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When you recognise someone
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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago
Z'ha'dum |
"So the million dollar question
A do you mention to them that you have seen them on fab ?
B say nothing and carry on as normal as they are not looking for single men? "
Is that you Colin? Fancy seeing you here  |
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We prefer if people say, we are all adults and nothing to be ashamed about, doesn't mean we'll want to play but it's ok to chat.
Had a few over the years recognise us that have said and there is no awkwardness. There's probably alot more that have recognised and not said anything tho.
There are quite a few single guys on here with a lot more reason to hide than we have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could always try option C.
Send them a message with a face pic but don’t mention you recognise them. If they don’t block you and they message back they might want to meet.
Personally we’d just block but others might be different. |
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By *l1pp3ryCouple
over a year ago
Bradford |
If they have face pics in public folder they probably don't care about being recognised so it's probably more about whether you want them to know you are on here.
If its the scenario where you're chatting then they send a face pic privately first then I'd personally block and move on |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Send them a message on Fab by all means but you've agreed to the Ts&Cs which states that you will not approach other users publicly. The same for all of us so, no we wouldn't mention it to them. |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
We were in The Range the other week and Char clocked a guy kept checking her out. When we got home he'd messaged saying that he'd been checking out the "who's near" and looked at our pics just before he went in the store and was amazed to see us wandering around. We were a bit disappointed that he didn't say hello.
We're totally okay with being approached if anyone recognised us, so long as they had the common sense to not do it if we were with other people.
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"So the million dollar question
A do you mention to them that you have seen them on fab ?
B say nothing and carry on as normal as they are not looking for single men? "
B and block...defiantly not something you want folk bringing up if they know you. |
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"We were in The Range the other week and Char clocked a guy kept checking her out. When we got home he'd messaged saying that he'd been checking out the "who's near" and looked at our pics just before he went in the store and was amazed to see us wandering around. We were a bit disappointed that he didn't say hello.
We're totally okay with being approached if anyone recognised us, so long as they had the common sense to not do it if we were with other people.
(Bry)"
We live in quite a small place amd have been messaged loads of times to say..saw you in asda/tesco today or up town etc..we would rather they didn't do that because I kinda puts me (fem) off going back wondering who recognises me/us lol. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've been approached by a guy in public who recognized me from here. It wasn't around other people so I didn't mind.
I've had many messages from people who recognized me then tell me where they saw me. I don't mind that either. But usually they then expect we are going to meet, which I do mind lol. |
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Most people will say block & ignore
Personally it wouldn't bother me if someone recognised me but I'd rather know, I'd prefer them to approach me on here with a face pic (the only time I'd expect a face pic with an initial message) & just say hi, I don't want to make things awkward, I'm not expecting a meet but I spotted you on here & I thought it was only fair I let you know, I won't take offence if you feel the need to block me & your secrets safe with me so no need to feel awkward next time we meet in real life etc
Obviously not possibly if they've blocked single men
But I wouldn't like the idea they knew I was here and hadn't outted themselves etc & blocked me, without blocking your kinda on stalker territory |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Depends entirely on how that person approached us.
Blatantly, publicly and loudly, not a chance in Hell we'd engage in conversation.
With a lot of discretion, we'd be more likely to chat, even it was just a "hi, feel free to message us on Fab" and leave it there.
Winston |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were in The Range the other week and Char clocked a guy kept checking her out. When we got home he'd messaged saying that he'd been checking out the "who's near" and looked at our pics just before he went in the store and was amazed to see us wandering around. We were a bit disappointed that he didn't say hello.
We're totally okay with being approached if anyone recognised us, so long as they had the common sense to not do it if we were with other people.
(Bry)
We live in quite a small place amd have been messaged loads of times to say..saw you in asda/tesco today or up town etc..we would rather they didn't do that because I kinda puts me (fem) off going back wondering who recognises me/us lol. "
Why, what are you worried about?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had guys message me that I've recognised
I have just blocked them and kept it moving
Didn't want to risk potentially embarrassing or causing anyone to worry I would expose them |
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C depends who it is an if they a reason to hide or you have.
I found people I worked with neighbors even my mates wife on here over the years
Some have spoken to me bout site an I played dumb even tho I had a well verified profile then as wasn’t the right thing in the normal world.
Others Iv messaged an had lots of fun with
Nothing ventured |
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I always say hello. One past my work the other.. saw her in Cupid's... Cute lil white two town finger red hair big booty heavily tattooed girl.
If I see you and we spoken I'll say hi. I'm not ashamed that I swing and I'll say hi |
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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago
Peterborough / Stamford |
Someone at my work is on here with no pictures, no profile pic, almost no profile text. He's messaged Char to say he'd like to meet her alone when I'm at work and he knows when I work because he works here too.
Refuses to identify himself. Weird.
