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What I learnt from a regular Bull Cuckold relationship
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I was a Bull ( although I never used that cringe term) to a white bi sub couple for 10 years or more, meeting two or three times per month.
For the cuck it’s basically a part time job to identify likely candidates online. It will be a situation of many are called but few are chosen. I think the Cuck should look for guys without hundreds of verifications -they are way too active in the swinger scene. For instance I don’t really categorise myself as a swinger per se as I like the D/s dynamic which only works due to frequent meets over time.
The cuck that found me was super clever in creating the right environment for it to be ongoing. He ensured that I wouldn’t be inconvenienced by the distance I had to travel. After or before the play it was a meal and drinks. I’ve known situations whereby the cuck and Bull become proper mates and go to football matches together.
Building a social connection outside the bedroom was all part of the cuckold scenario; so I’ve been on short trips to their summer home, met their friends at social gatherings, hung out with their kids. They were into the more extreme form of cuckoldry where the extra guy may even lodge in the house; which I also thought about.
They had other guys who they’d see during the week but our poly thrupple was the main element.
Occasionally we’d look at each other and grin at how bizarre and lovely we were together. The cuck had executed the curation of their sex life that was very pleasing to his hot wife.
They contacted me when I was in a sexless open relationship so it worked well for all of us. And this may be a clue as to finding the right type of guy for this scene.
A recent poster wondered whether there were some social events to meet potential candidates. I’d doubt it. These guys are not that deeply into the club and party scene. They find it tedious constantly looking for new sex partners on fab. They’ve probably got a vanilla gf, maybe married, sad single life ! Looking for the security of reliable discreet sexual encounters with ‘friends’ |
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"I was a Bull ( although I never used that cringe term) to a white bi sub couple for 10 years or more, meeting two or three times per month.
For the cuck it’s basically a part time job to identify likely candidates online. It will be a situation of many are called but few are chosen. I think the Cuck should look for guys without hundreds of verifications -they are way too active in the swinger scene. For instance I don’t really categorise myself as a swinger per se as I like the D/s dynamic which only works due to frequent meets over time.
The cuck that found me was super clever in creating the right environment for it to be ongoing. He ensured that I wouldn’t be inconvenienced by the distance I had to travel. After or before the play it was a meal and drinks. I’ve known situations whereby the cuck and Bull become proper mates and go to football matches together.
Building a social connection outside the bedroom was all part of the cuckold scenario; so I’ve been on short trips to their summer home, met their friends at social gatherings, hung out with their kids. They were into the more extreme form of cuckoldry where the extra guy may even lodge in the house; which I also thought about.
They had other guys who they’d see during the week but our poly thrupple was the main element.
Occasionally we’d look at each other and grin at how bizarre and lovely we were together. The cuck had executed the curation of their sex life that was very pleasing to his hot wife.
They contacted me when I was in a sexless open relationship so it worked well for all of us. And this may be a clue as to finding the right type of guy for this scene.
A recent poster wondered whether there were some social events to meet potential candidates. I’d doubt it. These guys are not that deeply into the club and party scene. They find it tedious constantly looking for new sex partners on fab. They’ve probably got a vanilla gf, maybe married, sad single life ! Looking for the security of reliable discreet sexual encounters with ‘friends’"
thats one couple and one way every couple is different thats why when someone says theyve been a bull for one couple it means nothing yo the other couples thats why we steer clear of so called experienced bulls they think they know it all but they really dont they only know the couples they have met ... |
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and i pick my meets not cuck im in charge of all things sexual ... know alot of cuck couples they are the same its not really cuckold if it male led thats stag n vixen |
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I think in most cases the cuckold dynamic is initiated by men. I dont think many women would think of it without knowing he got off on humiliation. lesser men would consider it domestic abuse and talk about ot on forum threads |
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I’ve been seeing the wife of a couple for about 8 years now, and what started out as her looking for cock on the side, developed in to a full cuckold relationship.
She’s never referred to me as her ‘bull’, but does call hubby her ‘cucky’. His cock is useless to her, she needs a ‘real man’s cock inside her’.
Cucky doesn’t know who I am, and that is part of his humiliation, because I could literally be any man he passes in the street. He does know when I am visiting her at their home, and he has to keep himself out of the way while I am there. Afterwards, if he has ‘behaved’ himself, he will be treated to his wife sitting on his face and allowing him to lick her clean. But again, this is all led by her, and it’s not a given that she will allow him to do this every time I’ve been there…… |
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"I’ve been seeing the wife of a couple for about 8 years now, and what started out as her looking for cock on the side, developed in to a full cuckold relationship.
She’s never referred to me as her ‘bull’, but does call hubby her ‘cucky’. His cock is useless to her, she needs a ‘real man’s cock inside her’.
