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Why meet when not type?
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We've met people at socials, their profiles are all upbeat and seem to be outgoing, friendly and chatty.
Sadly, socially inept is a better description.
That's what's great about socials, quick chat, move on.
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"To be clear i talking about when you know they dont fit what your looking for."
No idea why people would meet if it's clear you don't fit. However we have sometimes met couples who fully understand that I'm straight and have emphasised that the lady is happy to play straight only to find that she's hoping to change my mind. I suspect that what's behind people meeting those who don't fit their criteria, they're hoping to make you fit |
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"After this has happened to me a few times now i have to ask ladies why would you meet with / go on a date with someone who doesnt have the attributes you desire?
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I wouldn’t.
Won’t fuck for the sake of it. If I’m not attracted I’m not interested.
And men who have veris from women they aren’t into in the real world is my biggest turn off lol |
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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago
CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. THE MOORLANDS. BARMOUTH. |
That's why club meets are so good. You can read the profile, look at the pics, send message after message, get all excited, then they approach and immediately realise.....yep it's not gonna happen. That's when hubbs says..."" we will pencil you in, just off for a wander first"". His polite way of thank you, but no thank you, without hurting anyone's feelings  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a lovely drink with someone nearby. I wasn't his type and we just had a drink and wasted two hours in the local.
We were both free and happy that it was a drink X
The social side of fab is as much as play for me. |
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Type is a peculiar word they used.
If they said they didn't find you attractive before the meeting and still found you unattractive at the meeting, it could be even more peculiar
Ask them OP. You had it a lot, I've never had it or heard of anyone who has before |
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"Type is a peculiar word they used.
If they said they didn't find you attractive before the meeting and still found you unattractive at the meeting, it could be even more peculiar
Cheers if i wasnt feeling low enough as it was
Ask them OP. You had it a lot, I've never had it or heard of anyone who has before"
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"After this has happened to me a few times now i have to ask ladies why would you meet with / go on a date with someone who doesnt have the attributes you desire?
I wouldn’t.
Won’t fuck for the sake of it. If I’m not attracted I’m not interested.
And men who have veris from women they aren’t into in the real world is my biggest turn off lol "
I have female friends that are just that and have veri'd them for that reason. Having friends that you don't want to sleep with should not be frowned upon. A little socialising goes along way on here. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
Peterborough |
"I had a lovely drink with someone nearby. I wasn't his type and we just had a drink and wasted two hours in the local.
We were both free and happy that it was a drink X
The social side of fab is as much as play for me. "
Networking: you never know how sexy their friends maybe. |
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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"After this has happened to me a few times now i have to ask ladies why would you meet with / go on a date with someone who doesnt have the attributes you desire?
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A proper date of just a coffee? Some people just like meeting other swingers for a natter, doesn’t always have to be sexual |
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"To be clear i talking about when you know they dont fit what your looking for."
I'm confused, do you mean that the other person has said to you on a date that your not my type or have you said that to the person? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When you have guys who struggle to even get a response from a message on this site, you’ll expect that they will jump on any other of a meeting…… some people appear so desperate that their standards are nonexistent as long as they can get away with a fuck without their life outside of Fabs never crossing paths.
Sad but I do think some people think this site is all about the sex…. If you have that entitlement mindset then you will be very disappointed by the lack of easy sex that you’ll find.
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Few people are going to meet others under the pretence of a possible sexual engagement, if they don't find the other attractive beforehand. They may be uncertain about it, as many of us are, but need the in person meeting to know for sure.
But if they don't find you attractive at all, they could meet for social-only reasons but will typically state this.
Some of us have ideal preferences but will meet others outside of that range, as it may still work.
The best thing to do is to fully clarify objectives for the meeting in advance. If they state that they don't find you attractive, you'll have the choice of declining or accepting the meet offer.
Get to clubs and mix. |
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"We have played in clubs with people who if we’d probably seen on here passed them by and had a great time "
this for me too. It is sometimes the way the person comes across in real life... and/ or the situation itself.
I need much more click with someone if it's just me and 1, maybe 2 guys than I do for group fun.
With couples it's the hardest for me to find the right connection |
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