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Total complete and utter loss of sex drive
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"It's gone, vanished.
I've looked under the sofa and behind the dresser can't find it anywhere.
I don't feel like a real man anymore
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Having a sex drive doesn't define you as a man, your probably sitting worrying about it all the time which could male it worse, have you had a bad time of it lately as in being stressed, health issues, etc...medication you might be on?. My advice would be to not to think about it and to not put so much pressure on yourself..that defiantly will have an undesired effect. Talk to your doctor to. Good luck...
Oh ps...have you checked in the fridge? Seems to be a great place people like to put random things lol. |
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By *w_cuckCouple
over a year ago
Cambridgeshire |
I am the same it started happening about 2 years ago and I'm now at the point where mine has completely gone.
I am on tablets following a mild stroke and not sure if that is the reason, I am eating well and excercise so not sure why its happening. I am going to the doctors next week to start a discussion with them. But I have found that I get some pleasure from being a cuckold husband so maybe try that. |
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What is your diet like? Do you eat healthy? Home cooked meals or take aways? Try changing your diet, if it is not as healthy as you would like. Give it 2 weeks to notice a difference.
As men, once we hit a certain age, our minds say yes but our body says, time out sometimes. Medication could also be a problem, if taking any.
Hope this may help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Great advice.
The impact of diet on hormone production, energy levels and well being is incredible.
Getting a solid 6-8 hours sleep a night also works wonders! |
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We've certainly been having less sex since covid started 2 years ago. I do think the stress and isolation of lockdown and all the restrictions has taken a long lasting toll, even tho we're mostly back to normal now.
I can't even remember the last time I felt genuinely happy and horny. |
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There are many things that can cause fluctuations in sex drive. For us one major factor was both of us working from home all the time. We try and each spend a few days in the office to give some space. |
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Mine is enormously influenced by my state of mind... If I'm not in the right place it ain't going to happen. When I am turned on its like a switch... And I can go on for a very long time...
It's weird... and the worst thing is probably worrying about it wondering what your going to be like today.
I do have a couples profile with a lady that as an amazing ability to turn me on , more than any one I've ever met... And I cant really figure out why ...
It's all very confusing ...I haven't looked but is there a xyxpxo therapy podcast for this sort of thing ... xypxo therapy is a very powerful tool in my experience...just a thought ...
H |
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"Mine is enormously influenced by my state of mind... If I'm not in the right place it ain't going to happen. When I am turned on its like a switch... And I can go on for a very long time...
It's weird... and the worst thing is probably worrying about it wondering what your going to be like today.
I do have a couples profile with a lady that as an amazing ability to turn me on , more than any one I've ever met... And I cant really figure out why ...
It's all very confusing ...I haven't looked but is there a xyxpxo therapy podcast for this sort of thing ... xypxo therapy is a very powerful tool in my experience...just a thought ...
H"
I forgot I was on my couples profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)"
Forgot to ask, you can do this at your GP, it's just normal bloodwork. |
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"I am the same it started happening about 2 years ago and I'm now at the point where mine has completely gone.
I am on tablets following a mild stroke and not sure if that is the reason, I am eating well and excercise so not sure why its happening. I am going to the doctors next week to start a discussion with them. But I have found that I get some pleasure from being a cuckold husband so maybe try that."
She put you on tablets because you gently teased your cock? That seems a little harsh |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mine started about 2 years ago too and some ED at same time. I had all my bloods done and came back fine from the doctors.
Thankfully I’m recently coming out of my issues and put it down to lockdown, bit if work stress. I’m also doing a lot more in the gym and fitness wise and think that has really helped.
Talking about it can help too. |
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Thanks for your replies everyone.
It's a bit of a minefield for me tbh.
I eat healthy and exercise as I'm diabetic but the meds for this plus have high blood pressure and depression counteract the effects of healthier lifestyle.
Main issues started since being very sick with covid back in 2020 and losing my mother at same time.
So all in all bit of a car crash.
I have been trying I have a loving and supportive wife who have s beautiful who I love to bits.
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"Thanks for your replies everyone.
It's a bit of a minefield for me tbh.
I eat healthy and exercise as I'm diabetic but the meds for this plus have high blood pressure and depression counteract the effects of healthier lifestyle.
Main issues started since being very sick with covid back in 2020 and losing my mother at same time.
So all in all bit of a car crash.
I have been trying I have a loving and supportive wife who have s beautiful who I love to bits.
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The issues could be stress related or possible depression which you may not actually realise you have.
You also mention diabetes, have you had your bloods checked recently as high blood glucose can cause all kinds of issues.
