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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Hey guys, so im relatively new to all this and honestly its a bit daunting. Need your help with a couple of things.

1 - club/meets/social. Im interested in attending a club but as a single guy im actually extremely nervous about the sort of reception id get. Ive read club reviews for a few clubs in the East and West midlands and it seems the scene is dominated by couples and women (could be wrong), any advice for a single guy like me? Got eyes on Jaydees, Liberty or Penthouse.

2 - profile and messaging. When it comes to messaging I aint into posting or sending dick pics (thousands out there already so why do it? Plus its rude) but does my profile need work? I feel ive put some work into it but do i need more pics or even more about myself?

If youve made it this far thanks for reading this short essay lol. Any feedback is welcome good or bad or indifferent.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Hello and welcome. A nice friendly profile and pics. Maybe add a couple of clothed ones for variety ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Much appreciated, no idea why the idea of clothed pics never came to mind.

Thank you

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By *instonandLadyAstorCouple over a year ago

Not where we seem to be...

"Hey guys, so im relatively new to all this and honestly its a bit daunting. Need your help with a couple of things.

If youve made it this far thanks for reading this short essay lol. Any feedback is welcome good or bad or indifferent."

Clubs, based on my experience...

Found one I liked the look of.

Sent them many questions, satisfied my own anxieties and uncertainty and rocked up.

Made to feel welcome, shown around, told the rules and introduced to a few people.

I wasn't the only single chap, didn't feel out of place or unwelcome.

Had a cracking evening.

Hope that helps.

Winston

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Cheers buddy, thank you for the feedback on the clubs front. Will continue doing research into Jaydees, Liberty and Penthouse.

Thanks

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By *inksAPlentyCouple over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Cheers buddy, thank you for the feedback on the clubs front. Will continue doing research into Jaydees, Liberty and Penthouse.

Thanks"

Never been to Libs but have been to JayDees and Penthouse. They are both very friendly clubs and you will be made to feel welcome.

You need to book in advance so don't just turn up. Tell them you are new when you arrive and you'll be given a tour.

We love both Penthouse and JayDees. Penthouse has more of a nightclub feel, has a great cinema room but no hot tub yet (I believe there are plans), it also has a bar. JayDees is bring your own drinks and has a big hot tub. Both have a mix of open and private play rooms.

Ms x

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By *iss DevilWoman over a year ago

Bedford

I've been to Libs, Jaydees, Penthouse Playrooms. They are all quite different clubs. Libs- nightclub feel at first, with spacious social areas near the bar and a dance floor; come dressed to impress; however, if you'd like to proceed to play areas, you need to dress down- lockers are provided; wet facilities available.

Penthouse Playrooms: very nightclub feel, with bar area and some sitting facilities; come dressed to impress; no need to dress down anywhere in the club; no wet facilities as yet, there were no lockers last time I went (a few months ago).

Jaydees- quite homely feel, as straight from reception you're going into the kitchen; dance floor and bar on the other side of reception, bring your own alcohol; designated social area with low music so people can talk; plenty of open play areas and lockable rooms; no need to dress down anywhere in the club; massive hot tub.

For all clubs, single men have to secure their place in advance (how? Check each club's website to find out). Some nights, no single men allowed - again, all will be stated on clubs' websites.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Thanks for the insight into the clubs, thats a big help

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Great insight into each one. I think the fact theres a dancefloor puts libs ahead for me haha.

Much aporeciated.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple over a year ago

Bedfordshire

"Great insight into each one. I think the fact theres a dancefloor puts libs ahead for me haha.

Much aporeciated."

There's a dancefloor at JayDees and Penthouse too (both with a pole

)

Penthouse does have lockers now.

Ms x

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By *harAndBryCouple over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford

Profile looks good - a few more pics, some clothed and maybe ONE tasteful dick pic (we do like to see that it's not covered in growths or anything!) would be good.

Clubs - can't offer any advice as tomorrow will be our very first visit to one after doing this for two and a half years! But socials are a good place to start. You might be a bit far for it but we have a fairly regular one near Peterborough - next one is Saturday night.

Messages - main thing is to set realistic expectations, read profiles and only message those that you match with. Make the message specific to them (we can easily spot copy and paste messages) and point out something to make them aware that you've read their profile.

Then realise that couples and single women get far, far more offers than they can possibly accept (we need just 1% of the guys that message us based on the number of messages we get and the number of meets we do) so there's some luck involved in getting in front of the right person at the right time.

(Bry)

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Profile looks good - a few more pics, some clothed and maybe ONE tasteful dick pic (we do like to see that it's not covered in growths or anything!) would be good.

(Bry)"

Thanks for the reply, some really good points here. Im actually fine with messaging as im never sleazy or pushy but the points about the additional profile pics and clubs is well taken. Thank you

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By *itzi999Woman over a year ago

Slough

"Hey guys, so im relatively new to all this and honestly its a bit daunting. Need your help with a couple of things.

If youve made it this far thanks for reading this short essay lol. Any feedback is welcome good or bad or indifferent."

Face pics and a dick pic wanted. All I see at the moment is pics of your torso and nothing else….

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Hey guys, so im relatively new to all this and honestly its a bit daunting. Need your help with a couple of things.

If youve made it this far thanks for reading this short essay lol. Any feedback is welcome good or bad or indifferent.

Face pics and a dick pic wanted. All I see at the moment is pics of your torso and nothing else…."

Thanks for the feedback. Due to the sort of job i do i wont put those on my profile but private messages are a different story i guess.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jaydees is a really friendly club and they really look after newbies. I think this weekend they’re holding a newbie night but they seem to do these monthly anyways. I can’t comment on the other clubs as not been to any of the others yet x

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Use the forum search, it's goldmine of information from all the times these same questions have been asked

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Jaydees is a really friendly club and they really look after newbies. I think this weekend they’re holding a newbie night but they seem to do these monthly anyways. I can’t comment on the other clubs as not been to any of the others yet x"

Thank you for letting me know, will take a look

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Use the forum search, it's goldmine of information from all the times these same questions have been asked

I realised a few hours after i posted this lol. Thank you tho haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Good profile, looks genuine and the pics are good. A few clothed pics would add very well to it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Good profile, looks genuine and the pics are good. A few clothed pics would add very well to it."

Thank you for the feedback. Will look at adding some more pics soon....clothed of course lol

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