From one to another, practice and exposure. Simply push your comfort zone and get stuck amongst it. Its absolutely terrifying and you'll have some fails. The key is to think of your self Monty Pythons Black Knight and don't quit. Oh and be kind to yourself if it don't go right. My first club night was as a single. My aim was more about facing my fears in an extreme environment than getting laid. I achieved a victory in both respects. It was a great feeling of achievement. The more you expose yourself the better, slicker and more confident you become. These days I start conversations with random folk on the street, would have seemed mad a few years ago. Oh also remember you are often more aware and sensitive to your perceived social failing than the people around you. Your simply your not the social mong you think you are (in my experience). You just need a few run throughs and positive experiences to realise that.
That's not to say I'm still not stressed by social interactions. Just it's easier and I'm better at hiding it. I still throw the occasional social hand grenade but I'm OK with that, it's part of me and its no big deal. And I still have the occasional melt down in a social situation but often it's only really Mrs Misfit who realises it, apparently its not obvious.
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