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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Online forums can be a fun place but they can be a good place to get help and advice
Well done to anyone who offers their time and advice to others nervous about making their first steps
Some take the piss but many offer sincere help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just came across this as its what we are looking for. Advice, in a lot of ways that we think we are over thinking things, we think it will bore people and they will think we are just taking the piss.
We have been in chat rooms and just get ignored so it puts us off.
We normally only come on this site when d*unk and in party mode, we know its because we both have the confidence. We feel the first time is not something we could plan, that it has to be on a weekend away in like Amsterdam and it kinda just happen in the moment.
We are a couple but it's the female that does most of the typing and talking at the minute, for reasons I would like to explain with another person. (It makes sence in my head, I just struggle to word it) like I don't want my partner doing the chatting and planning without me because then I worry he will meet someone behind my back, but that doesn't mean I don't want to explore or sexual side of life.
So female typing but male is aware...
I'd love to find someone to talk to, to answer my questions as I struggle on knowing how to take the first step. We speak really naughty when d*unk but never sober, use toys when d*unk but never sober, we agree when d*unk that it's something we can do sober but still never have, like we don't have the confidence or it's a fear. Some of the stuff we do say is most definitely just a fantasy. Some stuff we talk about I think is just a fantasy but eventually we could build up to it.
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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago
Z'ha'dum |
"Just came across this as its what we are looking for. Advice, in a lot of ways that we think we are over thinking things, we think it will bore people and they will think we are just taking the piss.
We have been in chat rooms and just get ignored so it puts us off.
We normally only come on this site when d*unk and in party mode, we know its because we both have the confidence. We feel the first time is not something we could plan, that it has to be on a weekend away in like Amsterdam and it kinda just happen in the moment.
We are a couple but it's the female that does most of the typing and talking at the minute, for reasons I would like to explain with another person. (It makes sence in my head, I just struggle to word it) like I don't want my partner doing the chatting and planning without me because then I worry he will meet someone behind my back, but that doesn't mean I don't want to explore or sexual side of life.
So female typing but male is aware...
I'd love to find someone to talk to, to answer my questions as I struggle on knowing how to take the first step. We speak really naughty when d*unk but never sober, use toys when d*unk but never sober, we agree when d*unk that it's something we can do sober but still never have, like we don't have the confidence or it's a fear. Some of the stuff we do say is most definitely just a fantasy. Some stuff we talk about I think is just a fantasy but eventually we could build up to it.
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Some times a fantasy is better off staying a fantasy. This isn't for everyone and that's ok. If you feel your unable to trust your partner or you think you may feel jealous, seeing him with some one else than this might not for be you. Just take things slowly and get the lay of the land as it were and see how things go. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Just came across this as its what we are looking for. Advice, in a lot of ways that we think we are over thinking things, we think it will bore people and they will think we are just taking the piss.
We have been in chat rooms and just get ignored so it puts us off.
We normally only come on this site when d*unk and in party mode, we know its because we both have the confidence. We feel the first time is not something we could plan, that it has to be on a weekend away in like Amsterdam and it kinda just happen in the moment.
We are a couple but it's the female that does most of the typing and talking at the minute, for reasons I would like to explain with another person. (It makes sence in my head, I just struggle to word it) like I don't want my partner doing the chatting and planning without me because then I worry he will meet someone behind my back, but that doesn't mean I don't want to explore or sexual side of life.
So female typing but male is aware...
I'd love to find someone to talk to, to answer my questions as I struggle on knowing how to take the first step. We speak really naughty when d*unk but never sober, use toys when d*unk but never sober, we agree when d*unk that it's something we can do sober but still never have, like we don't have the confidence or it's a fear. Some of the stuff we do say is most definitely just a fantasy. Some stuff we talk about I think is just a fantasy but eventually we could build up to it.
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The advise given by UnSeen is spot on. If you want someone who has been on the scene a good while to message privately, I'd be happy to discuss things with you if I can help.
Another idea would be go along to an organised Social and you could then chat to others on the scene, but in a non play environment. You'll find most people are happy to discuss Swinging and their experiences, and as you say everyone was new once. |
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"Just came across this as its what we are looking for. Advice, in a lot of ways that we think we are over thinking things, we think it will bore people and they will think we are just taking the piss.
We have been in chat rooms and just get ignored so it puts us off.
We normally only come on this site when d*unk and in party mode, we know its because we both have the confidence. We feel the first time is not something we could plan, that it has to be on a weekend away in like Amsterdam and it kinda just happen in the moment.
We are a couple but it's the female that does most of the typing and talking at the minute, for reasons I would like to explain with another person. (It makes sence in my head, I just struggle to word it) like I don't want my partner doing the chatting and planning without me because then I worry he will meet someone behind my back, but that doesn't mean I don't want to explore or sexual side of life.
So female typing but male is aware...
I'd love to find someone to talk to, to answer my questions as I struggle on knowing how to take the first step. We speak really naughty when d*unk but never sober, use toys when d*unk but never sober, we agree when d*unk that it's something we can do sober but still never have, like we don't have the confidence or it's a fear. Some of the stuff we do say is most definitely just a fantasy. Some stuff we talk about I think is just a fantasy but eventually we could build up to it.
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Please feel free to msg us and some of what you said we can relate to. |
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