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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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Hi guys,

My wife has lost all interest in sex after 20 plus years of amazing sex and swinging, I wondered if anyone else had the same experience and how they overcame it?

Over the years she has been insatiable and i've loved every second of her enjoying other men and acting out our fantasies together. These days we don't even make love ourselves and have only had sex three times in the last three years.

Love to have your advice guys

x

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By *uper SaiyanMan  over a year ago

Birmingham

It could be menopause, timings vary on the person. My FWB has gone through this, same like yourself, no more sex or interest in it. Occassionally she had a passing urge but nothing that was like before. I have heard that there is a hormone / pink pill that helps with getting the mojo back, but I have nothing to verify its varicity.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex

I'm going to assume that you've done all the talking stuff, have ruled out all other possible issues and you know definitely peri-menopause that's the problem.

Have you been to a gp? Sometimes you need to shop around to find someone who's knowledgeable in women's health.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Talk to her about it?

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"I'm going to assume that you've done all the talking stuff, have ruled out all other possible issues and you know definitely peri-menopause that's the problem.

Have you been to a gp? Sometimes you need to shop around to find someone who's knowledgeable in women's health.

Good luck"

We've just started Relate as the lack of intimacy is causing us to drift apart but she won't see a doctor about possible menopause issues. x

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"I'm going to assume that you've done all the talking stuff, have ruled out all other possible issues and you know definitely peri-menopause that's the problem.

Have you been to a gp? Sometimes you need to shop around to find someone who's knowledgeable in women's health.

Good luck

We've just started Relate as the lack of intimacy is causing us to drift apart but she won't see a doctor about possible menopause issues. x"

In my opinion you're doing the right thing. Good luck to you both I hope you find a good resolution

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By *sBlueWoman  over a year ago

Up North

It could be. Is she on any hrt?

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By *itygamesMan  over a year ago

UK

she's entitled too huh , not her fault menopause or change of mind.

Be understanding , leave her be, respect her feelings and how she feels is my advice.

i actually think the majority of women are only on here to please there husbands, single they'd choose a dating site.

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"It could be. Is she on any hrt? "

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

Could be some depression along with the menopause? Hopefully Relate will help her understand her feelings more. Good luck.

X"

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By *sBlueWoman  over a year ago

Up North


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X"

Hrt can deff help. I recommend the Balance app. Lots of info on there

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby

Following this with interest, can totally relate to it. My wife never has been overly forthcoming sexually but it was ok up to about 10/15 years ago, and since then it’s petered out to zero. Have only had sex, (not made love) three times in last 5 years, zero since last April. She won’t get intimate in any way, no touching or fondling, hardly ever kiss even. In every other way we get on fantastic, but it’s like we’re just good friends, nothing more.

She saw doctor at the beginning of it all and he prescribed some hrt or something but it made her poorly so not done anything since.

I try to talk but she doesn’t see it as a problem. I lie in bed in tears some nights as I just want to do something, anything, not necessarily make love but at least touch each other.

So, if I can find out of here something that could work I’d be a very happy bunny.

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By *arry monk40Man  over a year ago

Telford

I know what you feel welcome to my world

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X

Hrt can deff help. I recommend the Balance app. Lots of info on there"

Thanks, I’ll have a look and suggest it x

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"Following this with interest, can totally relate to it. My wife never has been overly forthcoming sexually but it was ok up to about 10/15 years ago, and since then it’s petered out to zero. Have only had sex, (not made love) three times in last 5 years, zero since last April. She won’t get intimate in any way, no touching or fondling, hardly ever kiss even. In every other way we get on fantastic, but it’s like we’re just good friends, nothing more.

She saw doctor at the beginning of it all and he prescribed some hrt or something but it made her poorly so not done anything since.

I try to talk but she doesn’t see it as a problem. I lie in bed in tears some nights as I just want to do something, anything, not necessarily make love but at least touch each other.

So, if I can find out of here something that could work I’d be a very happy bunny. "

Almost exactly the same as us in every way except my wife was sexually so adventurous previously so it’s even more of a change now.

I know what you mean about sex not making love as well. That’s exactly what we’ve done the three times we have done something the last three years.

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By *stwo80Couple  over a year ago

yorkshire

Following

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By *esparate danMan  over a year ago

glasgow

Do you think she takes you seriously

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

Hrt doesn’t just help libido, it is important for brain/heart and bone health.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"she's entitled too huh , not her fault menopause or change of mind.

Be understanding , leave her be, respect her feelings and how she feels is my advice.

i actually think the majority of women are only on here to please there husbands, single they'd choose a dating site."

God no, it’s far better on here than dating sites

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"Hrt doesn’t just help libido, it is important for brain/heart and bone health. "

Ahhh i see x

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby


"Do you think she takes you seriously "

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is. "

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua."

