wingey, winey, moany, playing the victim, childish with your responses and don't stand out at all.
Until you have a better attitude towards this I don't see you being successful or satisfied at all.
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
Maybe it’s not for you then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
Nobody owes you anything, do you answer every piece of junk mail that comes through your letter box? I don't think so.
If you are being blocked and ignored consistently the problem is more than likely you.
Not being interested in you is not taking the piss, you seem to have joined fab with expectations that you're going to get sex out of it, this isn't a sex site and people are free to so as they please,in this case that seems to be not engaging with you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe its the womens views on guys even be4 this post nobody was interested "
Yes all women are the problem. They’re all cunts for not wanting to put your cock in their mouth. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You don’t seem to get that if all women are doing it then it’s obviously you that is the problem. Change your approach and your attitude and you might actually get somewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Longer messages and going for some one who usually dont go for "
Your profile might be off putting. Your status certainly is. You say you’re a nice guy on your profile but your words on the forum tell a different story. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"To be honest your attitude is ugly.
I'd see this and think entitled, immature, little boy and be totally turned off. You're wingey, winey, moany, playing the victim, childish with your responses and don't stand out at all.
Until you have a better attitude towards this I don't see you being successful or satisfied at all.
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well said! |
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You can't drive, so are you expecting women to deliver themselves to you?
What are you actually offering, because all I can see is what you want?
Have you tried attending organised socials, or clubs? |
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By *al kalMan
over a year ago
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"To be honest your attitude is ugly.
I'd see this and think entitled, immature, little boy and be totally turned off. You're wingey, winey, moany, playing the victim, childish with your responses and don't stand out at all.
Until you have a better attitude towards this I don't see you being successful or satisfied at all.
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This |
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right"
So is your ego but YOU don't HEAR me complaining and BEING nice to women just to be rejected.. whats is the point in even trying? Like my friend said "this site is just to take the piss out of people" maybe THEY'RE right?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right
So is your ego but YOU don't HEAR me complaining and BEING nice to women just to be rejected.. whats is the point in even trying? Like my friend said "this site is just to take the piss out of people" maybe THEY'RE right?
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Not cool |
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"Why do i keep getting blocked or ignored by women who are in area its annoying "
I know the feeling fella but don't take it to heart. Sometimes it's best just to meet someone elsewhere say in a more of a social setting
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So is ur ego but u dont here me complaining and been nice to women just to rejected whats the point even trying like my friend said this site is just to take the piss out of people maybe there right
So is your ego but YOU don't HEAR me complaining and BEING nice to women just to be rejected.. whats is the point in even trying? Like my friend said "this site is just to take the piss out of people" maybe THEY'RE right?
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What's the point, or what is the point. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What else would i be able to put on it "
Imagine you're applying for a job.
See your profile as your CV.
Your message as a cover note.
Your Picture gallery as your portfolio.
Sell yourself.
Oh and use the reply+quote so people know who you're responding to.  |
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