Cucky doesn’t know who I am, and that is part of his humiliation, because I could literally be any man he passes in the street. He does know when I am visiting her at their home, and he has to keep himself out of the way while I am there. Afterwards, if he has ‘behaved’ himself, he will be treated to his wife sitting on his face and allowing him to lick her clean. But again, this is all led by her, and it’s not a given that she will allow him to do this every time I’ve been there……"
Does she not like her husband very much? |
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"I’ve been seeing the wife of a couple for about 8 years now, and what started out as her looking for cock on the side, developed into a full cuckold relationship.
She’s never referred to me as her ‘bull’, but does call hubby her ‘cucky’. His cock is useless to her, she needs a ‘real man’s cock inside her’.
Cucky doesn’t know who I am, and that is part of his humiliation, because I could literally be any man he passes in the street. He does know when I am visiting her at their home, and he has to keep himself out of the way while I am there. Afterwards, if he has ‘behaved’ himself, he will be treated to his wife sitting on his face and allowing him to lick her clean. But again, this is all led by her, and it’s not a given that she will allow him to do this every time I’ve been there……"
That's a very interesting dynamic. Not something I’ll want to get entangled with but each their own.
It seems to work for all three of you.
My question here is do you think the husband will still be interested if or when he finds out who you are? |
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My experience with couples is slightly different. I don't like the term bull and I tend to see myself as an addition or assistance to their relationship.
Most of the couples I have met have enjoyed hubby watching. It is rarely (ever?) about explicit humiliation but hubby _always_ love to watch his wife enjoying herself with someone else. They always tell me that their relationship is stronger after a meet.
I love the way a wife will always give hubby that look of love as I enter her - you can see her saying "I love you but this is me time now". Heaven! |
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"My experience with couples is slightly different. I don't like the term bull and I tend to see myself as an addition or assistance to their relationship.
Most of the couples I have met have enjoyed hubby watching. It is rarely (ever?) about explicit humiliation but hubby _always_ love to watch his wife enjoying herself with someone else. They always tell me that their relationship is stronger after a meet.
I love the way a wife will always give hubby that look of love as I enter her - you can see her saying "I love you but this is me time now". Heaven!"
That sounds more like a standard MMF than cuckold though. |
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"My experience with couples is slightly different. I don't like the term bull and I tend to see myself as an addition or assistance to their relationship.
Most of the couples I have met have enjoyed hubby watching. It is rarely (ever?) about explicit humiliation but hubby _always_ love to watch his wife enjoying herself with someone else. They always tell me that their relationship is stronger after a meet.
I love the way a wife will always give hubby that look of love as I enter her - you can see her saying "I love you but this is me time now". Heaven!
That sounds more like a standard MMF than cuckold though."
That's what I thought.
I had one relationship like this with a couple, there's great trust between all parties and some transfer of power, if power is the right word.
Humiliation is a separate part of the play.
When it works, it's mind-blowing |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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A great post OP. I enjoy being able to socialise with people I meet. I’ve been in a relationship of sorts where I’d meet up with another male and female who had known each other for longer. He was polyamorous and we’d often go out before returning to have fun together.
Not everyone wants a social side to their swinging but for others it helps build the relationship. |
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I've skirted around cuckold experiences, but can't say I've been fortunate to experience a regular committed bull-hotwife relationship where I meet over many months/years.
Usually it's been playing with someone's wife at a club, or visiting a couple and doing the wife (in half the cases the guy is trying to play director with a heavy hand on the PAUSE/RESUME button. Lol). Or meeting the Mrs alone. These are fun, but are short lived experiences.
I definitely see the appeal. I just think it's a actually a small number of swingers (or fabswingers) that are into anything at that level. I suspect it might be easier to get this sort of long term arrangement from meeting vanilla women or guys. But then more likely to delve into deception and cheating.
Perhaps it's just fire. Requires more skill, time and effort to harness the heat, at the same time you can chose to get closer and get hotter, but risk getting burned.
I've had one cuckold pregnancy. However it was non-kink. The husband was infertile and needed a mixed race donor. Would take the wife to rios & then hotels to fuck her. Went on for a couple years of monthly meets, but we had breaks as she had moved abroad.
Not too bothered about humiliation, I'm more the 'happy bull' type of guy. Always looking for those win win (re)productivre situations. |
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Some very interesting insights. I too prefer it when I know the cuckold and for want of a better word have a good relationship with him.
Its such a weird mind fuck but the more I like a cuckold the more I want to fuck his wife. For two men to be passionate about the same woman both working together to give her pleasure to me seems wickedly delicious on so many levels.
To date I have only ever been fortunate enough to have an on going relationship like this twice and I'm really looking forward to my third ongoing adventure.
I'm hoping third time lucky because this time around I'm in a solo-poly relationship with a woman who understands my need to be with a couple/s too. To my mind it's the perfect balance. |
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