We do occasionally hold hands yes, if on a walk, or sitting on the sofa maybe. Nothing in bed, is that because she thinks it might lead to something, I don’t know.

I understand that the menopause is very difficult for some ladies, can lead to depression and anxiety, so I’m not decrying it in any way. But my wife isn’t depressed or anxious. Away from our intimacy we are happier than ever, which makes it all the more upsetting for me.

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua."

I think she may but it never happens as we’ve built an invisible barrier that seems to stop us doing even something as simple as holding hands

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

We do occasionally hold hands yes, if on a walk, or sitting on the sofa maybe. Nothing in bed, is that because she thinks it might lead to something, I don’t know.

I understand that the menopause is very difficult for some ladies, can lead to depression and anxiety, so I’m not decrying it in any way. But my wife isn’t depressed or anxious. Away from our intimacy we are happier than ever, which makes it all the more upsetting for me. "

I can see how difficult that must be. It's only a suggestion as I don't know you or her but would you feel able to say to her that you'd like to just hold her in bed, nothing more just that important sensation of being close to a loved one?

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

I think she may but it never happens as we’ve built an invisible barrier that seems to stop us doing even something as simple as holding hands "

Sorry to hear that.

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By *ellinever70Woman  over a year ago

Ayrshire


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X"

Perhaps you could try talking to someone to help you accept the change...that would be supportive

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

We do occasionally hold hands yes, if on a walk, or sitting on the sofa maybe. Nothing in bed, is that because she thinks it might lead to something, I don’t know.

I understand that the menopause is very difficult for some ladies, can lead to depression and anxiety, so I’m not decrying it in any way. But my wife isn’t depressed or anxious. Away from our intimacy we are happier than ever, which makes it all the more upsetting for me.

I can see how difficult that must be. It's only a suggestion as I don't know you or her but would you feel able to say to her that you'd like to just hold her in bed, nothing more just that important sensation of being close to a loved one?"

Well I have tried before but it’s always very short lived, as soon as she knows that I’m aroused it tends to put her off. However, maybe it could be worth a try again. Thank you

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By *icecouple561Couple  over a year ago
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East Sussex


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

We do occasionally hold hands yes, if on a walk, or sitting on the sofa maybe. Nothing in bed, is that because she thinks it might lead to something, I don’t know.

I understand that the menopause is very difficult for some ladies, can lead to depression and anxiety, so I’m not decrying it in any way. But my wife isn’t depressed or anxious. Away from our intimacy we are happier than ever, which makes it all the more upsetting for me.

I can see how difficult that must be. It's only a suggestion as I don't know you or her but would you feel able to say to her that you'd like to just hold her in bed, nothing more just that important sensation of being close to a loved one?

Well I have tried before but it’s always very short lived, as soon as she knows that I’m aroused it tends to put her off. However, maybe it could be worth a try again. Thank you "

How about if you make it clear that you won't act on your arousal? You just want to enjoy feeling close to her.

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby


"Do you think she takes you seriously

My wife doesn’t, she doesn’t see it as an issue. Why do we need to do anything like that. As I’ve said, it’s not just the actual penetrative sex, it’s all forms of intimacy, even stroking her boobs. I truly cannot remember the last time we kissed.

I don’t think unless you’re in a similar situation you can grasp how upsetting and depressing it is.

Does she enjoy non sexual touching? By that I mean a cuddle or hand holding that she knows won't lead to anything sexua.

We do occasionally hold hands yes, if on a walk, or sitting on the sofa maybe. Nothing in bed, is that because she thinks it might lead to something, I don’t know.

I understand that the menopause is very difficult for some ladies, can lead to depression and anxiety, so I’m not decrying it in any way. But my wife isn’t depressed or anxious. Away from our intimacy we are happier than ever, which makes it all the more upsetting for me.

I can see how difficult that must be. It's only a suggestion as I don't know you or her but would you feel able to say to her that you'd like to just hold her in bed, nothing more just that important sensation of being close to a loved one?

Well I have tried before but it’s always very short lived, as soon as she knows that I’m aroused it tends to put her off. However, maybe it could be worth a try again. Thank you

How about if you make it clear that you won't act on your arousal? You just want to enjoy feeling close to her."

Oh I have done, frequently, but it falls on deaf ears. I can’t help getting aroused though.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago

maybe its not sexual at all ? maybe its just something else

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By *exy n up 4 itCouple  over a year ago

western isles


"Hi guys,

My wife has lost all interest in sex after 20 plus years of amazing sex and swinging, I wondered if anyone else had the same experience and how they overcame it?

