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By *elkie OP Woman
over a year ago
Durham |
Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. |
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"Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. "
We don't know each other, but i hope this describes me at the places I go to. Really nice to hear some positive vibes forvthe decent single guys.  |
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From our experience we were actually surprised at how well behaved the majority of club going men are after hearing some of the horror stories.
Though unfortunately there's always at least one that's a dick head and that's all you need to ruin the night. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve been going to clubs for about 4 years and only ever had one bad experience. The single men in the clubs we’ve been to have always been great and respectful. |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
huddersfield/manchester |
Good to hear experiences of single guys at clubs aren't always negative!
It's not easy for us, but that doesn't excuse bad behaviour or rudeness.
Thank you from the single guys to the ladies and couples who make it easier for us single guys....those ladies and couples without attitude, who smile, chat and politely make it clear what they are interested in or not! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’ve only had one time where a single guy crossed the line, and to be fair the other guys in the room dealt with it, including escorting the guy out of the room and then getting staff to eject and ban the guy (as opposed to Fire getting in trouble dealing with it). Most of our play is with single guys in club so again thank you to all of them for being so polite, respectful, friendly and fun.
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For us, any single guys approaching us should do so expecting nothing, the chance to say hello and see if we’d like to chat.
In exactly the same way that we as a couple would approach people. Zero sense of entitlement but an interest to find out more about people.
If we then want to chat more or even possibly choose to play don’t expect that this is an invitation to spend every minute with us.
Having confidence and being able to communicate well is a very sexy trait. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For us, any single guys approaching us should do so expecting nothing, the chance to say hello and see if we’d like to chat.
In exactly the same way that we as a couple would approach people. Zero sense of entitlement but an interest to find out more about people.
If we then want to chat more or even possibly choose to play don’t expect that this is an invitation to spend every minute with us.
Having confidence and being able to communicate well is a very sexy trait. "
Definitely this  |
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"Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. "
Those are lovely words! Nice to see some positive vibes and know there is chatty single men out there!!! |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
I have always said there are some decent single guys in clubs, and there are some poor ones.
The same as couples and single females
Single guys need to stick to rules. Yesterday a guy didn’t even say thank you or may I, he just joined in without even talking to the couple. Now a simple may I, would have gone a long way |
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"Good to hear experiences of single guys at clubs aren't always negative!
It's not easy for us, but that doesn't excuse bad behaviour or rudeness.
Thank you from the single guys to the ladies and couples who make it easier for us single guys....those ladies and couples without attitude, who smile, chat and politely make it clear what they are interested in or not!"
Well said! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. "
Awe that's lovely... Not enough love for the menfolk on here .. |
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"Totally agree, the vast majority of single guys are lovely, wish a few more would have the courage to talk and chat though!"
DC is a brilliant night! You'll have an awesome time! Dan and Nix who organise it have an online social group too (not sure if you knew). It's going to be a great one! |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
huddersfield/manchester |
"For us, any single guys approaching us should do so expecting nothing, the chance to say hello and see if we’d like to chat.
In exactly the same way that we as a couple would approach people. Zero sense of entitlement but an interest to find out more about people.
If we then want to chat more or even possibly choose to play don’t expect that this is an invitation to spend every minute with us.
Having confidence and being able to communicate well is a very sexy trait. "
Good advice thank you. Probably key is confidence to make the initial contact, intelligence to know/ understand where the conversation/situation is going. All made so much easier by receptive couples who voice their interests clearly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is such a nice positive thread. I’ve been curious about attending one for the first time and this post is making me more confident about going. You all sound so friendly and welcoming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been really anxious about attending clubs..I’m shy 
But so far the single males have been lovely & nothing like the horror stories that I’ve read about
Love you single males |
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Great post. I’ve never been to a club only to parties but I have to say the single guys I’ve met there have all been fabulously respectful and made my experiences positive.
Thank you lads, we appreciate that xx |
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By *elkie OP Woman
over a year ago
Durham |
"I am good… always on cuddle and sean the social worker duties!!!!
I am like Switzerland… neutral territory for everyone!!!!  "
Aye. I’ve never met you, but heard so many good things about you |
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We went to our very first greedy girls night at a club and it’s was lovely all the gents /men we meet where very respectful and friendly , and we got to play together and with a few single males .
I think a smile made a lot of difference , I would alway smile back and that how a conversation can start .
Hotwife x |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
huddersfield/manchester |
"We went to our very first greedy girls night at a club and it’s was lovely all the gents /men we meet where very respectful and friendly , and we got to play together and with a few single males .
I think a smile made a lot of difference , I would alway smile back and that how a conversation can start .
Hotwife x "
More good advice. Mental note to smile more on my next club visit. (Hopefully Partners on 2nd April!) Hopefully won't look like a creepy smile though lol.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. "
Thank you to the men who let me join their crowd and watch the people fucking. They let me get to the front because I'm short. Real gentlemen, lovely blokes.  |
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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago
huddersfield/manchester |
"We went to our very first greedy girls night at a club and it’s was lovely all the gents /men we meet where very respectful and friendly , and we got to play together and with a few single males .
