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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hoping to have our first proper mfm threesome soon and our first private meet as only been to clubs before.
What are some things we could do with asking the potential partner?
Xx L |
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I suppose you could ask them open questions and see how they respond..that should give you a measure of their attitude and you can see if it fits what you're looking for. It can be difficult for guys to know what dynamic you are looking for so let them tell you about themselves and you get to decide who has potential and who is a dumplin |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We are ask the other M what they hope from a meet, to make sure we are all on the same wave length. As a lot of the time a single guy thinks hubby is a cuck or he's there to "ruin' me!
We ask for a social as you know if they are serious if they turn up |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Completely agree with the comments around being clear on what you want and making sure there’s a connection/common wavelength.
My one and only (sadly!) threesome to date was with someone I already knew (the F of the couple) and I played with her separately a few times before the threesome.
It didn’t start out as a threesome initially, her hubby was just watching, but later on it felt right to suggest he joined in and it absolutely added to the experience.
So, based on my experience, try to find someone who will listen to what you’re after and if possible, someone who you feel has the nouse to read the play dynamic and adapt if needed. |
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"Hoping to have our first proper mfm threesome soon and our first private meet as only been to clubs before.
What are some things we could do with asking the potential partner?
Xx L "
When I arrange meets with couples, I just ask to know any hard limits beforehand, and how much involved the hubby wants to be. After that, I say I’ll just go with the flow on the night, as ‘planning’ a play never quite works? Nobody knows how they will feel at the time, so best to not have any expectations, just let it happen  |
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By *host63Man
over a year ago
Bedfont Feltham |
Talk by phone or in my case text as I have a hearing problem arrange to meet for drinks and then when you do meet make sure that it can be called off if either side feels uncomfortable.
This protects all of you and when itbdoes happen its so much more fun |
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By *ande22Couple
over a year ago
London |
Agree with the comments about deciding exactly what you want from the threesome, and communicating that. We're looking to find someone for our first threesome at the moment, and everyone is different - some guys would much prefer the guy to not take part, others want to play with (and be played with by) both of us.
We like to ask about what scenarios people are keen to try, and also what sort of experiences they have had - are they a hardened swinger, or is this their first time? After a few messages back and forth you can get a feeling whether you'd get on with them, and then in our case we'll want to meet for a social first to see if we click in real life, and to make sure there's some physical attraction too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with the above really, communication is the most important thing and then it’s all preference - some want specific scenarios or social then build up, it’s important everyone feels involved and free to do as they wish within whatever is agreed etc too. Have fun, and make sure you’re clear with whatever you think will help keep you relaxed too. Enjoy! |
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"What experience he has with other couples as you need him to be comfortable, boundaries and limits, expectations, where you’ll meet. A x"
Absolutely, as long as everyone knows where they stand from the start all cool had a few mmf and ffm great fun and easier as you can all have a laugh together |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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From a singles prospective, I like to lane it clear I’m straight, not interested in the male and quite comfortable in a MFM situation. Even shared a females mouth with another guy..but weird at first, however for me, it’s about the ladies pleasure and what she wants.
Everyone needs to be comfortable, I know if I’m not, we’ll it shows!
And please make sure it’s what you both are comfortable with, Iv seen and heard couples argue after the event.
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Wouldn't claim to be mega-experienced, but, with friend (F), looking for MFM - it seems to us that you can tell a real admirer, because from general banter or open-ended questions very clear impressions come over of what attracts them to lady and maybe how they feel at ease with me. We had a feeling of not trying to coax them along, because we've been left feeling we've "done all the running" dragging-along someone "worthless". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First of all neutral ground as you don't won't to invite them into your home, and theirs might not be as hygienic as you would like. So maybe a hotel. Then tell them what you want from the meet and set the ground rules. |
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Find out what he wants from the experience too. How he would see a perfect mfm going. See if your on the same page with how it's going to go down and what you all like. Remember the hotest times are the ones where everyone is fully invested, fully feeling involved and getting what they desire. |
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By *assy MissWoman
over a year ago
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"I suppose you could ask them open questions and see how they respond..that should give you a measure of their attitude and you can see if it fits what you're looking for. It can be difficult for guys to know what dynamic you are looking for so let them tell you about themselves and you get to decide who has potential and who is a dumplin "
This is good advice, something I do with all potential meets.
Otherwise you tell them what you want and miraculously that’s exactly what they enjoy  |
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"I suppose you could ask them open questions and see how they respond..that should give you a measure of their attitude and you can see if it fits what you're looking for. It can be difficult for guys to know what dynamic you are looking for so let them tell you about themselves and you get to decide who has potential and who is a dumplin
This is good advice, something I do with all potential meets.