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B. I chatted on here for a bit with a quite local couple, they asked me for a face pic so I sent one and they responded back with my full maiden name and what school I'd gone to. Freaked me out for a while as they refused to send me their face pics. Ended up blocking them  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"B. I chatted on here for a bit with a quite local couple, they asked me for a face pic so I sent one and they responded back with my full maiden name and what school I'd gone to. Freaked me out for a while as they refused to send me their face pics. Ended up blocking them "
That is creepy as hell! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ive had 5 cases in the past where ive recognised people from work or school and ive got in touch not saying i know them, but for 3 of them i said it was me and been all good even some online fun with them.
Even for 2 others my motto is whats on fab stays on fab. |
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I was once recognized in the till queue at Sainsbury’s.
I used to go to eureka to sunbathe a lot in the summers and all I heard was “hello _hellebelle… didn’t recognize you with your clothes on”!
The poor woman at the till didn’t know where to look! Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On a previous couples profile my partner at the time had a public facing job. She was quite distinctive looking and despite having no face pics on the profile we had several messages saying 'I saw you'.
It is creepy as fuck, do not do it.
We ended up having to hide the profile.
Max |
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I was in London around 6 weeks ago in a pub with my 30 year old daughter and unbeknown to me there was a social meet going on, when I was queuing at the bar the lady behind me started chatting as we waited, she seemed vaguely familiar. Later I was outside and she approached me and mentioned she knew me from the Heathrow socials, my daughter caught some of the conversation but I passed it off as knowing the lady from work.
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"Someone at my work is on here with no pictures, no profile pic, almost no profile text. He's messaged Char to say he'd like to meet her alone when I'm at work and he knows when I work because he works here too.
Refuses to identify himself. Weird.
(Bry)"
Arrange a Meet. When he turns up you’ll then know who he is. |
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By *mizhereMan
over a year ago
chinnor area |
It’s happened before
Looking at a profile chatted sent a pic and I realised I knew them
I dropped a note saying I know you but as we are here for the same I think it’s only fair you know me and my likes
We all met and played |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were in The Range the other week and Char clocked a guy kept checking her out. When we got home he'd messaged saying that he'd been checking out the "who's near" and looked at our pics just before he went in the store and was amazed to see us wandering around. We were a bit disappointed that he didn't say hello.
We're totally okay with being approached if anyone recognised us, so long as they had the common sense to not do it if we were with other people.
(Bry)"
This is me too, if I'm alone come and say Hi, if I'm not then I don't mind a PM. Doesn't have to mean that we'd hook up either |
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I was looking at a profile and new the tattoo it was my pals gf she was always been dirty and they was a vid of hur been shafted i mentioned it to hur as they new i was on hear and she said if i wanted to tell on hur so be it to this day i havent tho |
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I think it depends how you recognise them and how you know them. If they have loads of face pics then they're clearly not bothered about being recognised. Pop up and say hi if you're on friendly enough terms with them.
If you recognised them from a poorly blurred out tattoo or from their living room curtains because you live opposite, then they're clearly not open to being outed.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We've definitely blocked people who we've recognised but don't want to meet saves any awkwardness but we have also met people who we knew previously in real life so it is situational for us |
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By *bi HaiveMan
over a year ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
The odds on someone recognising you on here increase greatly if you have clear face photos, easily identifiable ink or live in a tiny village that you list as your location on your profile.
It's easy to avoid all of the above of course.
If you do recognise someone then put the shoe on the other foot and think how you'd want someone to react if they spotted and recognised you. If you'd like them to be respectful and maintain discretion then say nothing. If you couldn't give a shit of course that doesn't mean they won't.
Of course the chances of someone strolling into work on a Monday morning and saying "hey guess who I saw on this swingers site I'm on" are pretty slim. Likewise the same if you bump into someone in a club. But if it did happen then the only chance of you being able to deny anything or attempt to maintain some privacy is if you haven't outed yourself in your profile.
Moral of the story? Be careful what you display and also who you share personal and private info with. You don't need to share every detail of your life with others to swing.
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*oh - and my answer is B of course. |
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Definitely don’t mention it. That also applies for seeing people on fab in public in our opinion.
We did see a local couple out and about fairly recently, and have absolutely no intention of saying anything..people should have the right to go about their daily lives away from here |
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I once saw someone in Poundstretcher that I had played with the night before. He waited until my daughter wasn't looking then gave me a wink which I found sexy.
My biggest suprise was when I was having a cervical cancer operation and I recognised the anaesthetist from playing at Quest the night before. We didn't acknowledge each other. |
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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago
Norfolk East anglia |
I actually had someone mention to me in the pub last night they had seen me at the local club. 
Apparently my secret is safe with them, I said you out me you out yourself 
Plus my friends all know what I get up to anyway  |
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So much for good manners. 