Over the years she has been insatiable and i've loved every second of her enjoying other men and acting out our fantasies together. These days we don't even make love ourselves and have only had sex three times in the last three years.

Love to have your advice guys

x

"

Very similar to us in many Ways, although I don’t think it’s menopause, it started when we got pregnant, went through some tough times but over the last 6/7 years sex between us has dwindled down to once or twice a year if I’m lucky!

We have talked about it at length but she is just not interested anymore?

I would give anything to be that swinging couple we once were again, miss it so much.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X"

Arguing about what?

Maybe she feels worthless and just a piece of sex meat.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hi guys,

My wife has lost all interest in sex after 20 plus years of amazing sex and swinging, I wondered if anyone else had the same experience and how they overcame it?

Over the years she has been insatiable and i've loved every second of her enjoying other men and acting out our fantasies together. These days we don't even make love ourselves and have only had sex three times in the last three years.

Love to have your advice guys

x

Very similar to us in many Ways, although I don’t think it’s menopause, it started when we got pregnant, went through some tough times but over the last 6/7 years sex between us has dwindled down to once or twice a year if I’m lucky!

We have talked about it at length but she is just not interested anymore?

I would give anything to be that swinging couple we once were again, miss it so much."

Is she aware that you still have a profile with her pics on it?

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


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i actually think the majority of women are only on here to please there husbands, single they'd choose a dating site."

What on earth do you base that on out of interest?

Viv

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By *ocktoplaywithMan  over a year ago

Derby


"maybe its not sexual at all ? maybe its just something else "

Ten years ago I would have thought so, times were hard financially, but we got through that and are better off than have ever been. We’re very happy, apart from this part of our lives, which is really getting me down.

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By *lirtypairCouple  over a year ago

Nottingham

My Mrs was the same, completely off sex and intimacy.

HRT definitely helped, but so did her wanting to feel sexual and desired again. You have to work at this as a couple.

Happy to say she is now hornier than she was before menopause

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By *ozapperMan  over a year ago

Lancashire

OP I feel your pain, take it easy with her as she will be totally confused herself I guess.

My wife had and still does have additional symptoms of being completely dry making any form of penetrative sex painfun and pain is something I don't want to apply to someone I love so much. We tried everything but no success. We had a long chat some 8 years ago when the change appeared and was irreversible and decided that pbysical sex itself isn't really important in the grand scheme of things but being close and loving is and that is how we are.

Yes, get urges and get aroused but try not to make her feel pressured about doing something about it, don't be embarrased, indulge in a wank if you want however you want but concentrate more on ending it with a cuddle and a hug.

Put yourself in her place, life, emotions and thoughts all mixed up and making her feel bad - it's not just you that is suffering.

Talk about it and you'll reaolve the situation, probably never returning to your old situation as that has gone, probably forever but don't dwell on it.

Discover the inner depths of your relationship and explore those feelings and emotions deeper than you ever have as they will never go away if you love each other enough.

Best of luck.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"Hi guys,

My wife has lost all interest in sex after 20 plus years of amazing sex and swinging, I wondered if anyone else had the same experience and how they overcame it?

Over the years she has been insatiable and i've loved every second of her enjoying other men and acting out our fantasies together. These days we don't even make love ourselves and have only had sex three times in the last three years.

Love to have your advice guys

x

"

1 word

empathy

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By *astyfella999Man  over a year ago

newcastle

Well my wife at the age of 62 lost all interest in sex

She said. That she didn’t feel like sex I tryed all things she just kept saying I’m to old to be having sex now at the age of 66 Iv given up and keep trying my luck on here

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

a place


"Hi guys,

My wife has lost all interest in sex after 20 plus years of amazing sex and swinging, I wondered if anyone else had the same experience and how they overcame it?

Over the years she has been insatiable and i've loved every second of her enjoying other men and acting out our fantasies together. These days we don't even make love ourselves and have only had sex three times in the last three years.

Love to have your advice guys

x

Very similar to us in many Ways, although I don’t think it’s menopause, it started when we got pregnant, went through some tough times but over the last 6/7 years sex between us has dwindled down to once or twice a year if I’m lucky!

We have talked about it at length but she is just not interested anymore?

I would give anything to be that swinging couple we once were again, miss it so much.

Is she aware that you still have a profile with her pics on it? "

She is indeed as we have nothing to hide. I also hope that reading some stories may get her thinking about it a little as well.

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

a place


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X

Arguing about what?

Maybe she feels worthless and just a piece of sex meat. "

She always took the lead when it came to meets and who we met. As you'll see from the verifications it was mainly single men we met. If she felt like that surely she wouldnt have been meeting guys?

