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What am I doing wrong?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Evening ladies and Gents,
This site is becoming very should destroying lol I seem to read women's profile and send a message ticking all the boxes but still am having no luck, what am I doing wrong? |
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Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here
But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet
Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here
But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet
Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum"
I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging |
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"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?
He took it off 
Lol I saw how stupid it looked"
It really didn't match what your profile seems to say. Unless you are an idiot that has amended it after asking for profile advice before? |
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"I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging "
A social is not a scary thing, try ours https://www.fabswingers.com/profile/the_secret_tea_party
Next one will be the summer one  |
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"Sadly it's just the sheer number of guys compare to women & couples means most guys will find themselves disappointed on here
But you've got a decent profile, bio & photos I think it's just timings, lots of people haven't started meeting again after Covid & to be honest even pre Covid a year plus was not uncommon for single guys to get their first meet
Have you tried clubs or social events, there's a west London social being advertised at the moment in the London Forum
I dont think I'm confident or comfortable enough to go to one right now, im just trying to get into swinging "
Then maybe swinging & this site isn't for you at the moment & FAB is definitely a confidence basher for single guys & a social is just that, a drink in a pub with like minded people, definitely nothing to worry about & a great way of meeting local people |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Didn't see status update. Looks good to me. What do you say in messages?
He took it off
Lol I saw how stupid it looked
It really didn't match what your profile seems to say. Unless you are an idiot that has amended it after asking for profile advice before? "
To be honest it was just in that moment I actually did feel like that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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it does not matter how many boxes you think you ticked it means nothing unless there some sort of attraction ..
but you main problem is your a guy and there are zillions of you with loads more joining every day
some say 100 men to 1 woman on this site some say more so that means alot of guys wont get anywhere no matter how much they try ... id hate to be a single guy on here in fact i dont think id be on here as id just stick to clubs if i was a guy |
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"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs
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If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.
This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand. |
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"If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.
This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand. "
He's cute though isn't he  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You didn't answer my question?? What do you say in messages you send "
It was a greeting like morning, afternoon ect, asked how there day is going, them I said things that showed I read their profile |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs
Are you only here for sex?"
I'm on here to learn more about the lifestyle and meet people |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have the same issue. And the few responses I do get are all “no Asians” “not my type”. As people have mentioned, lots of men on here get disappointed, every woman has about a thousand messages in her inbox. The advice I’ve been given is to make myself a well-known, friendly face at events (going with others will help too). |
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"You didn't answer my question?? What do you say in messages you send
It was a greeting like morning, afternoon ect, asked how there day is going, them I said things that showed I read their profile"
That's reasonable, but nothing out of the ordinary. Remembering that women get lots more messages than men.
You seem like a decent guy, I'm usually quite anti advice threads. You can message me if you want, purely for research |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Thanks for all the support and advice guys, I guess I'm gonna have to suck it up and go to the clubs
If you can go to a pub, you can go to a club but you must understand that you are guaranteed nothing.
This is swinging, not a means to getting your cock wet and men who understand that are in great demand. "
I'm not about meaningless sex, I like to have a connection, sex with passion is better than anything else and I am always happy to have a social or two to make sure we are comfortable and feel safe |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have the same issue. And the few responses I do get are all “no Asians” “not my type”. As people have mentioned, lots of men on here get disappointed, every woman has about a thousand messages in her inbox. The advice I’ve been given is to make myself a well-known, friendly face at events (going with others will help too)."
Yeah to be fair I do see that no Asian thing alot |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It's already been said but your profile is pretty good.
There's just too many men on here so there's so much competition. "
Damn all the other men lol |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
You seem a nice guy , I think you just need to have a better plan and take control, it’s not tinder , people aren’t just queuing up for random sex
But even doing it badly you will likely get lucky from time to time though you have age and good looks on your side  |
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