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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …"
We suspect your inbox is about Tom e flooded with offers to “escort” you.
You don’t need escorting most clubs will be happy to see you and will make sure that you are looked after. |
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My very first club visit was as alone. I chose to go on an evening that wasn’t too busy so I didn’t feel overwhelmed. I rang and spoke with the club before I went - let them know I was thinking about it and they were lovely explaining everything and that they would look out for me. When I went they made me feel so welcome and I had a great night. When going to another club on another occasion it was the same - the staff look out for you, invite you round the bar to get talking with others and check in on you.
It was nerve wrecking but I was glad I did it
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can vouch for tattooed_vixen showing me the ropes! It’s probably best to go on your own sometimes, so you can do what you want to do and not worry if your friends are ok. I dare you to try it  xx |
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You’ll be fine a woman on her own will make plenty of friends, even us TV’s get treated quite well (mainly on bi nights  ). It’s single guys that often will be left feeling it was a waste of time, if they don’t make the first move and get chatting to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I just started going alone after many years away from the scene.
I’ll agree, it’s nerve wracking, I was sat for a little while on my own but then people started talking to me and I started to relax.
I think everyone sits watching for a little while trying to fathom if you’re alone or not.
I was approached by a single guy (super hot) and went off with him. Many conversations after started with people asking where my partner had gone. People seemed quite surprised I was on my own for some reason. |
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …"
This is how I feel. I'd love to experience the clubs but definitely not brave enough to go alone. |
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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago
North of Oxford |
Clubs are safer than any vanilla night club in our opinion, chams where we frequent has quite a number of single females go. If you went to chams, after the tour by staff (occasionally with a trusted regular) ide say initially sit in the bar and chat to folks then if feeling you want to take a walk round, you will find it's (or most clubs we have visited) a great place even for just the social side and you will find 99% of folks really nice, you can do as much or as little as you want to. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
Phone the club beforehand and have a chat. You should be given a tour by the owner or one of the regulars and they may keep you company until you find your feet.
I like to sit by the bar and smile as people come in. If you sit in a corner looking terrified and not making
eye contact, it's more difficult for people to approach you as they may think you aren't interested or are waiting for someone.
Remember that chatting to someone, doesn't indicate you fancy them and want to dash off to a private room, it's just a chat. There is no pressure to do anything. For a first visit, just plan to check the place out, the layout, the staff, the regulars, the atmosphere so you know what to expect next time.
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …"
A friend of mine does. Actually says it's more straightforward than going along with a random chap, just for the sake of it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …
A friend of mine does. Actually says it's more straightforward than going along with a random chap, just for the sake of it."
I’d never go with someone in the hope that would make it easier. It doesn’t. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Phone the club beforehand and have a chat. You should be given a tour by the owner or one of the regulars and they may keep you company until you find your feet.
I like to sit by the bar and smile as people come in. If you sit in a corner looking terrified and not making
eye contact, it's more difficult for people to approach you as they may think you aren't interested or are waiting for someone.
Remember that chatting to someone, doesn't indicate you fancy them and want to dash off to a private room, it's just a chat. There is no pressure to do anything. For a first visit, just plan to check the place out, the layout, the staff, the regulars, the atmosphere so you know what to expect next time.
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Completely agree - always good to say you’re here for the first time and just looking to socialise. Takes the pressure off immediately and you can ask anyone to tell you how long they’ve been going to the clubs, what are their favourite nights, what’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened etc I enjoy hearing peoples stories! I’m all for hearing a review, next week, after you’ve tried it  |
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …"
Yes, and I love it!!! You get to pick the men you want to be with. The problem with going as a couple is that the other lady has to like your male couple….
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I go on my own to my local club, for their bi night. Love it, it gives me great freedom to interact with whoever I want to interact with. It does help though that I know this club very well, and have friends there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wow!!! You are all sooooo brave! I wasn’t expecting so many woman to have done this!"
If you’re ever up in Leeds, I can meet you for a drink at pandoras or quest. Maybe you’ll do the same for someone one day x |
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"Wow!!! You are all sooooo brave! I wasn’t expecting so many woman to have done this!"
Have you got any particular club in mind?
