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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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we are completely new to the swinging scene, she is a bit shy and want to make our first time good. we are starting with socials to see if we click/attraction. |
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Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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she isn't nervous about swinging just a shy person in general and sadly there aren't any swinger clubs near us as definitely would have preferred that. ye neither of us would pressure the other to do something we didn't want to do. |
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"Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx"
Same approach except it was over 4 weeks compared to 18 months  |
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"Our advice is to take slowly and at the pace of the one that’s more nervous about swinging, we started by going to swing clubs and just chat and watch others, then progressed to being watched and slowly onto soft play with others and then finally to full swing swap, all this was over about 18 month period. Don’t rush it, talk to each other, don’t put pressure on anyone, take your time and most importantly both have fun xx"
We did the opposite and dived in at a club which goes to show that we all have a different pace and you need to work out what’s best for you. |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
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My advice would be do it your way. Chat openly to each other, if one goes on line tell or show the other messages etc. Socials are OK, but clubs are also the safest way, especially a friendly one with no pressures which most clubs are.
And importantly don't bother letting fab rule your swinging life, there's lots of lovely, hot couples in the clubs who aren't on line.
And have fun xxxxx  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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CJ's is to far away and after eight is closed as went to try it out and found out that way. have checked the club list and know its reopening just don't know where or when |
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"we are completely new to the swinging scene, she is a bit shy and want to make our first time good. we are starting with socials to see if we click/attraction."
Your best bet would be to attend an organised social where there are lots of people to chat and mingle with. It would be less nerve wracking, and there won't be any pressure (either real or imagined) to go further.
Take it at the pace of the slowest person, you don't want to ruin what you have now by russhing into something one of you isn't comfortable with.
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