Hope you get sorted OP x |
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Fab made it happen maybe
Regular user on it non stop meets galore bla bla bla ....its burnt you.out ...taken the excitement away etc etc etc
Bit.like going same restaurant everynight or watching same porn movie everynight ....you.lose interest
Itll come back though. |
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"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)"
It naturally dips with age so as above go get it checked mate and you might end up on Testosterone replacement therapy. I am on it and it’s brilliant.
In America offering men hormonal support is catching up with the support offered to women going through the menopause. |
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago
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"We've certainly been having less sex since covid started 2 years ago. I do think the stress and isolation of lockdown and all the restrictions has taken a long lasting toll, even tho we're mostly back to normal now.
I can't even remember the last time I felt genuinely happy and horny. "
This is us but we have put it down to our son moving back home from abroad literally at the start of the first lockdown. It is difficult to get in the mood with our 25 year old constantly around. |
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By *urse234Woman
over a year ago
somewhere in Essex |
"Get your test level done
I get replacement from doctors as i lost all interest
Its not nice
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I know why mine has gone, its stress from a break up. But hopefully she will return with the right person. |
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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago
Shrewsbury |
Thank you OP for sharing and opening up the floor for others.
I am exactly the same, hence why I came back on here to hopefully meet someone who will I will want so much that I can't stop sexing with them  or at least get the urge to DIY.
Best of luck for everyone's mojo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You are completely normal OP!
No one is 100% horny all the time.
It seemed like everyone was going crazy back in the summer on here, I kept reading status’s about the heat giving everyone the horn! There might be something in that!
Maybe try other things to help you relax that feel just as good - like a deep tissue or sports massage. And some sun on your face x |
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"Thanks for your replies everyone.
It's a bit of a minefield for me tbh.
I eat healthy and exercise as I'm diabetic but the meds for this plus have high blood pressure and depression counteract the effects of healthier lifestyle.
Main issues started since being very sick with covid back in 2020 and losing my mother at same time.
So all in all bit of a car crash.
I have been trying I have a loving and supportive wife who have s beautiful who I love to bits.
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Sorry to hear about your health problems and your loss. Please allow yourself the time you need to heal! You are allowed it, please don't underestimate how long grieving can take. Sadly sex drive is the cherry on top, the body will gleefully jettison it to redirect the energy to things more pressing or vital.
I understand why you feel a loss of identity, when sexual expression has played such a central part in your life (I am an avid voyeur and recognise your username, I have seen some of your activity over the years on this site and another). Your sex drive will come back in time, I'm pretty sure of it. Everything and everyone changes though, so concentrate on how you feel/are right now, not on how you used to be - and certainly not on how you think you should be! Glad to hear your partner is standing with you   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)"
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)
It naturally dips with age so as above go get it checked mate and you might end up on Testosterone replacement therapy. I am on it and it’s brilliant.
In America offering men hormonal support is catching up with the support offered to women going through the menopause. "
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I had same issues until i tried food supplement called volume500.
Which has helped massively.
It seems hard to find now we left EU as i believe its made by a company in spain.
I get it monthly from onbuy.
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)
Forgot to ask, you can do this at your GP, it's just normal bloodwork."
Only helpful if you knew what it was before , normal levels are very different for everyone.
When I hit 40 I made big changes in life and health and used to test T every month and it could range from 17 - 39 depending on how much sex I was getting  |
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"I had same issues until i tried food supplement called volume500.
Which has helped massively.
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The name of the product sounds promising.
I have always held that the fairest way to measure genital size is by displacement of water in a measuring cylinder and half a litre sounds a good target to achieve!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would say, if you can check your testosterone production, it plays a major part in sex drive (for both men and women, though men usually have it 10x as high)
Forgot to ask, you can do this at your GP, it's just normal bloodwork.
Only helpful if you knew what it was before , normal levels are very different for everyone.
When I hit 40 I made big changes in life and health and used to test T every month and it could range from 17 - 39 depending on how much sex I was getting "
Still, if your levels are very low and you currently experience a total lack of sex drive you could discuss hormone replacement therapy. |
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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago
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I hope you find it some day. I feel the same now too and have done so for few years, mine goes up and down and I know why, the main reason is cos I am dieting on low calories and training hard to have my 6pack  |
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"It's gone, vanished.
I've looked under the sofa and behind the dresser can't find it anywhere.
I don't feel like a real man anymore
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Lack of sleep ?, a string of FAB meet letdowns ? (been there). Not enough loving, tactile affection from your play partner ? (cold touching, rough wanking, poor oral without any feeling, empty kisses, play that's over far to soon etc). Men need loving, tactile affection too, need to feel desired and loved. |
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