I am a regular at Jaydees, either on my own or with my partner. We'd be more than happy to "take you under our wings"- we normally do Fridays. We took another lady to the club with us last Friday and she is hooked lol |
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By *atnat85Woman
over a year ago
northwest |
I've been twice by myself to clubs and it's nerve wracking actually getting across the thresh hold. Once there I just stand by the bar and talk to people there. It's nerve wracking but good in the end! |
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"I go to loads of clubs on my own, once you are through the door, it's normally absolutely fine. Smile chat to people and it's like the friendliest night club ever"
Agree. Would have never ventured to a club a couple of years ago. Took the plunge and the nerves lasted about 2 mins. Once through the door most clubs go out of there way to make you feel at home. |
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Once you are inside it’s fine. You’ll meet others and make friends, then once you get to know people you’ll see them at other clubs etc. I treat it as night out, it’s safe, can go with no expectations or pressure. Join in on any threads in the forums for the club nights and get to know others also. X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks so much
. And at the end of the night you just call a taxi and go back to your hotel and you feel safe?"
I drove the second time. Free parking. Take your own alcohol if you want to, at some clubs and buy soft drinks there. I was surprised how many people drove actually! Made it even more relaxed, knowing I could leave whenever I wanted to! But yeah, I’m sure the staff can call you a taxi |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks so much
. And at the end of the night you just call a taxi and go back to your hotel and you feel safe?"
I’ve always felt way safer in a club.
I know chameleons, for one, has cameras covering the car park. They kept an eye on me as I walked to my car and a couple were walking me to it anyhow. |
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I went to a club on my own and I was a bag of nerves! So nervous I couldn't sign my "name" or put my wrist band on! However when I told the hosts I was a single female, first ever club and alone I was looked after so well. Yes you'll be nervous, but you will enjoy it. Let the hosts/owners know you've come by yourself. No pressure to play, enjoy the atmosphere and how friendly everyone is. I have no regrets and I'd do it again! KD xx |
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The majority of clubs are well run with friendly management that make you feel welcome. Especially single ladies. The best clubs are where the guests are social, anything else is where the thrills begin. Be adventurous. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I went to a club on my own and I was a bag of nerves! So nervous I couldn't sign my "name" or put my wrist band on! However when I told the hosts I was a single female, first ever club and alone I was looked after so well. Yes you'll be nervous, but you will enjoy it. Let the hosts/owners know you've come by yourself. No pressure to play, enjoy the atmosphere and how friendly everyone is. I have no regrets and I'd do it again! KD xx"
Bless you! Well done you! You’ve done it now! What did you enjoy about it the most? |
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you will be fine.. Clubs have rules to look after females. you will be perfectly safe.. safer than in a regular pub or club
people will make you welcome and show you around.
Remember you don't have to do anything you don't want to.
Most single men will respect that |
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No need for any woman to go alone . M6 j10 loads of clubs within 10 /15 mins drive and I will accompany you. Chances are you will leave me at some point when you get in the swing of things . I'm here to help xx |
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"No need for any woman to go alone . M6 j10 loads of clubs within 10 /15 mins drive and I will accompany you. Chances are you will leave me at some point when you get in the swing of things . I'm here to help xx"
I would never go to a club with someone I have never met. Done it before, did not end well.
Also, if you are counting on getting the discount on entry prices due to coupling up, most clubs have got a policy that any "couple" coming together has to leave together. Some (minority) even require that you have couple's profile on Fab. |
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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago
Up North |
"No need for any woman to go alone . M6 j10 loads of clubs within 10 /15 mins drive and I will accompany you. Chances are you will leave me at some point when you get in the swing of things . I'm here to help xx"
Allways go alone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I sometimes think it would be nice to have a group of women to attend clubs with!
I agree! I’ve managed to arrange couple of times only and it was a lot fun … definitely less nerve-wrecking  "
I’d go to clubs a lot more often that way. |
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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago
NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts |
Yes I go alone at times. I started going alone. Spoke to an eventer they made me comfortable so I bit the bullet and went and haven't looked back. Sometimes if you want something you just have to do it. |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I can understand why some ladies may feel uncomfortable in going alone as they may feel that some guys maybe to pushy and rude if they say no but there are a lot of respectful guys who do understand that no means no and are non pushy.Also as has been said already if you tell a club it’s your first time attending as a single lady they will look after you and you never know you may meet another single lady there and perhaps you will get on a attend future events together. |
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I've been a few times on my own, tell the staff and you will be well looked after.
A couple of times I've gone in alone and Paul came in later as a single guy and watched me from a distance, quite funny to hear what the guys and couples say when not near you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Any woman go to clubs alone? Any advice? I don’t think I would ever be brave enough but just pondering …"
If you're new to this and curious, then the very best way forward for a single female is to go along to a club.
Remember this - if YOU have to show ID such as driving licence or passport to gain entry, so too does every one else in the club.
Hope that helps. |
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