Otherwise you tell them what you want and miraculously that’s exactly what they enjoy "
I think ambiguity is a useful tool. This is why when people ask profile advise I suggest not to give too many details away as to what you want. People do have a habit of tailoring what they say to be agreeable to the audience to get laid. A classic example is men saying they're bi and turning out not to be when push comes to shove so to say. That why I advise quiz them, find out what they desire first before you reveal your cards. If you desires then match this is best for all parties. On my couples profile me and My Girl deliberately keep our cards close to our chest as a method of filtering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always feel it’s about trying to be as open as possible to make sure everyone is comfortable. Asking the female straight out “are you okay?” Obviously at chosen points and not at a stage where by it’s going to kill the moment!
and eye contact with the male, or nod, just to make sure he’s okay.
I have been fortunate to have been asked by a few couples to join them, mostly at clubs. sharing the partner is a huge privilege and should always be respected.
Listen to the couple and get an idea from the male half what she likes. that said, in the throes of the moment, two cocks being guided into her mouth may occur…while she didn’t expect it, I’m pretty sure by her reaction it was enjoyed. So who knows what additions may happen, even to a well rehearsed or discussed plan! ;p
I simple need attraction to the female, some sort of connection. Can’t hide it if it’s not there for me! 
And knowing the other guy is either straight or knows i an. Therefore he’s not going to grab, prod, or otherwise do anything bi sexual towards me. No issue, just not my thing.
Good luck in your search and enjoy.
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"I suppose you could ask them open questions and see how they respond..that should give you a measure of their attitude and you can see if it fits what you're looking for. It can be difficult for guys to know what dynamic you are looking for so let them tell you about themselves and you get to decide who has potential and who is a dumplin
This is good advice, something I do with all potential meets.
Otherwise you tell them what you want and miraculously that’s exactly what they enjoy
I think ambiguity is a useful tool. This is why when people ask profile advise I suggest not to give too many details away as to what you want. People do have a habit of tailoring what they say to be agreeable to the audience to get laid. A classic example is men saying they're bi and turning out not to be when push comes to shove so to say. That why I advise quiz them, find out what they desire first before you reveal your cards. If you desires then match this is best for all parties. On my couples profile me and My Girl deliberately keep our cards close to our chest as a method of filtering."
I very much recognise the meaning in both your recent posts... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had the good fortune to be part of a mmmf one was fucking her mouth one fucking her pussy I was rimming her arse wow 1st time I had 2 cocks to suck on too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I suppose you could ask them open questions and see how they respond..that should give you a measure of their attitude and you can see if it fits what you're looking for. It can be difficult for guys to know what dynamic you are looking for so let them tell you about themselves and you get to decide who has potential and who is a dumplin
This is good advice, something I do with all potential meets.
Otherwise you tell them what you want and miraculously that’s exactly what they enjoy
I think ambiguity is a useful tool. This is why when people ask profile advise I suggest not to give too many details away as to what you want. People do have a habit of tailoring what they say to be agreeable to the audience to get laid. A classic example is men saying they're bi and turning out not to be when push comes to shove so to say. That why I advise quiz them, find out what they desire first before you reveal your cards. If you desires then match this is best for all parties. On my couples profile me and My Girl deliberately keep our cards close to our chest as a method of filtering."
Thankyou for this!! This totally makes sense. Think our profile needs to have revamp. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"All very good advice on here that I can’t really add to except to say mfm, mmf either or….. one of the best darn experiences ever!
I honestly hope you get to enjoy soon   "
thankyou. We are hoping so aswell haha x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Wouldn't claim to be mega-experienced, but, with friend (F), looking for MFM - it seems to us that you can tell a real admirer, because from general banter or open-ended questions very clear impressions come over of what attracts them to lady and maybe how they feel at ease with me. We had a feeling of not trying to coax them along, because we've been left feeling we've "done all the running" dragging-along someone "worthless"."
We have definitely found this. They sound interested in the first couple of messages but then we feel we are asking all the questions. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thankyou again all great advice and taken on board.
Another question though lol. Due to childcare we have to plan in advance so when talking to someone do you tend to talk every day or on odd occasions running up to the date? Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thankyou again all great advice and taken on board.
Another question though lol. Due to childcare we have to plan in advance so when talking to someone do you tend to talk every day or on odd occasions running up to the date? Xx"
Just like with vanilla folk, it depends on your dynamic. Some like to chat regularly to build up the rapport, some just want to turn up! |
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