I think a smile made a lot of difference , I would alway smile back and that how a conversation can start .
Hotwife x
More good advice. Mental note to smile more on my next club visit. (Hopefully Partners on 2nd April!) Hopefully won't look like a creepy smile though lol. "
Just noticed private event at Partners...will have to choose another club to smile at! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What’s a lovely post, so thank you right back for speaking out for us single males.
It’s quite difficult sometimes, as Iv said before to know or appreciate what others maybe looking for.
I prefer to just chat to couples / single females and even males. And IF something progresses with couple / females then as long as everyone’s willing, that’s great. IF not, it’s no problem. I enjoy a chat and sometimes not. -just relax and unwind!
But there are females that quite like the seductive approach, no talking, simply stroke of the thigh and IF a smile appears and no head shake, or “no thanks” then it’s an invitation to progress. But I’d still approach with caution. stroke the ladies arm, maybe a gentle kiss on the neck? Way before placing hands anywhere intimate! and that’s the thing, some prefer this, some not so!
What’s ever the case, it’s about mutual respect and appreciation that we’re not all the same and on occasions we don’t all wish to play. Maybe it’s just being in the environment, or meeting someone for a natter. for me clubs are the better way in which to enjoy this wonderful world of FAB  |
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By *elkie OP Woman
over a year ago
Durham |
"What’s a lovely post, so thank you right back for speaking out for us single males.
It’s quite difficult sometimes, as Iv said before to know or appreciate what others maybe looking for.
I prefer to just chat to couples / single females and even males. And IF something progresses with couple / females then as long as everyone’s willing, that’s great. IF not, it’s no problem. I enjoy a chat and sometimes not. -just relax and unwind!
But there are females that quite like the seductive approach, no talking, simply stroke of the thigh and IF a smile appears and no head shake, or “no thanks” then it’s an invitation to progress. But I’d still approach with caution. stroke the ladies arm, maybe a gentle kiss on the neck? Way before placing hands anywhere intimate! and that’s the thing, some prefer this, some not so!
What’s ever the case, it’s about mutual respect and appreciation that we’re not all the same and on occasions we don’t all wish to play. Maybe it’s just being in the environment, or meeting someone for a natter. for me clubs are the better way in which to enjoy this wonderful world of FAB "
Um. Each to their own here, I guess? The kind of blokes I was talking about choose to protect themselves by asking for verbal consent because they think it’s important, even if it gets them less play.
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"What’s a lovely post, so thank you right back for speaking out for us single males.
It’s quite difficult sometimes, as Iv said before to know or appreciate what others maybe looking for.
I prefer to just chat to couples / single females and even males. And IF something progresses with couple / females then as long as everyone’s willing, that’s great. IF not, it’s no problem. I enjoy a chat and sometimes not. -just relax and unwind!
But there are females that quite like the seductive approach, no talking, simply stroke of the thigh and IF a smile appears and no head shake, or “no thanks” then it’s an invitation to progress. But I’d still approach with caution. stroke the ladies arm, maybe a gentle kiss on the neck? Way before placing hands anywhere intimate! and that’s the thing, some prefer this, some not so!
What’s ever the case, it’s about mutual respect and appreciation that we’re not all the same and on occasions we don’t all wish to play. Maybe it’s just being in the environment, or meeting someone for a natter. for me clubs are the better way in which to enjoy this wonderful world of FAB "
We'd advise that it's probably best that you guys avoid that "no talking" approach. Swinging clubs are social places and that sort of thing is unlikely to go down well. |
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By *JohnMan
over a year ago
Newcastle upon Tyne |
Umm. A kiss on the neck IS intimate to some. I would not attempt that unless I already knew it would be welcome.
I don't know about every club in the country. My regular has an explicit "don't touch without asking" rule. Unwelcome touching, even if it's not what you might think of as "intimate", can kill a mood and end play. I've seen it happen too many times.
So how do you find out what sort of approach a person likes? You talk with them. Then if that went well, when you see them later you can try it out. |
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It is so nice and humbling to see a positive post about us single guys. So may I take this opportunity to say a reciprocal thank-you to all couples and females who, like myself, enjoy socialising and the art of conversation, and generally making our lives easier at clubs!!
I always seem to bump into old friends and make new ones, whichever club I go to. So, a big thanks to you all! |
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"Thankyou.
To the ones who always greet me with a smile even though we’ve never played.
Who find time to chat though they don’t do fat lasses.
To the ones who tell me I look nice.
Especially, to the men who make room for me to watch other people playing whilst I’m getting ready to join in. And the ones who watch my back.
And, obviously, the ones with a permanent twinkle in their eyes.
Thankyou. Gentlemen like you make swinging so much more fun. "
Thank you gorgeous for such refreshing and fully heartened post. You surely have my smile . |
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