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By *AABMan  over a year ago

Not far

Totally emphasise with a number of posts on this thread. My wife lost all interest in sex 15 years ago. I think we may have had sex maybe five times in those years. One or two here have mentioned seeing a GP, but through experience regarding other unrelated health issues we have no faith whatsoever in the NHS. It’s a system that is only interested if your problem is simple; your physical health is at risk; is easily diagnosed by a blood test; or they have some medication that can put you on. But that’s by the by. Suffice to say we know that trying to see a health professional in Wales is pointless. Our relationship is loving at its core and we are good friends, but she refuses any intimacy, including kissing as “that might turn me on which is unfair on me”. And yes, after 15 years of course we have talked about the situation. I’ve long given up on any hope of a sexual intimate relationship between us and so I’m on Fab. Of course to many women here, being a man it must be all my fault, and therefore I’m just a cheating scumbag, and to others I should just be grateful I’m married whilst they themselves enjoy a wonderful fulfilling sex life. Anyway it’s a sunny day, and I’ve got a bike bike ride planned.

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By (user no longer on site)  over a year ago


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X

Arguing about what?

Maybe she feels worthless and just a piece of sex meat.

She always took the lead when it came to meets and who we met. As you'll see from the verifications it was mainly single men we met. If she felt like that surely she wouldnt have been meeting guys?

"

I mean her current feelings.

Perhaps you were more attentive when she was fucking around. Now you're trying to get her to fuck around again.

Maybe she doesn't want to.

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By *elkieWoman  over a year ago

Durham

Ok. So.

Menopause is fucking grim. Weird body hair, weight gain, headaches, sweat, hot flushes, dry vagina, almost constant heavy periods. It’s really hard to feel sexy. It’s about a million times worse than just after childbirth, if you have kids you’ll remember how bad that was.

I’m incredibly lucky. I have a new partner who makes me feel like the sexiest woman in the world, and his affection and attentiveness is helping a lot. In particular, it helps that we’ve never stopped cuddling, and never tied it to sex. I do wonder if in the past you might have taken her for granted a little bit? Relate are great at picking up on this and working through it if so.

And the past is never coming back. Sorry. Build something new and better.

If you could show her this, that would be great? Please go and see your GP - a lot of my friends have the same vitamin and mineral deficiencies, and we all felt a lot better once we started supplementing. There are a lot of options to help you feel better

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman  over a year ago

evesham


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X"

Why should she change the situation? Why is her worth to you based solely on having sex with you?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman  over a year ago

evesham


"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

X

Arguing about what?

Maybe she feels worthless and just a piece of sex meat.

She always took the lead when it came to meets and who we met. As you'll see from the verifications it was mainly single men we met. If she felt like that surely she wouldnt have been meeting guys?

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Feekings change. Just because she used to be like that doesn't mean she can't change her attitude towards it.

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"It could be. Is she on any hrt?

No she’s not been to see the Dr despite us talking (and arguing) about it.

Just seems to to be drifting along and not looking to change the situation.

I’m hoping to get back the way things were between us

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Arguing about what?

Maybe she feels worthless and just a piece of sex meat.

She always took the lead when it came to meets and who we met. As you'll see from the verifications it was mainly single men we met. If she felt like that surely she wouldnt have been meeting guys?

I mean her current feelings.

Perhaps you were more attentive when she was fucking around. Now you're trying to get her to fuck around again.

Maybe she doesn't want to.

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Not trying to get her to swing at all these days.

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By *aughtycple50 OP   Couple  over a year ago

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"Ok. So.

Menopause is fucking grim. Weird body hair, weight gain, headaches, sweat, hot flushes, dry vagina, almost constant heavy periods. It’s really hard to feel sexy. It’s about a million times worse than just after childbirth, if you have kids you’ll remember how bad that was.

I’m incredibly lucky. I have a new partner who makes me feel like the sexiest woman in the world, and his affection and attentiveness is helping a lot. In particular, it helps that we’ve never stopped cuddling, and never tied it to sex. I do wonder if in the past you might have taken her for granted a little bit? Relate are great at picking up on this and working through it if so.

And the past is never coming back. Sorry. Build something new and better.

If you could show her this, that would be great? Please go and see your GP - a lot of my friends have the same vitamin and mineral deficiencies, and we all felt a lot better once we started supplementing. There are a lot of options to help you feel better"

This is brilliant feedback and advice, thank you x

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By *rluckyknightMan  over a year ago

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Had the same problem she gave up rampant sex at 50 solution get it elsewhere that's why there's so many guys looking for any form of sex god bless the women that still fuck till the end

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By *100Man  over a year ago

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Nice to read I’m not the only one being dragged through the menopause keep up the understanding guys I’m sure there’s light at the end of the tunnel and a good hours wank at the end the day keeps me sane

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